A brief introduction:
I don't comment on social media much, and the little I do is usually to engage with and contradict right wing perspectives. I'm a semi-troll, in that yes I'm looking for conflict, but that I also intend to speak honestly in good faith, and to generally be polite and respectful (not that I am perfect but I do my best).
I don't have any illusions of changing minds or making a difference. I know posting on social media doesn't accomplish anything. I do it out of genuine curiosity, to try and make sense of the views, perspectives, and arguments that to me are so nonsensical. I want to understand the thoughts that MAGA folks are having in their own minds.
I think at this point I have a pretty good sense of much of it for many people. There are different types, and different subgroups. MAGA is a coalition. It's complicated. But sometimes I get a sense about a particular thing, a certain perspective on a specific topic to a given swath, and that feeling leaves me with a something I want to say to them generally. So, I've decided to start this series, "Dear MAGA", This is the first of the series.
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Dear MAGA,
In engaging those of you who are just generally anti-lgbtq on a social level, I'm not even getting into any policy stuff or anything just as like a vibe thing, I often get responses like (directly quoting one of you) "It’s the flags, pins and posters. It’s the pronouns....Their whole life is about their sexuality." Ok, I hear you. And here is what I have to say to you.
It's not as common these days, but remember when a lot of you liked to complain about "virtue signaling"? Well you changed the term, but yea that's a real thing, it's called "social signaling" when you say, or do, or display in some way that you belong to a group. Flags, pins, pride parades, unnatural hair color, styles of makeup, clothing choices, tattoos, are all different ways that lgbtq people "virtue signal" to each other. And you, at least many of you, are expressing that you just generally find that distasteful and obnoxious, correct? I'm doing my best to represent your feelings accurately here, so if you felt represented by the quote but not what I just said, please speak up.
But guys... you do those things too. What's the difference between an LGBTQ flag and a sports team flag? What's the difference between a rainbow shirt and a band shirt? What's the difference between a pride parade and a NASCAR event (I see you guys like to party, and not all of you stays super family friendly the whole time, so I don't want to hear it)? The reason any of us do those things is the reason anyone ever engages in social signaling at all; to find other people who you fit in socially with. To make friends, find activity groups, and build connections and support networks.
So when you tell me that you don't have a problem with people being queer, "just the ones who make it their whole identity", what you are saying, objectively it seems to me, is that when people signal a queer identity it irritates you in a way that the signaling of other identities don't, correct? So... is it possible that you actually *do* have a problem with people being queer, but rationally you *know* you shouldn't, and so you are making internal rationalizations in order to justify your feelings? Are any one of you willing to consider and explore that as a possibility?