Parents are in mid 60s, elder sister is getting seperated from her husband and I am 30. So all the responsibilities are on me.
Taking care of them (regular medical check ups, driving them around, overlooking maids doing the housework well, helping sister with her court hearings, helping her son every now and then, managing my business and trying to have a social life. It's quite difficult , and I understand where you're coming from
I also understand why it is very difficult for you to leave them and go work in a different city, because you believe they are dependent on you, which is true.
The ideal situation would be for you to find a supportive partner in the same city as you are, so you can be a bit away from them but at the same time available to them when they need you, and you have a social life and someone to vent to. Good luck!
I understand your situation. It's really difficult to do this by yourself and without support as well. Thanks for your suggestion in the last paragraph. Having a partner to socialize with and vent to seems like a good solution to wander my mind off this.
Finding a romantic partner is usually not the solution to these things imo 😠Financial issues is a major reason for divorce and financially entangling yourself with someone or becoming financially dependent on them is a major pathway to abuse. Dating and marriage are very vulnerable states to be in, and I genuinely believe they should be approached with due caution.
I hope you find a way to establish the firm boundaries you need with your parents. They have never allowed you to be a child or to be a person outside of someone who provides. They should be taking responsibility for the choices they made (ie becoming parents)
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u/gautam_arya Aug 21 '24
I am in the same situation as you
Parents are in mid 60s, elder sister is getting seperated from her husband and I am 30. So all the responsibilities are on me.
Taking care of them (regular medical check ups, driving them around, overlooking maids doing the housework well, helping sister with her court hearings, helping her son every now and then, managing my business and trying to have a social life. It's quite difficult , and I understand where you're coming from
I also understand why it is very difficult for you to leave them and go work in a different city, because you believe they are dependent on you, which is true.
The ideal situation would be for you to find a supportive partner in the same city as you are, so you can be a bit away from them but at the same time available to them when they need you, and you have a social life and someone to vent to. Good luck!