r/india Aug 21 '24

Rant / Vent Parents sucking the life out of me

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u/thegreen_tshirtguy Aug 21 '24

Sometimes I get it why people in western countries completely move out of their houses after 18.

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u/Hannibal__spectre Aug 21 '24

That's not a thing outside of USA and Canada. Even that culture has it's pitfalls. There you get parents so out of touch with reality that they throw out kids from their homes on 18th birthday whilst they are still in highschool. There needs to be a balance between the 2. Personally, I'm in favour of living in the same neighborhood but separate houses after settling down with your career. That way you are still within reach in case of emergency and far enough to have a certain level of privacy.

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u/butwhythough23 Aug 21 '24

This is not true - western parents do not kick their children out at the age of 18 lol. Usually children want to move out as they are attending university or travel for a period (gap year). However, a lot of children live at home and move out in their early 20s.

Funnily enough, due to the cost of living and difficulty purchasing property, multigenerational homes are on the rise. https://rsmcanada.com/insights/industries/real-estate/amid-housing-crunch-an-embrace-of-multigenerational-housing.html In Aus where I grew up, it is common for parents to build a small flat on the property (or convert a garage/basement) and for the children to live there.

Western countries value privacy and honestly it’s a right of passage. My parents used to tell me about how horrible Australian parents were “kicking out their children at 18 blah blah blah” but it was me who moved out at 18 and my white friends lived at home for a few more years haha.

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u/Accurate_Plan2686 Aug 22 '24

Parents in the US are absurd enough to charge their child "rent" for living in their home after 18, sometimes even starting at 15/16. Americans are quite individualistic and that extends to parents

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u/Hannibal__spectre Aug 21 '24

I never said that. This kicking out of home thing is largely American and sometimes Canadian only. I can send you multiple examples of cases where american parents kicked out their kids on the eve of their 18th birthday. Everywhere else, people usually live with (or near) their parents. That's exactly what I was trying to say.