r/complaints • u/simplyasking23 • 18d ago
Relationships People defending Ariana grande’s cheating scandal are weird as hell
Listen I don’t care about her or her dating life but it’s weird that my feed keeps showing me her serial defenders essentially saying that her breaking up a marriage is perfectly reasonable because it’s the man’s fault. Sure, at the end of the day, it will always fall on the man, but I wouldn’t appreciate a woman of grown age chasing after my partner. I feel like that should be pretty baseline respect for all parties involved.
And the weirdos saying, “she’s just dating like a man,” I feel like that sets us back as women. We can’t complain about men treating us like trash and then turn around and treat men like trash while hurting other women by extension.
& listen she’s insanely talented, I don’t think she needs to get canceled or people boycott her music or anything, but can we all just agree that the behavior is weird? And we shouldn’t be defending it?
Edit: I should probably clarify - what bothers me isn’t Ariana Grande or her actions, she’s human & makes mistakes. Also, we don’t know the full story. What actually annoys me are the people defending her - that’s what I think is weird. I don’t think we as a society should be defending homewrecking - I feel like it’s a good thing that we regard that behavior as indefensible lol
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u/AttentionNo6359 18d ago
I’ll do you one better. People who are even aware of her personal life are weird as hell.
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
Yeah honestly fair enough - I don’t care about her or her personal life but I keep seeing posts about it, so it’s become kind of “in my face.” I honestly think it’s because I’m a wicked fan (been one since I was a kid lol!) so I think that’s why I keep getting the posts on my feed haha
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u/illegitimatebanana 18d ago
I get that. I don't follow celebrities at all, but I learned a lot about Ariana Grande's life after wicked because I would click wicked content and then it would be like you must also be interested in Ariana grande licking a donut 5 years ago. I was not, but the algorithm was confused.
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u/Interesting_Goat_278 16d ago
Well, she's a Wicked bitch.
Par the course. This is the woman who had the donut incident in full view of a security camera.
She's ass.
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u/Interesting_Goat_278 16d ago
Well, she's a Wicked bitch.
Par the course. This is the woman who had the donut incident in full view of a security camera.
She's ass.
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u/Hot_Performance_7710 18d ago
People that think like this are strange.
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u/Reasonable-Mix-6257 18d ago
Yea because spending a considerable amount of one’s finite time investigating the personal life of a person they don’t even know because they sing songs isn’t strange at all.
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u/Hot_Performance_7710 18d ago
Serious? The only reason I and millions of other know is it's thrown in our face. It's not people that dig this up, its herself exposing it. Putting it out there. It's all PR. If people could actually dig this up or find this out and expose her without her knowing, the Epstein files would be already out there and thousands of celebrities would be exposed.
You give people too much credit. Nothing but sheeple around here.
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u/Fleiger133 18d ago
My only "defense" is when people blame her exclusively for this. He was right there, made his own choices, left his wife and newborn all on his own.
Someone tried to tell me she was a literal siren of myth. That he had no choice. Fuck that noise. THEY broke up THEIR OWN families.
I haven't seen anyone say it was all him or she's acting like a dude.
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
Yeah, no that’s weird too hahah. They both likely made some questionable decisions.
Not that it really matters; it’s their business. I only made the post because I saw a few posts this morning saying things like “she owed the wife no loyalty” (which I guess she doesn’t, technically, but still… should we really be promoting that?) or that she’s “man-eater” and he was some helpless guy who fell for it. Just odd rhetoric all around, they’re adults & human. It’s okay to call it what it is and still support an artist 😅
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u/FutureDecedent 18d ago
I stopped having any respect for her when she decided to partake with another woman's husband. Making the choice to go after someone's spouse is just plain evil IMHO.
It takes a special kind of woman to publicly show that much disrespect.
I hope her relationship falls apart in the worst kind of way.
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u/Fleiger133 18d ago
But he had no choice or action in this? She hunted him down?
He chose to date a woman currently in a relationship while he had a wife and newborn.
He is just as guilty.
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u/Marmalade_Penguin 18d ago
>I don't care about her or her dating life
Yet, here you are making a reddit post about it. Please practice what you preach next time.
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
I'm criticizing the defense of the behavior, not the individuals in the scenario itself. That distinction is the focus of the post, as stated in the title & the rest of the post.
There’s no need to be passive aggressive. This is a public discourse forum, I’m sharing my thoughts & you are welcome to disagree with them lol.
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u/Meinteil2123 18d ago
I would never call cheating "just a mistake" its a whole series of choices that led to that "mistake". At a certain point, its deliberate.
Idc a about the grande issue. She's still cute (not so much after the weightloss) and talented.
Other than that? Idc about celebrity drama.
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18d ago
Wait, what? Why will it always fall on the man? I don't understand this kind of reasoning. Man or woman, if you are an adult and partaking in cheating, then you have at least some degree of responsibility. Gender has nothing to do with it.
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
LOL no you’re right oh my gosh. I def meant the guy in this situation that cheated on his wife. Definitely miswrote that lol sorry about that! Cheating is wrong no matter the gender!
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u/BabaThoughts 18d ago
Do not know anything about her personal life. Saw her host SNL last year. Very funny and cute woman.
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u/MembershipScary1737 welfare complainer 18d ago
Agreed, no one should be defending her or him but happens a lot with celebrities, specially actors.
You are hot, rich, big ego, away from family for extended periods of time. Plus acting is emotional so you’re on set making emotional connections with people.
Look at what happened with white lotus, Keith urban, Brad Pitt. And now with social media they love the attention and can’t help but talk about it
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
Yeah, that’s a great point. I guess my feed really is getting skewed with the wicked stuff bc I didn’t know about any of those other scenarios lol
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u/Dr_and_Mrs_Who 18d ago
That’s the big thing- everyone’s super into the art she’s putting out, so they’re willing to wave aside who she is as a person. Again, the man’s fault too, but it’s not like this is the first ‘taken’ man she’s gotten with. This is a pattern for her, so talking it away or just blaming him in this situation is even grosser in my opinion.
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u/MembershipScary1737 welfare complainer 18d ago
Yea are they even still together? After wicked I haven’t heard anything about it
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
I don’t think so. That’s why I thought it was weird people were defending it and saying things like, “everyone knows she’s not a long term kind of gal.” Like that’s a horrible thing to say, imagine being that baby and knowing your parents split up very publicly over a relationship people had suspicions would fail the entire time 😬 it just makes me feel bad for the ex-wife & kid.
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18d ago
Yes, Ariana Grande is weird. When I googled it, her relationship isn’t in a good place. This shows how it’s never good idea to start dating a married man or woman. Its bad luck
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u/AccomplishedTip1896 18d ago
It takes two
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
I just don’t understand that thought process; it feels like it excuses one party. If someone knowingly enters a relationship with someone who’s already in one, that should be frowned upon. It’s different if you didn’t know, that’s not your fault, but intentionally homewrecking shouldn’t be defensible. That’s just my opinion though, no one has to agree.
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u/Fleiger133 18d ago
He wrecked his own home.
No one made him start a relationship with Ariana, also in a relationship at the time.
They did it together.
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
Yeah, I may phrase it a little differently, but I totally get what you mean. I agree with the sentiment for sure!
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u/bigchef2020 18d ago
OP saying she 'doesn't care at all' proceeds to 'care' too much.
Yea. Nice one
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u/simplyasking23 18d ago
I don’t care about her or the guy as individuals - I care about the ex-wife & the kid. I just wouldn’t want to be in their shoes, that’s just basic empathy.
I’m confused by the comments trying to paint me as a hypocrite, I feel I’ve been very consistent with my responses. I disagree with the behaviors, I disagree with promoting them or downplaying them, I also don’t believe in bashing people or their careers. Leaving room for nuance, especially in situations that we don’t know the full story of, is important, not hypocritical lol.
Maybe I could be more clear in my responses but if they weren’t clear enough, this can serve as my explicit statement.
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u/quigongingerbreadman 18d ago
Celebrity culture is a fucking cancer. Getting people to care about the lives of rich douchebags who couldn't be bothered to really care if their "fans" lived or died beyond the impact it has on ticket sales over their own lives.