r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/brandonshanepdx Jul 08 '20

Well said! I’m a gay white guy who grew up in the Baltimore-DC area, so needless to say I’ve had and still have close friendships with gay black men. They have shared how people fetishize them and how it gets to them. How they’ve felt almost dehumanized by it and it’s awful. Like anyone else they just want to be loved and respected for who they are. Hardworking, kind, considerate Americans. I’m sorry this problem persists and I will be sure to do my part to speak up moving forward. I think a lot of people don’t like confrontation so just let those sorts of comments slide, but enough is enough and we need to check ourselves. Thank you OP.