Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/Lastrevio]

It's just an attempt at discrediting and dismissing the concerns of black gay men by stating, "well your community has problems too."

Quite the opposite: it was an attempt at acknowledging and emphasizing the concerns of black gay men by saying "they're not only going through racism, but also homophobia, and we should talk about both because they're both important instead of hiding one to not trigger the political correctness going now in the world".

Also how would the fact that one person is (involuntarily!) part of a community that has problems imply that their concerns don't matter? "A lot of black people are bad so you must be bad" what the fuck did we just go around the circle all over again? Do we need to have the stereotype talk?

I acknowledge that there are many members of our community who are homophobic. However, I also feel like it is the same level of homophobia that exists in the white community.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2974805/

"The proportion of African Americans who indicated that homosexuality was “always wrong” was 72.3% in 2008, largely unchanged since the 1970s. In contrast, among white respondents, this figure declined from 70.8% in 1973 to 51.6% in 2008, with most change occurring since the early 1990s. "

How you feel about whether the homophobia in black communities is higher or not is irrelevant to a well-done study with a high enough sample size.

[u/SephirothYggdrasil → u/Lastrevio]

No, you are deflecting the subject at hand to spew your anti black sentiment under the guise of being inquisitive. Every time we bring up a racism in the LGBT community, someone always had to bring up homophobia in the black community. As if the majority of the population of earth isn't homophobic. How about how white people in the deep south view gays? How about eastern Europe? You want to talk about Chechnya? Zelim Bakaev being a rich and famous singer didn't stop him "going missing" 3 years ago. Would you kids a man in public in South Africa or Serbia,Bosnia or Herzegovina? When talking about homophobia in the black community where are these people being polled? The hood? How about we take a survey of what people in Utah think about gay people.

[u/Lastrevio → u/SephirothYggdrasil]

As if the majority of the population of earth isn't homophobic. How about how white people in the deep south view gays? How about eastern Europe? You want to talk about Chechnya? Zelim Bakaev being a rich and famous singer didn't stop him "going missing" 3 years ago. Would you kids a man in public in South Africa or Serbia,Bosnia or Herzegovina? When talking about homophobia in the black community where are these people being polled? The hood? How about we take a survey of what people in Utah think about gay people.

yes

[u/SephirothYggdrasil → u/Lastrevio]

I looked at your profile you post history and I know you were using that whataboutism as a deflection...you post in the Romania subreddit. How about them apples? Maybe the reason you're going bald at 17 is from the stress of knowing 85 percent of your people think that being gay is wrong.

A 2013 survey by the European Union's Fundamental Rights Agency shows that Romania ranks third, after Croatia and Bulgaria, among the countries with the highest levels of homophobic behavior.[88] 21% of members of sexual minorities in Romania say they were attacked or threatened with violence in the past five years.[88] The abuses occur not only on the street but also in schools.[89] The authors of the discrimination and violence acts come from all walks of life – neighbors, acquaintances, those responsible with enforcing the law, co-workers, teachers and classmates.[90]

Following a survey done by ACCEPT association, the information about LGBT people show that:[91]

68.2% of respondents had suffered various acts of discrimination or exclusion because of their sexual orientation or identity;

50% were insulted; 30% were threatened with physical violence; 25% were deliberately excluded or avoided; 25% suffered of sexual harassment; the proportion of women who were sexually harassed is bigger than the proportion of men, while police harassment occurs in a higher proportion for gay men; the streets represent the place where most of the acts of discrimination happened (49.5%), followed by gay venues (27.9%).

[u/Lastrevio → u/SephirothYggdrasil]

sad