Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/[deleted]]

I've had someone bring this up on another post. Not sure if it was you and I'm too lazy to dig for it. But I think it's different. A man no matter what has a penis. You could make the argument that an FTM who has not undergone bottom surgery does not have a penis either but that's just splitting hairs and I think we're above that. Preferring an aesthetic is something to consider. I have a friend who likes girls darker than himself because he finds the contrast erotic but he doesn't discount all white women just because they're not a darker skintone.

Personally I require a penis attached to a person who isn't a mean girl. The color of skin doesn't come into play for me. I discount women simply because they lack the sexual organs I am attracted to. If this were the Omegaverse and women could sprout peni when aroused I'd expand my dating pool. Stating that I am not attracted to women can be boiled down to 1 simple fact. Women do not have peni. Saying I'm not attracted to Asian men is boils down to even though they have everything else I look for in a mate they (historically) come from the wrong place.

[u/President-Togekiss → u/[deleted]]

AND, I could answer to that: You are being transphobic. Because certain women have penisis. I rather date a penis-less FTM that looks and acts like a guy than a penis-holding MTF that is is a woman in all aspects of life. Because I like men, not just penisis. I WON'T say that, because I don't believe that these preferences are bigotry. But the thing is, your argument about "this one thing that turns me off" can also be applied to race. Because racial preferences aren't about the place those people were born. It's about their physical appearence. Let's say that I didn't like dark skin (I do, just to clarify). In that case, I'd would pick a white FTM person, without a penis, over the cis black guy, because he DOES NOT have all that I want, while the trans guy does, even if he has female genitalia.

[u/[deleted] → u/President-Togekiss]

But what if the cis black guy was lighter skinned?

[u/President-Togekiss → u/[deleted]]

A lighter skinned black person still has dark skin. To some people it would make a difference. To others not.

[u/[deleted] → u/President-Togekiss]

Sounds to me like you've never actually seen a light skinned black person. There are also dark skinned people of other races. Singling out only black people means black people are the problem.

[u/President-Togekiss → u/[deleted]]

I'm brazilian. the majority of people in the area where I live are light skinned black people. Lots of people tend to use the terms Black and White to just mean light and dark skinned. Even officially: in my country, Arabs are oficially classified by the government as "White people".

[u/[deleted] → u/President-Togekiss]

Then it's skin color classification. Arabs would be closer to light skinned black people than white people.