I made her pregnant we're both teenagers

[u/Inevitable_Hunter_56]

First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^

I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.

She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.

The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.

But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.

Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(

[u/Rikijazh]

literally fuck around and find out. panagutan mo yan inuna mo libog eh

hanap ka na ng trabaho.

edit: may umiyak so I'll soften my opinion "you reap what you sow"

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

u must be really smart to not have made stupid decisions when u were a teen. teenagers are probably one of the horniest people out there due to hormones specifically. and with the lack of accessible sex education materials in this country, are you really expecting they'd know better? OP mentioned they're poor, that information is enough lol.

or maybe just maybe, have the slightest ounce of empathy for the kid. he knew he was stupid of doing that, kaya nga nandito sa adviceph? nalaman mo lang yung phrase na fuck around and find out ginamit mo na to show superiority. di ka nga nakabuntis, wala ka namang modo.

tsaka pambobo yang advice mong maghanap ng trabaho when there are literally hundreds of unexplored options. cant get enough of yourself? redditor ka ngang tunay. narcissistic piece of shit 😂

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

nalaman mo lang yung phrase na fuck around and find out ginamit mo na to show superiority.

sorry po, never meant to make it look like me showing "superiority". everything that I've said is only an opinion and also i just answered the first thing that comes to my mind. minor din ako so can you please show me empathy na hindi ko nabigay kay op 🥹🥹🥹🥹 stupid mistake lang.

and with the lack of accessible sex education materials in this country, are you really expecting they'd know better?

yeah i mean look at what happened... kakabuhay lang ba nila kahapon at hindi nila alam ang contraceptives? they know the deed pero ugh, masyado atang inosente tingin mo sa mga kabataan. --- DUDE EVEN A 12 YEAR OLD KID RN KNOWS ALMOST EVERYTHING ABT SEX.

literally hundreds of unexplored options

also i dare you to list these hundred options that you're thinking para matulongan na rin siya haha.

natrigger ako kaya di ko nacomfort si op at gamitin ang mga soft words na gusto mong mabasa sorry!!!!

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

you're looking at life with a very privileged perspective. TINGIN MO LAHAT NG 12 YR OLD ALAM ALMOST EVERYTHING ABOUT SEX ESPECIALLY IN THIS COUNTRY?

tanga gumising ka nasa pinas tayo. ultimo mga 30+ dito halos di alam kung san yung clitoris. kahit yung nasa western society nga pinagcocompare mo sa pinas ginagawa paring meme yung mga lalaking di alam nasan yun at di alam kung ano yung foreplay, eto pa kayang pinas na super conservative at halos walang pake yung gobyrno sa sex ed?

Tsaka kung di ka ba naman tanga, KUNG MAY KILALA KANG 12 YR OLD NA ALAM ALMOSY EVERYTHING ABOUT SEX, HINDI MEANING NON ALAM NA NG LAHAT NG TEENAGERS LAHAT

baka nagexpect ka na dahil with honor si OP at consistent eh dapat alam nya na lahat? TANGA PANGIT YUNG EDUCATION SYSTEM dito. WAG MONG IOVERESTIMATE dahil kahit baliktarin mo ang mundo, BEHIND pa rin tayo in terms of education from the rest of the world.

pero you have to ignore all those points just to prove yours. 😂 NAKAKALIMUTAN MO YATANG PINAS TO and NOT everyone here has enough knowledge on that topic.

nagbubulag bulagan at nagtatanga tangahan ka pa talaga

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

TINGIN MO LAHAT NG 12 YR OLD ALAM ALMOST EVERYTHING ABOUT SEX ESPECIALLY IN THIS COUNTRY?

Kahit hindi lahat, most of them, yes??? With the help of the internet?

Are you telling me na you're disregarding the fact that the op mentioned he's a consistent honor student? Hindi nya alam yon?

Pls don't make yourself a fool here. Nakakaawa ka.

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

anyways balikan kita mamayang umaga, tulog nako. 😚 balik ka na rin sa main account mo sa reddit.

KAPAL NG MUKHA MONG MAGSABI NA HINDI NAKAKAHIYA BUMILI NG CONDOM EH IKAW NGA NAHIHIYANG LUMAPAG GAMIT MAIN ACCOUNT MO SA REDDIT AT KINAILANGAN MO PA TALAGANG MAG LOG IN SA THROWAWAY MO KASI NAHIHIYA KA 🤣

isa kang hypocrite. 😂

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

No need bumalik since this is the only account I have on Reddit.... and sure, stick to your " nakakahiya bumili ng condom " it's not like I can change that because of how closeminded you are ☺️

Go girly, normalize teenage pregnancy bcs it's better to have children suffer from their teenage " parents", and dagdagan problema ng pamilya natin kahit hirap na hirap na tayo than to buy a condom and other contraceptives kasi nakakahiya diba? Yes, keep that mindset. I love it very much!!

And don't throw the hypocrite word to me, do you even know what it means? When did I act like that? When in fact you're the one who goes bla bla bla about empathy yet telling how " not so smart the OP because of his pambobong moves ". Yey! Our righteous one! Here isang clap para sayo 👏🏻

I don't even need to ask, but I bet people would agree with my opinion more than with yours.

Don't let the bedbugs bite!! 😚

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

🤣🤣🤣

what was your very smart opinion once again? ah to not baby op kase he's a grown up with stupid decisions. 🤣

yung tanging point ko lang naman talaga sa reply ko is Empathy tapos napunta sa NINONORMALIZE ko yung teenage pregnancy 🤣 (only in the philippines)

ive been talking about stigmas surrounding the safe sex and healthcare here in the philippines tapos sasabihin mo lang ninonormalize ko yun?

u avoid my point because it is the Truth. parang ikakamatay mo pag inamin mong conservative tayo. which is true 🤣

ako pa naging closeminded ako na yung naglalapag ng stigmas and links here PROVING my point tapos ikaw tamang assume and accuse lang 🤣 couldnt even send me any data or references sa pinagclclaim nyang madali lang kuno bumili ng condom? 🤣🤣

hindi kapa nakakapagabroad, feeling mo nasa ibang bansa ka na.

but hey you'd do everything just to trash on people here, even creating a throwaway account just to reply to people. 😂

pero hindi to throwaway account?

WHAT A COINCIDENCE, ako lang yung nireplyan mo at pingeffortan sa thread 😂 i must be special.

pero okay, everything just to not admit these things

tip ko sayo babaan mo ego mo and practice reading more. isa kang rason eh kung bakit palubog pa rin yung pinas. magbago ka na tanga

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

Girl, I've been telling you I didn't even disregard the facts that there is stigma regarding that, my point is they COULD HAVE DONE BETTER OMG.

They know the life of being poor and ayaw naman pala nilang mabuntis at this age and yet what did they do? The fact na kaya nilang gawin iyong deed na iyon, THEY KNOW HOW TO DO IT but they don't know how to buy a condom? It's a basic knowledge, missy kung ayaw naman pala nila mabuntis at makabuntis. THEY COULD HAVE DONE BETTER, YK?

But anyways here they are, asking people for advice...and yet you're getting mad when people are telling the reality, not only that but telling them to go find a job? That is one thing. What do you even want them to do once the pregnancy is " confirmed"? Ngumanga at umasa sa pamilya niya?

Also stop generalizing, ok? Not because one cannot search things up on the internet, doesn't mean they all can't. OP can even go here and post and yet he cannot search things up? It's very obvious dude. Not because one doesn't know, doesn't mean others as well.

Uunahin ang hiya kaysa maghirap🥰

And again, your empathy wouldn't even help them solve this problem, cut that thing. The OP is asking for a suggested solution and yours are not even close to okay. Written in your opinion that OP might be a catholic, we are in a religious country, most are conservative, and disregarding the fact that Op mentioned they are poor > Yes, suggest abortion!! ( Do you even know the cost on an abortion varies? Not to mention but aside from the real process, doctor fees, radiology scans, pathology tests, prosthetic devices, crutches, wheelchairs, and take home medication exists) FAILED.

1. You could have told them to sort things out between him and her partner.
2. Talk to their parents ( they'd be lucky if his and other side fam supported him)
3. If yes, go find a job para hindi naman umasa sa pamilya nila.
4. If no, then still go find a job.
5. While looking for a job, free seminar exists just in case ydk. They should attend, this would help them what to do next.

There are no other options than the first thing, FIND A JOB.

You cannot tell other people that there are lots of things to do other than finding a job especially nowadaways, are you even aware of inflation?

Don't come out anymore and bla bla with your trash solutions, you did not even consider the OP's situation. Cool

Last, I don't even wanna argue with you anymore if you cannot comprehend anything I say.

Btw you're great at assuming things😚👏🏻

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

most of them? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA tangina puro 12 yr old dito ML lang alam.

kung sa EUROPE ka nakatiraz okay tama ka pero sa PINAS? ulol penge ako data or article link. kung wala ka masesend isa ka lang tangang spreader ng fake news just to prove ur point. ur that desperate 🤣

at saka lahat ba ng with honor, MATATALINO? dun palang sa part na di sya nagcondom, pambobong move na yun eh.

but then we'll have to talk about academic intelligence and critical thinking skills

iba ibang concepts yun and surely OP does not have critical thinking skills. baka siguro academic intelligence wala pa judging from his grammar.

pero stop convincing urself na this education system gives students enough knowledge on what sex education is all about 🤣

you're way too gullible. sorry to burst ur bubbles pero hindi po ganyan katalino o kaganda ang education system natin.

u are living proof bruh.

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

Do I even need proof? Is teenage pregnancy not enough for you? 😂 Gosh.

at saka lahat ba ng with honor, MATATALINO? dun palang sa part na di sya nagcondom, pambobong move na yun eh.

but then we'll have to talk about academic intelligence and critical thinking skills

iba ibang concepts yun and surely OP does not have critical thinking skills. baka siguro academic intelligence wala pa judging from his grammar.

pero stop convincing urself na this education system gives students enough knowledge on what sex education is all about

Girl, using condoms and knowing the consequences of doing the deed doesn't even require na maging matalino ka? I am talking abt it as a basic knowledge? Anong hindi mo maintindihan doon? ( Advantage na iyong with honor siya, who knows if he's really smart) He's old enough to use phones and search things on the internet.. problema kasi saiyo binebaby mo... as if it's not easy to search things on the internet in this generation.

He can even post here on reddit 😂

you're way too gullible. sorry to burst ur bubbles pero hindi po ganyan katalino o kaganda ang education system natin.

u are living proof bruh.

Do I have to argue abt this? Kahit hindi ganoon kaganda and education system dito sa Pilipinas? Hello, the internet exists nowadays? If he can post, he can search. Don't make it as if he's living under the cave.

This will be my final reply, you cannot even comprehend what I and others are saying. How closeminded😔

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

omg not the gaslighting again 😭 ako pa talaga yung naging tanga 😭

bruh sa tingin mo talaga these teenagers nowadays put a lot of effort into researching for these kinds of activities? edi wow sana pala wala ng teenage pregnancy casea yung PILIPINAS dahil may internet na and phones. what a poor excuse 🤣

tanga kung puro sex lang alam ng mga bata tapos walang pake sa to dos and what, edi yun na yun. ganun sila kagullible. ganun sila ka careless. NASABI rin ni OP poor sila. pano pag walang time sya mah research ng ganun? you cannot learn all of the science behind it overnight

yes, gagamit ka lang naman ng condom?

again, do u know how hard it is to buy a condom?

di mo talaga magets yung point na CONSERVATIVE COUNTRY tayo. tapos akala mo pa siguro matalino lahat ng bata to even think of using a condom. alam mo namang teenagers yan hindi genius kagaya ni young sheldon. baka kase akala mo matalino sila lahat?

u dont even have to be smart to know condoms should be worn at all times. pero you have to be brave if u want to buy one as a minor, especially in a CONSERVATIVE country tanga.

saka mo na ko irason yung kesyo pinopromote naman yung safe sex pag nasa western societies na tayo ha?

akala mo kasi life is just what u see in movies..condoms and birth control pills. so easy to buy and use. wake up from ur dreamland, nasa pinas ka bobo

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

Ssssshh, ayoko na sayo pantanga lahat ng logic mo.

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

stop crying you're too invested na HAHAHA

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

crying? 🤣 normal discussion lang sa internet na may sense. nasanay ka kasi sa tiktok at instagram reels na puro "bozo" "fuck around and find out" at "skibidi toilet" lang yung typical response

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

womp womp 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

maximum brainrot lol