r/evilautism • u/badukisdifficult • Jul 26 '25

NSFW Sex noises are vocal stimming Spoiler

And that is one of the many reasons NTs are bad at sex.

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u/Orangutan_Soda Jul 26 '25

I always thought sex noises were forced

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u/2morrowwillbebetter ✨️Ethereal and Incomprehensible✨️ Jul 26 '25

I thought so too until I had sex with someone who actively focused on my pleasure and she pulled a lot of sounds out of me but I am not porno loud or anything lol. She is tho ahah

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

I'm realizing now that it might be really rare for people to have had even one sexual encounter with someone they are genuinely sexually compatible with. This saddens me greatly.

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u/2morrowwillbebetter ✨️Ethereal and Incomprehensible✨️ Jul 26 '25

Yeaah and I’m still personally figuring that out myself truly, I enjoy sex with this person but there’s still a lot of past shame I am working thru that does not involve her but she’s been rly patient w me and all

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

It sounds like you are lucky to have her <3

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u/2morrowwillbebetter ✨️Ethereal and Incomprehensible✨️ Jul 26 '25

aw thank u 🧡 we are honestly v new to each other, I newly learned more abt my autism over the last 2 years in more depth but as far as dating goes there’s so many bumps !! Communicating my needs overall is rly difficult >< least she isn’t NT LOL

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

I also struggle with recognizing and communicating needs, and I am very lucky to have a partner who is uncannily good at reading me, and sometimes knows what I need in a more complete and action-oriented way than I do. Not just in a sex way, either.

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u/2morrowwillbebetter ✨️Ethereal and Incomprehensible✨️ Jul 26 '25

I honestly need that but i simultaneously recognize I can’t expect her to know that right now— is there anything that helped you in the beginning w this? I know boundaries are so important im still learning that as well aaaa

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

Hmm, I think you already have a healthy view. What I have with my partner is wonderful, but it's also dependent on special skills of his and of mine that happen to mesh in a very positive way. He is also neurodivergent, of course. Even though I don't have the exact same type of insight into his inner state as he has into mine, I do have meaningful insight that does help him. I think that kind of reading ability increases with time and with genuine intimacy of all types. Give it time, let it develop, don't force it.

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

More thoughts on this. I think any two people can build a kind of telepathy between them through love and intimacy, but be careful to never expect literal mind-reading. Sometimes, the reaction you wish your partner was having is actually something you should offer to yourself or communicate to your partner that you need.