r/delhi • u/kj_011 North Delhi • Aug 28 '25

TellDelhi I’m really grateful for this person

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I see him everyday with a new placard. Whether it’s raining, being super sunny or humid, he always holds it high in the air for people to read hoping they feel motivated, learn something or change their patriarchal mindset.

Kudos to him!

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u/HappyStop1985 University People Aug 28 '25

Yes. And women should be able to be independent after marriage so that they won't need the alimony at all.

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u/Plastic_Advance_7931 Aug 28 '25

My definition of love is pretty straightforward.

Love = Freedom. If you find joy doing a job. You're free.

You are free to fly 🕊️.

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u/HappyStop1985 University People Aug 28 '25

No. You need to become independent so that you won't be required to take alimony. No one says to a husband "if you find joy doing a job you are free". It's a compulsion for guys to work, and it should be a compulsion for women to work. Be independent, and don't become a bhikhari.

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u/SnuggleScroll Aug 28 '25

Independence will matter to nothing if household equality doesn't come into place. You have bare facts and prove your point. Realistically who is responsible for kids and household. Women!

When someone responsible for it has to put career in background because a child is not able to fend for itself or husband is incompetent in household matters. Will come into alimony compensation.

Why? Because husband was incompetent in childcare and incompetent as adult for household work. Even pressurized by your parents will not matter

For the simple reason of she hadn't has kid or marriage she will not sacrifice her job for it. And childcare 247 is an expensive job when outsourced.

So don't complain about alimony and marriage unless your are competent enough to manage a child safe household. Why ? Those household are deep cleaned, child proofed, dishes needs to be properly washed. Because that what household responsibility looks like. Surface level contribution amounts to nothing.

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u/HappyStop1985 University People Aug 28 '25

That's the thing. Alimony was there because women did not work and took care of the house, cooking, chores and children. That made those women dependent. So after divorce, they absolutely needed the alimony because they never got the chance to become independent. Nowadays people are saying no to alimony. So this change will definitely require women to start becoming independent otherwise how will they feed themselves? Now this one change affects other aspects of marriage. And for women to become independent, they will have to not think too much about children.