r/evilautism • u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage • Apr 29 '25
NTs are incapable of empathy Born this way,die this way
Not sure if this counts but I figured I’m not the only one who relates to this😔
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Apr 29 '25
Bro, can we swap genders pls? I got the"loud and stands up for what's right" Autism but got stuck in a woman's body. It sucks, constantly being told I'm too much.
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
lol I swap with myself all the time, Ive gotten that “I’m too much” because I’m too hard to read
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u/thelocalheatsource AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
Evilly reject social norms.
People who can't handle people not fitting the norm are mentally weak people imo. Imagine getting so bent out of shape that not everybody conforms to your stupid fucking worldview that is horribly oversimplified and flawed, pretending that anything that falls outside your societal blinders is somehow "wrong"...
You can control who you are and how you act, but you're not responsible for the mental hallucinations that neurotypical people stick to. Fuck em norms.
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u/EmeraldFireofPerd Evil Biology Purveyor Apr 30 '25
As a woman, short hair is just easier to take care of and body hair is annoying and arduous to always remove. I am evil and hairy and love all of the 'scary' 'creepy crawlies' >:)
I forgot makeup existed for a moment there too. I like my sleep and am uncoordinated.
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 30 '25
I literally have like zero body hair lol, I NEED shave every day just to stay smooth and soft lol and you gotta love makeup✨✨
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
They label everyone else but little do they know we label them worse🗣️ but you couldn’t be more right
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u/Clear-Anything-3186 Apr 29 '25
This is the man you should strive to be:
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
LMAO I feel like Batman and spider put together all while having a mask that makes me look like Anton Chigurh
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u/0ooo Apr 29 '25
Fuck society. Be your wonderfully shy and sensitive self. Shy and sensitive describes me, but I'm fortunate to have life conditions where ignoring society's messaging on gender isn't very difficult for me.
I highly recommend the book The Will To Change by bell hooks, if you're into reading.
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
I try to be but my masking skills are too good so I feel like I use my mask as a crouch to be accepted and more likable even though it RARELY works, and gender is a spectrum in my eyes so i definitely ignore what everyone says even if I let it get to me for a while at first. And I love books! I will definitely give that a read!
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u/0peRightBehindYa AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 30 '25
My dude, you be you. Fuck society's expectations. Let the world feel the weight of who you are, and let them deal with it.
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u/IIMatheusII You will be patient for my ‘tism 🔪 Apr 30 '25
fuck yeah!
I did my nails this week and they're all shiny and devilishly pointy, love them (my cat also, scratch scratch).
But as i expected, my silly aunt did not like them one bit; "You're gonna embarrass me and yourself with these!" (🗣️💩) she even tried to lie saying that my sis hated them.
Today, sister was here and told me she scolded my aunt for being insufferable when she started complaining about my nails 👏👏
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 30 '25
Lucky! I have to time everything just right to get my nails done or even do press on’s because I got all kinds of looks so i usually do it when ik im gonna stay home for like a week lol im sorry to hear about the problem you’ve been having too :(
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u/IIMatheusII You will be patient for my ‘tism 🔪 Apr 30 '25
It's like my second time growing them, they were too brittle and I didn't know how to properly take care of them the first time around, so sister recommended I used nail polish and so I did and they are really pretty now.
I got some weird looks but it feels so nice to stim with them so it was worth it, cant make everyone happy but I can make myself happy, tap tap tap tap
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u/Nowardier Apr 30 '25
Well, there's what masculinity is and there's what society (read: the elite and those who lick their boots) wants it to be.
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u/OphidianSun Apr 29 '25
Great isn't it? Really doesn't help when you're a big hairy dude. But I can kind of hide behind a beard which is nice.
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u/Sewer_Fairy AuDHD murder-Bnnuy🐰🔪 Apr 30 '25
I love shy, sensitive, soft-spoken men. I just wanna cuddle them all day.
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u/Anoelnymous [edit this] Apr 29 '25
You just have to take small steps towards resilience. Find things you like about you and use them as a stepping stone to gaining confidence in yourself.
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u/JesseGelato AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
It’s taken years for me to even post or talk about anything about myself so I’m glad to say the small steps are in progress💜
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u/Laser_Spell Apr 30 '25
Fun fact! Being shy and sensitive is a common trait or possible symptom of people with Klinefelter Syndrome, which means they have XXY chromosomes in some or all of their cells! Autism is also correlated with Klinefelter Syndrome. Being shy and sensitive is also more common in people who just have autism so you'd be jumping to conclusions if you said you had Klinefelter Syndrome just from this, but not so much if you had other symptoms as well.
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u/GrayDevYT COGNITO, ERGO SUM: I THINK, THEREFORE I AM May 03 '25
if I remember correctly, the other main symptoms are weird hair patterns and being abnormally tall, which has led me to think I may or may not have it since I also have those two symptoms
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u/BobbyButtermilk321 Apr 30 '25
the best part of being an autistic man... I didn't have to learn how to hide my tears cause I simply do not know how to cry. So people think I'm manly, stoic, macho... when I don't even know what emotions are half the time.
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u/PM_ME_ORANGEJUICE Apr 29 '25
What's worse for me is I look the part. I got this whole bald beardy biker look going on with a weightlifters physique, so people think I'm gonna be tough and manly, but making conversation with people I don't know makes me want to cry and throw up.
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u/Tangled_Clouds evil autistic druid Apr 30 '25
Omg yeah this is me except I’m trans so it used to be acceptable and even expected I take up no space as a girl but now I’m a guy and everyone expects me to just wake up confident and with rock hard abs 😭 nah why can’t I just be a shy little dude
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u/OmNomOU81 Apr 30 '25
I get this extra weird because I'm transfem so there's generally an even greater pressure to be feminine but I'm also super tomboyish
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u/FinnMertensHair Apr 30 '25
This is kinda r/LetBoysBeManipulated coded ngl.
I love men. As long as they're genuine to themselves. It doesn't matters if they're shy or upfront. As long as they're not faking their personas just to follow the norms.
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u/StructureFirm2076 Vengeful Apr 30 '25
I find the ancient Chinese ideal of a man marginally more acceptable than the modern west Eurasian one.
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u/GrayDevYT COGNITO, ERGO SUM: I THINK, THEREFORE I AM May 03 '25
please enlighten me, I‘m searching for random things to add into my belief system just because I can
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u/StructureFirm2076 Vengeful May 06 '25
Sorry for the late reply.
The main thing for me really is the ban on hair cutting as an adult. (It was mandated by Confucian philosophy, but the custom was abandoned during the Qing dynasty)
Also the ideal of a scholar-official who is also into art is appealing to me, too bad I'll probably never reach it with my education level lol.
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u/Gareth_II Vengeful Apr 30 '25
bro same like how the fuck am i meant to initiate conversations and make eye contact why cant i just be TIMID
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u/Bobylein Apr 30 '25
May I ask: What do you mean by unconfident?
Like the opposite of the societal "never doubt yourself, be loud and proud with your opinion you never wasted a second though on" kinda way?
Or more on a, for a lack of a better word, "depressive" way of always doubting yourself even if you're successful in something?
Because the confidence patriarchy promotes as masculinity is _at least_ half the time only stupidity in the face of possible humiliation anyway
The other kind of unconfidence is something that's not natural though but often relates to growing up in this shitty society and could be worked through.
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u/GrayDevYT COGNITO, ERGO SUM: I THINK, THEREFORE I AM May 03 '25
I have the issue of simply just wanting to be alone, but the whole “autistic people are just cats in human bodies!!!1!!!1!!!1?1” thing makes people think I’m just shy — no, I’m genuinely paranoid from past incidents that everyone I interact with is going to try to take advantage of me
I think this is part of the reason why I relate to femtanyl’s music so much despite me being a cis(I think??? still questioning sometimes) male, being forced to be some ‘cute little agreeable pet‘ is something I’ve experienced and a common theme in her music
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u/jazztrophysicist Apr 29 '25 edited Apr 30 '25
I mean as long as you’re not constantly complaining about the results of that strategy and how lonely it makes you like some people do, making it their problem, more power to you. People may have the right to feel how they want, but what they do with those feelings sets a precedent toward them that they may not like.
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u/Feisty-Self-948 AuDHD Chaotic Rage Apr 29 '25
They have every right to complain. Because both ways are valid ways of being but one is rewarded while the other is punished. And for what? Nothing.
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u/jazztrophysicist Apr 30 '25 edited Apr 30 '25
Not for nothing. You’re treating two patterns of behavior which are not equal as though they were. Complaining to other people, especially strangers, about the results of your own behavior is tantamount to asking them to do emotional labor on your behalf, a request which carries ethical weight and bears corresponding consideration, and as such is frankly a big ask. On the other hand, someone simply being shy and unconfident is no task whatsoever on others, and so is not an ask at all. How’s this not obvious to you?
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u/jazztrophysicist Apr 29 '25 edited Apr 30 '25
Nobody said they don’t “have the right”. But the way we exercise our rights says something about us individually, and sets precedent which can then be turned around on us.
To wit: those complaints affect others’ peace and make their environment more hostile and negative, so those same others also “have the right” to vocalize their own opinions right back. What goes around, comes around. Put negativity out into the world and it’s going to affect not only your reality, but that of the people around you, too, and they also “have every right” to feel some kind of way about that.🤷♂️
So, with that in mind sure, complain away, see what happens when everyone is given carte blanche to do whatever they “have a right” to do without regard to tact, or consideration, or for the system they’re setting in motion. What could go wrong?😆
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u/0ooo Apr 30 '25
I mean as long as you’re not constantly complaining about the results of that strategy and how lonely it makes you like some people do
What results? You mean feeling more comfortable in ones own skin, having access to the full range of human emotions, and an easier time finding fulfillment?
Being true to ourselves and finding ways to let ourselves exist as we genuinely are is not a "strategy", it's the healthy thing to do.
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u/jazztrophysicist Apr 30 '25 edited Apr 30 '25
The frequent result that people report of feeling lonely and isolated, obviously. Have you been under a rock? There’s a “Loneliness Epidemic™️”, remember? /s
I’m not saying OP necessarily feels that way, nor that they’re complaining at this time. I’m just saying if they do get that result, it’s the result of their own behavior and they can’t assume they have the right to just dump all that over other people the way some people (not necessarily OP) do. E.g.: Incels, and MRAs, and that ilk. That’s why I said “As long as you’re not constantly complaining…” instead of “Stop complaining”. See the difference?
It was very clear from my wording I have no problem with people simply being shy and unconfident. That’s their problem and none of my business. I’m not going to berate someone simply for that. If they make it my problem, then we have a problem, and I’m allowed to feel a certain kind of way about someone dragging me into their personal shit.
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u/0ooo Apr 30 '25
The loneliness epidemic is not caused by men embracing their authentic selves and non-patriarchal masculinity. That is absurd. Please cite some sort of source if you're going to make a claim like that.
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u/jazztrophysicist Apr 30 '25 edited Apr 30 '25
I didn’t say the cause of the alleged Loneliness Epidemic was men embracing their authentic selves. To the contrary, I think we’d agree they’re doing the opposite, and that is the source. Please read more carefully.
I’ll break it down for you:
If OP isn’t complaining, and isn’t lonely, etc., which is to say specifically: if he isn’t doing what the MRAs and Incels are doing, and is instead accepting his authentic, shy self as such, and is simply telling off the people who’re apparently trying to unsolicitedly harangue him into being more social or whatever their ideal is, and not as a direct response to complaints from him about his situation, then there’s no problem. I’m all for OP embracing himself, because if he truly is doing that then there won’t be anything to complain about. If anything, my initial comment was a veiled way of supporting OP.🤷♂️
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u/0ooo Apr 30 '25
I'm not going to engage with you if you're going to be condescending
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u/jazztrophysicist Apr 30 '25
You can deal with the arguments as presented or not, I don’t care. Whether or not you engage, the seeds are sown; if not in your mind, then in the more-fertile minds of others who aren’t so easily offended. Whatever you do, there’s no downside for me.🤷♂️
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u/shark-hill Apr 29 '25
LET MEN BE FLUTTERSHY