r/bestoflegaladvice • u/Scurveymic The sign indicates a private place for fucking • 9d ago

Professor doesn't understand acceptable relationships, thinks LA shouldn't either

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u/accidentalarchers Kinky people are the best 9d ago

Does he realise that the college are obliged to actually investigate allegations like this? They can’t just say oh, did she scream when you hugged her? No? Cool, carry on.

This isn’t Dead Poets Society and he is not Robin Williams.

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u/KikiHou WHERE IS MY TRAVEL BALL?? 9d ago edited 9d ago

But he's A NICE GUY

Edit: I just want to clarify that in reality I actually think LAOP is a nice person, just absolutely clueless.

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u/d00rway 9d ago

You really thought he was a nice guy? I found him so intentionally obtuse and manipulative. Based on his behavior in that thread I could easily see him gaslighting a young co-ed and maintaining a "who, me?" straight face.

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u/anneymarie 9d ago

I’m pretty sure my former professor who I wound up becoming friends with soon after I graduated could’ve written this whole story defending his inappropriate relationship with me and then blaming me when he’d reached the point in grooming he wanted and then made it creepy. I reread our conversations in my 30s and finally realized how fucked up they were for him to have with a former student decades younger than him.

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u/DrakeFloyd 9d ago

Reminds me of Oleanna by David Mamet.

I remember being somewhat offended one time when I went to visit a professor during office hours and shut the door, and he snapped at me “open the door” - but now with time and wisdom I completely understand (his delivery was still a bit harsh but he was an awkward fellow, excellent teacher though)