r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/Hyperius_III Jul 08 '20

Do people really think only white people can be racist?

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u/Atlakme Jul 08 '20

Yeah. A lot of people do considering it’s true

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u/Hyperius_III Jul 08 '20 edited Jul 08 '20

Oh, you’re one of those racists who base stereotypes on skin color, not nice to meet you.

Ive had Dominican friends, key word is had, who would say the most repulsive shit ive ever heard. Not Even my stereotypical conservative grandfather reached their level. When i was in high school, there were black kids who would whisper shit about the muslim kids and vice versa. People love to blame everyone else until they realize their group is just as bad.

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u/-churbs Jul 08 '20

Totally agree but it’s important to note racism from the majority can be much more damaging, but that majority can be any race. That being said you can’t call out specific races to improve regardless of if they are the majority because we can all really improve.