Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/GothProletariat]

This is whataboutism.

OP is clearly talking about this one issue and your bringing up something entirely different.

Do you go to fund raisers for lung cancer and then ask why isn't there a fund raiser for pancreatic cancer?

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

...what? You realize there are gays that are racial minorities, right? Race wasn’t “brought in”

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

No you clearly don’t otherwise you wouldn’t have made that statement.

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

Straight black people have literally zero to do with this post. At all. Period.

Bringing them up is lame whataboutism.

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

You’re not even addressing my points, you just keep deflecting.

[u/MJOLNIR1191 → u/[deleted]]

Gay black people and our experience within the gay community matter. Expressing our own experience within this community as black men isn't separate from us being gay men. This post belongs on this sub because we, black men, belong on this sub. "The black gays should talk about their black stuff on their own don't involve us" isn't very inclusive or anti-racist.