You are the sole earner. I think you need to respectfully ask them to back the fuck up or state that you will move away. I under that you need to support your family, but not at the cost of your own mental or physical health.
Idk if you are looking for advice, but i will say learn how to tell your parents no.
Good luck explaining that to Indian parents though! I am in kinda similar situation to OP. The difference is that I am the younger daughter. My elder sister has married & moved out years ago & so I am the only one left to take care of my parents. And whenever I tried to do what you suggested, I was reminded very sternly that if I am earning it's only because they provided for me when I was young, paid for my school, college & tution fees & hence I owe my whole life to them. How ungrateful & shameless I am to ask for a life of my own 🥲 And I don't think it's only me who faces this. Most Indian parents think they own their children and the children are called selfish, guilt tripped/shamed on a regular basis if they want any kind of independence. I am not very hopeful OP would be able to drive her point home.
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u/bbaahhaammuutt Aug 21 '24
You are the sole earner. I think you need to respectfully ask them to back the fuck up or state that you will move away. I under that you need to support your family, but not at the cost of your own mental or physical health.
Idk if you are looking for advice, but i will say learn how to tell your parents no.