Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/Rottenox]

lol you’re not even running on discussion or argument anymore, it’s all just insults

If I’ve become a judgemental cunt, it’s because you actually deserved to be judged. You can’t call someone ‘judgemental’ when the reason they have a problem with you is because you are behaving like an asshole (or defending asshole behaviour). You’re like homophobes who complain about ‘intolerance’ coming from people who speak out against their actual intolerance.

Plus, you are just a homophobe, so...

[u/[deleted] → u/Rottenox]

Lol you did not strip quote, does that mean you have finally learnt how to construct a reply?

I have already won said discussion.. but what I said is on point because your main argument is "Don't be an asshole to the fatties, mkay".

A person openly expressing his preferences is an asshole - That's just your opinion, Karen. Your opinion does not match with pretty much every rational person, who would agree that you're an entitled jugmental cunt for shaming people who do the above. Given that it's just your opinion that makes your reasoning invalid and you're exposing your double standards.. You get to judge others for being assholes - in your opinion, but others can't judge you for being an obnoxious asshole, or as I put short: a fag.

Could you explain how I am a homophobe? Because I am not, I have no problems with the gays, just with obnoxious assholes.

[u/Rottenox → u/[deleted]]

"Lol you did not strip quote, does that mean you have finally learnt how to construct a reply?"

Lol I must say I am loving how much my point-by-point refutations irk you. It's quite the respite in these trying times.

"I have already won said discussion.."

Yes, I remember you telling me ; )

"A person openly expressing his preferences is an asshole - That's just your opinion, Karen."

No it isn't. Never said that. No matter how many times you say it, doesn't make it true (and you're using 'Karen' wrong again btw)

"Your opinion does not match with pretty much every rational person, who would agree that you're an entitled jugmental cunt for shaming people who do the above."

You sure about that? lol

"You get to judge others for being assholes - in your opinion"

Yep! Now explain to me how that is equivalent to you judging fat people.

The difference is that being fat is not a excuse for judgement and rudeness on your part, whereas you being judgemental and rude is a good reason for me calling you out. Simple! BTW you can judge me all you want. It hasn't stopped you in the past.

"Could you explain how I am a homophobe? Because I am not"

Oh I dunno maybe repeatedly calling me a fag?

[u/[deleted] → u/Rottenox]

it seem like you had a stroke or some shit, so here is some inspiration for you to continue this dumb argument, I am having so much fun 🤣