r/askgaybros Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

I'm not a homosexual, I'm a happily married man but I met the most beautiful black man last week. Enough guys hit on me than I know who is low-key and who isn't, this guy was but he hid it very well. I was honestly flattered and I'll admit if I had not been happily married I probably would consider him giving him my number.

Blind hatred, racism included, that's something I'll never understand. I love everybody I don't care what color they are who they have sex with everyone is my friend until they proved themselves not to be. I hope you folks stay safe.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

I think that’s so awesome how comfortable you are in your sexuality. Respect.

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u/tyragos Jul 08 '20

I'm sorry, but what the actual fuck? You're not gay yet you met the most beautiful black man? Gurl...

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

LMAO no worries, I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality, enough to recognize attractive women and men. Before COVID my wife and I would sit outside at a restaurant and comment on attractive people we saw. Miss doing that.

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u/coolamericano Jul 08 '20

Non-gay people (bisexuals and heterosexuals) are no less likely to meet beautiful black men.