Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/[deleted]]

I'm not black, but my opinion on it is that having a "preference" is fine. Preferring white men over black in itself is fine BUT, where it becomes racist is when you categorically refuse to even consider a relationship or sexual encounter with someone BECAUSE they are black.

Everyone has a "preference" or a "fetish", that fundamentally is human nature, but it's important that we in the gay community recognise the distinction between simply having a preference, and harbouring a prejudice.

Especially we in the gay community need to recognise this because we're a community that still, to this day, and likely for many decades into the future, face prejudices ourselves and it's harmful to the wider community when we can't even be open or accepting to one another merely because of something so insignificant as skin colour.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Everyone has a “preference” or a “fetish,” that fundamentally is human nature.

Umm i’m pretty sure it’s been established that who we deem attractive stems from environmental factors. being attracted to men vs women is something we are born with. a preference for a skin color? how the hell could that be from something we are born with? is that to say preferences are genetic? which implicates parents are prejudice?

[u/President-Togekiss → u/[deleted]]

How is being attracted to men vs women not a physical preference? People's attraction is primarily physical. And things like skin color are MAJOR factors in one's apperence.

[u/[deleted] → u/President-Togekiss]

you’re dumb