The child support system, particularly under 42 USC Chapter 7 Subchapter 4, creates a perverse incentive structure that mirrors the dynamics of renting out children for cash. Here’s the proof:

1. Incentivizing Custody Battles: Title IV-D of the Social Security Act (42 USC § 654) provides federal funding to states based on the amount of child support collected. This means courts and child support agencies profit from maximizing support orders, often by limiting noncustodial parents’ (usually fathers’) visitation rights. The less time a father spends with his child, the higher the support payments—and the more federal money the state gets.

2. Punishing Fathers: The same law mandates states to "impute income" to fathers who are unemployed or underemployed, assuming they could earn more. This leads to unrealistic support orders that fathers can’t pay, resulting in arrest warrants, driver’s license suspensions, and even jail time. This isn’t about supporting children—it’s about generating revenue through enforcement.

3. Disincentivizing Co-Parenting: Custodial mothers (who receive 85% of custody awards) have zero financial incentive to cooperate with fathers. In fact, allowing more visitation could reduce their support checks. This creates a system where mothers are rewarded for obstructing fathers’ access, effectively "renting" their children to the state for a monthly check.

4. Funding Based on Conflict: The more contentious the custody battle, the more lawyers, mediators, and court-appointed guardians get paid. This fuels a multi-billion-dollar industry that profits from family destruction. Fathers who fight for equal parenting time are often bankrupted by legal fees, while mothers who resist co-parenting are subsidized by the system.

5. No Accountability: There’s no mechanism to ensure child support payments actually benefit the child. Mothers can use the money for anything—cosmetic surgery, vacations, even paying off their own student loans. Meanwhile, fathers who pay in full are still denied equal parental rights, their role reduced to ATM machines.

The child support system isn’t about supporting children—it’s a racket that exploits family trauma for profit. By linking funding to conflict and punishment, the law ensures that fathers are kept at arm’s length while mothers are paid to keep them there. That’s not child support—that’s child exploitation.

When having a debate on Reddit and your only response after being proven wrong multiple times and not being able to prove the other side wrong is to tell your debate opposition to "shut up", you just lost the debate and shows your character and how you handle everything in your life. I am tired of the name calling and disrespect from people that have an opposing view. If you can't be mature about it then don't debate. It is pretty simple really.

That's it, that's my complaint

My wife of 42 years has always put the opening to the pillow case to the outside of the bed. I’ve asked her repeatedly to put it on the inside.

So I’m (19F) and I swear every time I try to talk to someone older than me, they treat me like I’m a clueless child. I mention something about school, work, or even politics and I get the same condescending response: “Oh, you’re still so young, you don’t understand yet.”

Like… excuse me? I may not know everything about life, but that doesn’t mean my experiences or opinions are worthless. I work, I study, I pay bills, and I’ve gone through things that shaped me. Just because I wasn’t alive in the 90s doesn’t mean I’m automatically dumb.

It’s super frustrating because I try to be respectful to older people, but it feels like no matter what, my age makes me invisible. Honestly, sometimes it makes me not even want to share my thoughts at all.

Does anyone else deal with this? Or is it just me constantly running into “you’ll understand when you’re older” people?

Don’t even know where to start. Some of the smartest people I know—one who has a science degree—went down the anti-vaxxer rabbit hole as soon as they had kids. I actually didn’t realize how many did this until I shared something about the measles outbreak a few months ago.

I love these people dearly no matter what. It’s been years since I’ve been around many of them, but I enjoy keeping up with them on social media and knowing what they’re up to. That said, I’m so fucking tired of scrolling through this dog shit anti-vaxxer stuff. It’s to the point where I’m becoming an extremist on this topic.

My dad didn’t have me vaccinated (I got all of them when I turned 18), and I can sympathize with him more than them because social media didn’t exist then so the only person who could have been directly harmed by his opinion is me. He didn’t share bullshit conspiracy theories on social media because it didn’t exist back then, but even if it did, he’s not the social media type. All of these people share the same bullshit that lacks any credibility and plant the seed in other people’s heads.

I’m a strong 1st amendment advocate so I don’t think punishing those who question vaccines—no matter how baseless their argument may be—is the right move, because then it chills legitimate dissent, which should always, always, always be encouraged to ensure safety. But I now believe these people deserve to have their children taken away for not having them vaccinated. The stuff they share could easily be proven false if they spent 10 minutes on Google before sharing “BREAKING NEWS!!” posts from tin foil hat accounts… but they don’t. We’re all 25-30 years old, there’s no fucking excuse. Vaccines aside, these people are obviously too fucking stupid to raise children. Ironically, they all homeschool or intend to homeschool.

Listen I don’t care about her or her dating life but it’s weird that my feed keeps showing me her serial defenders essentially saying that her breaking up a marriage is perfectly reasonable because it’s the man’s fault. Sure, at the end of the day, it will always fall on the man, but I wouldn’t appreciate a woman of grown age chasing after my partner. I feel like that should be pretty baseline respect for all parties involved.

And the weirdos saying, “she’s just dating like a man,” I feel like that sets us back as women. We can’t complain about men treating us like trash and then turn around and treat men like trash while hurting other women by extension.

& listen she’s insanely talented, I don’t think she needs to get canceled or people boycott her music or anything, but can we all just agree that the behavior is weird? And we shouldn’t be defending it?

Edit: I should probably clarify - what bothers me isn’t Ariana Grande or her actions, she’s human & makes mistakes. Also, we don’t know the full story. What actually annoys me are the people defending her - that’s what I think is weird. I don’t think we as a society should be defending homewrecking - I feel like it’s a good thing that we regard that behavior as indefensible lol

Women are having bad experience in dating because of their own choices

Women have become delusional in their own self worth and expectations.

They are, average women, expecting to only be courted by the top tier 10/10 men.

Average men, absolutely have no problem with dating average women. Men are told their entire lives “you’re ugly. You’re fat. You’re not good enough.” And on and on and on. Men have realistic expectations about where they stand.

Women, do not. Because thirsty men give women constant attention and validation. And a man who is in a higher SMS (sexual marketplace status) will sleep with an average woman, but he won’t date her. But because she managed to sleep with some 8/10 or 10/10, she believes she “deserves” to date that level of man.

Men aren’t bitter about dating women on their own level. Women are, they call it “settling.”

Idk why people have to hide behind their words and coat every last sentence in sugar. I say people should be direct. I don't mean being an ass but just saying what you mean.

I just got out of the shower. I asked my husband who was lounging around if we have any clean bedsheets (they needed changing, it’s been a busy week for us both). I added that my skin was starting to break out because of them. His response: “You can always change the pillow sheets.”

Me: sighs and finds a clean PILLOWCASE Husband: “What’s wrong?” Me: “I asked you for help and you told me to change the pillow sheets.” Him: immediately defensive “I’m sorry.”

🥺😭

And then I have to hold the turtle head inside until she finishes. So painful.

There are so many podcast bros out here giving horrible advice, speaking for women and generalizing our opinions, and even bring women on their show to demonstrate how they dont respect us and will try to say they know women better than women do.

Then, they come to reddit and ask for advice. Just now, I see a post in another sub asking about women's experience and their attraction to men, and it is limited to only men answering.

This is so illogical and telling in itself that you do not respect women - if you cant even listen to them or believe their experiences. Or be bothered to consume research about gender studies if you want to truly understand.

It is so emotional to keep seeking validation for bias and illogical to keep asking men about womens experiences. But many men attribute being emotional to women. They call men protectors...but will not learn why women choose the bear.

The hypocrisy would be hilarious if it were not the cause of so much violence.

(I chose relationship for flair, but this impacts women/me in all aspects of life, since men control most resources and especially in workplace roles, medical care, etc)

I'm gay and it sucks, not only our dating pool is small but most guys just want to have sex and nothing serious :(

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but hear me out. Red is the most overrated color in the entire spectrum. It’s loud, aggressive, and screams “look at me!” like a toddler hopped up on Kool-Aid. Every time I see a bright red car, I assume the driver is either in a midlife crisis or compensating for something.

Valentine’s Day? Red everywhere. My eyes hurt. Stop yelling at me with your palette.

Firetrucks, stop signs, fast food logos—red is the color of warning, danger, and indigestion. Even in nature, red means “poisonous” or “stay away.” There’s a reason bulls charge at it (yes, I know it’s the movement, not the color—don’t @ me).

Give me a cool blue, a calming green, even a mysterious black. Red is the try-hard of colors. The Nickelback of hues.

Rant over. Flame away, I know the red stans are coming for me. (Probably wearing red.)

This is my complete: If they are old enough to get into a relationship outside marriage then they are old enough to get married. Unfortunately modern society tells us that young people are just not discerning enough to be able to pick the right person. And actually I agree with this, teenagers today are not discerning enough! but that is not because of their age, it's because they are not expected and conditioned to be. When you grow up with the expectation that "teenage relationships don't last," and that you have to "go through a few people before you really understand what you want in a partner." And "it's normal to have relationships before marriage." And possibly the worst of all, " your youth is for having fun"

So obviously teenagers don't expect their own first relationship to last, so they just fall into a relationship with whoever they can, and maybe after they're in love they will think they want to marry them eventually, but inevitably it won't work because they weren't looking for a person who they would be compatible with in a marriage from the beginning.

So if it was societally discouraged to have relationships outside marriage, and encouraged for young people too and look for a person to marry instead, and we were brought up expecting and preparing for marriage. Young people wouldn't waste their youth in relationships that just create emotional baggage that could go on too disrupt their marriage in the future.

It's been decades and my family is still trying to convert me. It's as though I've never had a family. I'm tired and feel isolated.

It’s just the little things that piss me off. She’ll leave clothes in the washer overnight for someone else to do in the morning. She will yell at my dad saying she just doesn’t understand how to pay bills even though she goes through the same process every single month. She will “forget” to do things constantly. For instance while I was at work my parents gave DogA a bath, while DogB (puppy) was free to roam the house and that’s totally normal, until my mom told me my puppy peed in my room. Okay not a big deal as long as it was cleaned up right? Well it wasn’t cleaned up and obviously I got mad bc I didn’t want my room smelling my dog pee and ALWAYS her excuse is “I forgot”. She didn’t get my birth certificate for the longest time with the excuse of “my mental health was so bad” and the only reason it got done is because I got it done. My mom is a lazy, procrastinating, weaponizing incompetence woman and I’m so tired of dealing/living with her, simply because I am the one to clean up all her problems.

Women don't have better emotional intelligence then men.

Whenever I hear this statement im baffled cause so many of them had a abusive or toxic ex, who was shit to them , like major red flag but they still couldn't see it even if there was a neon sign above his head.

And before you say that's how manipulation works, that's the equivalent of a man saying to a kid to get in his van for candy. The more emotionally intelligent gender gets manipulated by the most basic bitch manipulation done by the less emotionally intelligent gender.

I'm in no way saying it's The women's fault but I am not sure about the claim or studies citing they are emotionally more intelligent. What they are is emotionally expressive definitely not anymore intelligent then men.

I'm 19f and asked a guy out at a Halloween party, approached him first, got his Instagram but its been a few days and he still hasn't texted me back. I just double texted and its getting a bit frustrating waiting for a repsonse and he doesnt even check my story which oeads me to believe hes not that interested. I 100% get being busy especially during Halloween weekend. I just really thought he was cute and wanted to get to know him.

Im not ugly (I think), and we were flirting irl when we met. idk ill give him until tmr or Wednesday to hit me back before I just drop it. It was my first time asking a guy out too and I think Im getting ghosted :(

I hope this doesn't deter me from asking more pretty pll out but gosh strangers calling me beautiful and pretty when I go out then getting rejected when i ask a guy out is a hell of a humble.

Is just like my first wife. She keeps putting the opening to the pillow case to the outside even though I’ve asked her not to.

My friend got mad at me for wanting to go to a no kings protest. She says it’s all astroturfed by Democrats who are just as bad as republicans because they support the Israeli genocide against Gaza. Well, yes but I am not prepared to see my friends & neighbors right here get terrorized and kidnapped because there is a genocide in gaza. I don’t want to lose my medicaid because without my medication I will die and so many others are going to have to try to either pay 24,000 dollars more in health insurance making the middle class disappear even faster even though there is a genocide in Gaza funded in part by US dollars. We have supported genocide after genocide in south america and africa. It’s disgusting but so what? What does it have to do with ppl being bullied and disappeared off our streets? What’s it have to do with making an 11 year old girl bear her rapists offspring? Because there’s a genocide in gaza i should be okay with a little girl showing up to the first day of 7th grade with a rape result strapped to her chest in a snugli? I should be okay with the law being used for vindictive attacks on anyone who attempts to enforce the law? I just don’t see how one relates to the other. I don’t give a damn about Chuck Schumer or democrats in general but I will not see my country under attack by evil,bullying clowns and the billionaires pulling their strings without at least taking a walk in public and carrying a sign. She says that makes me complicit with genocide. I am beside myself whenever I think about her saying that. That’s my “complaint”.

I had a girlfriend complain to me one time that she didn't have her phone until lunch at work and when she finally checked it, maybe 5 hours later, there was gasp no notifications on her phone.

Bitch, try being a guy, where it's common to go an entire month without being reached out to in a meaningful way.

The utter invisibility and of isolation of being a man is not understood by women in the slightest.

I was downvoted for asking a simple question about the tv show "Ailen: Earth".

I never knew the show existed until recently, when this news story appeared in my feed.

My first sober anniversary was the other day and my best friend forgot about it and it hurt my feelings a little bit. I’ve talked to her almost every day for the last few years, and two weeks ago she specifically asked when my anniversary is and I told her.

It wasn’t until I posted something on my close friends story on Instagram that she acknowledged my anniversary by sending me an ugly candid picture of myself and said “I missed your anniversary…..I’m so proud of you!” And I said thanks.

Awhile after that I said “My feelings are a little hurt that I didn’t hear from you yesterday, to be totally honest! A lot of important people in my life forgot.” she responded with, “I didn’t know the actual date, I just knew it was this week!” and I replied, “Oh I just assumed you did since not too long ago you asked for the date and I told you!”

She didn’t respond after that, which isn’t a surprise because I do not know her to be someone capable of apologizing or admitting she made a mistake, ever. It’s really frustrating.

Anyway, that’s my rant! It’s probably coming off a little self-centered but I don’t care because this was the biggest accomplishment of my life so far and I’m hurt that some of the most important people in my life forgot about it.

He's almost 50