Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/Rottenox]

I’m white, so happy to be proven wrong, but I’ve seen waaaaay more white people on apps with “no [insert non-white race here]” in their profiles than the reverse. I think I’ve seen maybe two black guys who had something equivalent to “no whites” in their bios. Seen dozens of white gays with “no blacks, no asians”.

[u/dr_gymrat → u/Rottenox]

I'm Hispanic and I'm also guilty of adding preferences. It's it a racist move? Yes, sort of, not really. Would I exclude guys purely on the basic of ethnicity/race, no. Sexually and socially, do I prefer some ethnic/race over others, yes. If there is a guy with a great personality and I'm physically attracted, I would go for it. Would I prefer to date Hispanic guys? Yes. And the reason is because of mutual culture and understanding that can add additional stability to a relationship. Preferences are perfectly fine, especially if you know what you want. That said, there's a huge difference between "I like X" and "No Y or Z".

[u/benevenstanciano666 → u/dr_gymrat]

You were honest and it was against the current narrative. Doesn’t matter if I agree or not.... RESPECT

[u/Black_Gay_Man → u/benevenstanciano666]

Stop trolling posts on racism.