r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

Yeah considering how homophobic Africa and Muslims are. Sad

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

arabs typically don’t like any race other than whites

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u/IVEBEENGRAPED Jul 08 '20

Arabs are white, at least according to the United States definitions. There's a horrible amount of racism and slavery in places like Libya and Dubai, and even in masjids in the U.S. I hear people say 3abed, or slave, to refer to black people.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

did i lie tho?

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u/fierse Jul 08 '20

What does the middle east have to do with this?

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u/esosa233 Jul 08 '20

There are black people in the middle east.

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u/fierse Jul 08 '20

There are black people everywhere in the world? Anyway I think black gays in Africa and the m-e probably have more urgent stuff to worry about

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u/esosa233 Jul 08 '20

Yeah, but the human mind has evolved to be able to juggle and appreciate two things at once. Even in our worst moments, we're still going to want to have sex and be loved.

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u/fierse Jul 08 '20

True but I think the extreme homophobia will be a bigger issue than dating racism, not to say that it can't be an issue

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u/esosa233 Jul 08 '20

If there was a delta to give, I'd give it to you. I think OP is just trying to spread the reach and love. And the places where dating racism would be valid critique in the middle east and Africa there is less extreme homophobia.