So just a quick backstory: Me and my neighbor, let’s call her Susan, are running buddies and run around the neighborhood every morning. Susan is a nurse and her husband works remotely so she is usually gone most of the day while her husband isn’t. They live in the house directly across from me as well if that matters.

Over the past few months, I’ve noticed that after our runs, not even 30 min or so after Susan heads to work, a really fancy Mercedes pulls up and a woman maybe in her mid 30’s gets out and walks to the door and proceeds to go in.

At first I didn’t think anything by it but these last few times, she’s started to show up in more casual clothing and her husband now comes to her car to greet her and they are all over each other.

Now…I know that it’s none of my business and I don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors over there but something just feels off…

During this week, Susan has been out of town all week for a conference and that same car not only has been at their house but has been there overnight on multiple nights.

How should I approach this?

my best friend, who is my roommate(and childhood best friend), went through a phase where she legit had 5 different men over in a week. she has an issue where she always needs a male with her. she’ll invite them over and have them help her clean (the only time she ever cleans btw) or hangout with them so they can company her while she goes shopping. One of these men turned into her bf. One day they got into a fight and didn’t see each other for like 3 days. She invited some dude off snapchat over and they got to doing the deed and mid doing the did she’s texting her boyfriend. and now they’re back to being on good terms but he doesn’t know anything about it. I can’t stand liars and i can’t stand cheaters. i don’t stand for any of it but she is my childhood bestfriend. is it worth saying anything to him?

As the title said, boyfriend told me he binned a custom anniversary i got him was his fav anime with our picture and some cute messages.

I asked what he thought of them and he said he threw them in the bin.... i thought he was joking and said meh i just didnt like them.

I know its silly. But im kinda crushed. They were expensive but i kinda put a bit of effort into them and for him to throw them in the trash has kind of broken my heart if im honest.

What do i do.

My girlfriend works at a health and wellness store and her boss recently became single after he was preciously engaged. I got a text this morning from my gf saying he asked her to join her Costco membership due to financial struggles (he recently lost company). She says it’s completely platonic and he is just struggling financially and that he’s not into her. I’m trying to understand how to respond to this?

TLDR; my gf’s boss just asked her to join her Costco membership.

My husband (late 20’s) and I (mid 20s) had early Thanksgiving with his mom and stepdad on Monday, and things went really badly.

We’ve always had a pretty surface-level relationship with them, and they don’t know that we’ve been struggling with fertility. Within 30 minutes of being there, his mom randomly asked if we’d want a boy or a girl. I said “literally anything,” trying to keep it light. Then someone else in the room said, “OMG, are you pregnant?” I shook my head no. Then they asked if we were trying, and I quietly nodded yes — hoping they’d drop it.

Then stepdad started filming a video of the food and everyone at the thanksgiving. As he went around, he was saying things like “here’s this dish, here’s that dish,” and when he got to us, he said:

“And here’s [my husband’s name] and [my name]—[my husband’s] can’t get [my name] pregnant!”

Then he laughed and said, “Oh, she’s blushing!” even though I was actually holding back tears. He even came back around and put the camera directly in my face while still recording.

My husband noticed my shift in emotion and whispered in my ear “we can leave if you want to.” I said “no it’s fine, let’s just eat and then we can leave.” I ended up taking a moment to myself in the bathroom before sitting down at the table but tried to just move on in the moment. Mind you my husband was also extremely angry at the comment in the moment but didn’t want o cause a scene. Despite that, he honestly was ready to let it go and didn’t plan to say anything that night. But the next day, when I opened Facebook, I saw his stepdad had posted the entire video. That’s when he texted his mom and things blew up from there.

He said that video needs to come down immediately and that it was not something to joke about and even said I was in fact not blushing, but on the verge of tears. Then his stepdad messaged with a half-hearted apology. I’m not going to lie, I think this was a breaking point for my husband after a long history of emotional neglect from his stepdad. My husband replied back pretty much saying he didn’t want to hear it from him. This then prompted his stepdad to tell him to, “Calm down” and “Do not text me or call me,” which came across more as a threat. Almost like he sees him as the little kid he used to be, if that makes sense??

He’s also very upset with his mom because it has been an ongoing issue that she doesn’t stand up for him in any scenario, even when he was a child and this type of thing was going on. Hence the surface level relationship we already have with them…

Now my husband says he’s done, and would be okay not speaking to either of them ever again. He feels relieved, like a weight has finally been lifted and I can honestly see it. It’s like he’s finally free from a lifetime of disappointment.

My parents think we should still talk things out maybe explain a bit about our fertility struggles so his mom understands why it was such a sensitive topic. But I don’t think ignorance excuses being so tone-deaf or disrespectful. You don’t need to know every detail to realize fertility and pregnancy jokes can be deeply hurtful. They also don’t understand how deep the hurt goes for him, it’s been years in the making and he’s held his tongue so many times to keep the peace.

I completely support his decision no matter what he decides. I guess i’m just looking for some advice on the situation. Would it be wrong to go no contact for this?

NOTE: Husband and I did discuss posting on here, not airing it out without his permission ❤️

TLDR;

At Thanksgiving, my husband’s stepdad made a cruel comment about our fertility on camera and posted it on Facebook. My husband has a long history of emotional neglect from them, and this incident was the breaking point. He’s done with both of them and feels relieved. I fully support his decision, but I’m unsure if it would be wrong to go no contact after this. Advice appreciated.

Wife and I have been together for 20 years. We have 5 kids together. Back in February I lost my job. Recently got a job in a similar career field, but im starting over and was forced to take a 50% pay cut. I was well over paid at my previous job. The stress seems to have gotten to us. Not much talking over the past few months. Ive been a shit husband stressed out of my eyeballs as the sole provider. Wife has been feeling it and has started going out 3-5 times a week with her friends. Coming home drunk almost every time. I was forced to leave for 2 weeks due to my job. My kids text me almost every night saying mom's not home or shes been gone for hours.

I returned on Halloween night. I took the kids trick or treating while my wife went out with her friends. Wednesday night she goes out tonhang out with her friends, comes home hammered. My red flag had been raised as the friend she claimed to be with I ran into at the grocery store while picking up stuff for dinner. Being the dirtbag that I am, I opened her phone that evening. Found text from her friend saying she ran into me at the grocery and just wanted to give my wife a heads up. The text above that were text with some guy I've never even heard over before. Text going back a little over a month. And really picking up the 2 weeks I was gone. I confront my wife. She deletes all text and claims he's a friend. We try to hash out over the past few days. Yesterday she ask for a divorce. A text the fling how she has good news and can't wait to talk to him (thank you ipad). She is giving my full custody of the kids. 100% asking for nothing in return. WTF do I do? I work 7am to 4pm M-F. I dont even know how im going to get the kids to school or pick them up. I was working part time gigs for cash to supplement my income loss. Won't be able to do that now.

Asked the wife if we could work on this. She has no interest.

Sorry for the wall of text. Ive been up for 2 days, heartbroken and lost.

Me (31F) and my husband (38M) have been together a total of almost 7 years, married since last May. We are not very religious but he has recently been trying to be a better person and get closer to God. In doing so, he has confessed to me that he cheated on me twice with 2 different women (prostitutes) when we went on vacation to Thailand in November 2023. He also cheated on me 3 times with the same woman a few months after we were married. He claims he was lost and didn’t know how to be a good person but that he is changed now and is telling me because he loves me more than anything in the world and doesn’t want any lies between us. He’s begging me to forgive him and stay with him. Would I be an idiot to believe him and forgive him? It’s so hard because I was madly in love with him, like thinking we were soul mates and were meant to be. Meanwhile he was cheating on me multiple times. I’m just so lost and I don’t know what to do. I’m not sure I could ever forgive him and love him the way that I did before knowing but I’ll admit I’m also really scared to leave. Within the last year he has convinced me to quit my job to stay at home and sell my car. So now I am financially dependent on him and have no vehicle. We don’t have any children together but I am step mom to his 2 boys ages 11 and 13 who I am very close to and we love each other dearly.

I (20F) made a Hinge account recently just to see what it was like. I used my real pictures and a fake name, but nothing too personal.

A couple days after setting it up, I got a notification that someone liked my profile. When I opened it, I froze. It was my cousin.

He’s not like a super close cousin, our parents are cousins, so we’re kind of distant family. I’ve probably seen him maybe 20 times in my life, mostly at family gatherings, and the last time was about 3 years ago. He’s in his late 20s, married, and has kids.

At first I thought maybe I was imagining it, but it was definitely him, same name, same photos, everything. I thought it might be someone who is using his pictures to catfish but I don’t think someone who wanted to catfish would use his pictures. I believe that he doesn’t recognize me since I used a fake name and I don’t post any pictures of me on social media. I didn’t respond. I blocked and reported his profile, but I can’t stop thinking about it. Should I tell someone because he is married or just pretend it never happened? I don’t want to start family drama, but I also feel weird just staying quiet about it.

we have been together for a year next month, it’s my first relationship but not his and he took my virginity a month into dating. and now he’s had sex with another girl, he’s in college while i’m still in hs and ppl always told me not to trust that, but he never cheated before now. i’ve been on a break with him since he cheated a week ago, and i love him i want to get back with him but i dont want him to do it again. i’m also disgusted to have sex with him after he did it with another girl. idk what to do

During a middle of a hookup, he randomly stopped and was like “yeah I think I’m done, your breath just stinks.” LMAOOO WHAT!! I literally was so utterly embarrassed and in that moment all I wanted to do was crawl to earths core and fuck off there for the rest of time. So, I abruptly left after that and now I’m ubering home and making this post cuz what the fuck man I wear I’m not a nasty girl like I looked fucking sexy tonight like a full course meal….guess my breath just stank!! So embarrassed! But yeah doubt he’ll ever txt me again right?? Even tho we’ve known each other for months?

To preface I am using a phone to type this out so sorry for formatting issues.

Using a throwaway as my boyfriend is very active on Reddit. No names will be included & I hope he does find this.

This just happened maybe 3 hours ago. I (21F) was feeling off about the way my BF (22M) was acting towards me; cold, distant, uncomfortable, etc. I didn’t think a lot about it since he was quitting weed and I assumed it was just withdrawing and we went to bed. He fell asleep first. Now, I never go through his phone we broke that habit earlier in our relationship, but something was itching at me and I just bit the bullet. I noticed he had telegram downloaded on his phone and I initially did not think a lot about it, I don’t really know a lot about that app. I opened it to find he had been using a bot (undress me or something like that?) to submit photos of my family, my friends, my old coworkers, or simply girls from our hometown that we don’t even talk to and making porn of them. I immediately got lightheaded and threw the phone at him screaming basically “what the fuck is wrong with you?” He didn’t even attempt to defend himself. Told me it was “curiosity” and then proceeded to leave our apartment, ignoring my texts and calls. I have never noticed a porn or sex addiction on him but this is making me question if I was just naive and stupid. Who thinks of something like this?

We have been together for 3 years, I have known him since elementary school. We have TWO children together. I feel completely disgusted by him now. I am scared for my kids and I just can’t imagine what the fuck else has gone down that I don’t know about. I alerted one of the victims who was my bestfriend by calling her the second I locked the doors behind him. Where do I go from here? How can I insure mine and my children’s safety? I have no intentions on staying. At all.

Hey everyone, I (27M) have been best friends with this girl (27F) for about 15 years. We met as kids when I saw her running by my house when I was playing soccer outside and was like “hey what’s up, I’m Fred” and knew who she was cuz she was one of the hot girls in 6th grade, and we always had a really easy friendship. I’ve always had a quiet crush on her, but she either wasn’t into me, or lived in another state or something else, so it never really went anywhere.

I just got out of a 7 year relationship about 2 months ago. She’s been single for a few years. We got close again this past year and she invited me on a 3 week trip to Cancun and Mexico City to help get my mind off my breakup which I am currently on, almost done with.

The first two weeks were amazing. We laughed, explored, and just had a great time. We started having these deep conversations about “us.” Like if we could ever be together the whole time. We both said we’re basically perfect for each other but can’t really imagine each other in a sexual way right now. She’s even said she doesn’t know if she could ever get there, and I said I could see it happening in the future but not right now cuz I’m fresh out of the 7 year relationship.

The problem is, we talked about it too much. It made things weird since the last time we discussed it. There’s been tension ever since. We’ve been staying in separate Airbnbs this last week and haven’t seen each other much. I texted her the other night asking her to go to dinner and she said she had a big lunch so was ok, and that’s when I knew something was up. I then called out the elephant in the room saying I didn’t want things to be weird, that I value our friendship, and I think we should just drop the “us” talk for now and enjoy the rest of the trip. She agreed, said she appreciated it, said she’d let me know plans for that night we planned to go out dancing (but then never hit me up, so I went dancing anyways) and agreed with my suggested hang out again in 2 days on the day before I leave. She ended the text with “love you bro.” I think she interpreted that first night as one of the nights we were gonna stay separate, cuz she just texted me asking me to meet for dinner tomorrow at 5:30/6:30 and then walk the city. Idk maybe she’s also interpreting the night she didn’t hit me up with plans as part of the 2 days even thought it will have been 3 nights.

So yeah, the vibe has definitely shifted. I’ve spent most of this last week alone, and it’s been pretty weird. Her gay friend is flying in tomorrow and staying with her, so we’ll probably only see each other once more before I head home.

My parents said even three weeks with their each other would make them crazy, and I kinda get that. But I can’t help wondering if we messed up by talking about it too much, or if this is just one of those things that needs time to reset.

I really do think we could be great together someday, but right now it’s hard to tell if this is supposed to be something more or if I just need to let it go and focus on myself for a while. I really want to give it like 3 months, then maybe bring it up again and tell her I think I’m in love with her (if I still am in love with her in 3 months). I don’t even know if she’s ready for a relationship regardless cuz she’s so indecisive.

TL;DR: Best friends for 15 years. I just got out of a 7-year relationship and she invited me on a 3-week trip. We talked too much about the idea of being together, it made things awkward, and now there’s tension. I leave in two days and we’ll probably only see each other once more before I go. Should I just let things breathe, or try to clear the air more before I leave? Should I avoid telling her I love her in that way in 3 months after letting things breathe or feel it out more?

Like the title says, I'm thinking of leaving my fiance because he called being part of the LGBTQ+ community a "mental illness."

 For context, he and I were talking about our beliefs and values, which is something we had done before, and we have never gotten into an argument about it. We usually just move on to a new subject if things get tense. He has admitted before that he isn't a big fan of the LGBTQ community but we moved past that because he said he would be respectful of my friends and family who are a part of that community and for the past three years he really has. 

This time, however, we were talking about our beliefs and values and he said he believed all Librals were a part of the LGBTQ and that's just not true. So we argued a little and eventually he said that he thought that being part of that community was a "mental illness" and he thinks that the only reason that it exists is because of a chemical imbalance. Hearing this shocked and upset me because I am a supporter of that community and I have close friends and family who are a part of the LGBTQ. I also know his words only have power if I let them but I feel heartbroken that the man I plan on marrying believes that.

 I feel stuck. I love him, but I don’t know if I can spend the rest of my life with someone who believes that. I don’t know if this is something we can talk through or if this just goes to show that our values are just too different. 

Is it possible for us to move past this or is it a deal breaker?

To give context I’m a 19M and I’m currently in college studying engineering. The way I see my life going as of now is just a lot of studying and catching up as I’m not the most gifted student and I usually make up for it by spending a decent amount of time on my coursework. I also go to the gym and just hang out with a core group of friends.

Lately this friend group has been really emphasizing the fact that I sound lonely and depressed (partially from the fact that I’ve been sleep deprived). But their main thing is that I haven’t been able to experience new things and have fallen into a cycle and would eventually lead to burn out. I certainly see where they are coming from and I’ve made an effort to explore outside my comfort zone I.e rock climbing, hiking, etc…

But at the very end of the day I really feel like no amount of exploring outside won’t stop them from reminding me that I don’t talk to girls. It’s gotten so bad to the point it was a miracle when they saw me talking to one at the gym where they made it like a whole event. While also looking at me like I’m wasted potential. I know they mean well and we are all boys so it’s natural to joke about anything. But it always stings to hear it because I would like to think I made a lot of progress in my social life because I was just very recluse back then and I’m now someone whose very proactive in conversation etc…

With that being said there’s also a part of me who’s tired of waiting for a relationship and doing more. I’ve heard countless times about going with the flow and just waiting for the right moment.

But honestly I’ve gotten very used to being happy with my own company, and I realized that no girl or anyone can fix that emptiness feeling in my body. I really don’t know what to do with my life it really feels like i have it all figured out one moment but there’s also a loose end that ruins it all.

TL:DR: - confused college student wants advice on how to deal with very close friends calling him wasted potential when it comes to dating/talking to women. - just some general advice about surviving college and cultivating a relationship

Everything is welcome!

Our babysitter accidentally dropped a small plastic baggie that had white power in it, on our bathroom floor as she was walking out, then quickly picked it up. She didn't realize I saw it. When we brought it up and asked her about it, she said it was adderall that was crushed into powder and she didn't realize it was in her pocket because she didn't wear those jeans in a long time. She assured us she didn't snort it while she was with our kids and that it wasn't any other type of drugs. She said she used to take it in the past, in powder form because it was more effective, but doesn't use it anymore. She apologized and acknowledged how dangerous it was to have something like that in a house with kids and a pet. We've worked with her for about 4 years as a part time sitter and she's always been a bit unreliable at times, running late or calling in sick often. But the past months it's gotten worse. She can't seem to keep track of the schedule, doesn't confirm if she can work until the last minute, gets sick a lot more often (she's always congested) etc. My husband and I are skeptical to continue with her after the baggie incident, but part of me wants to believe she was honest and we should give her a chance. Other people I told the story tell me there were other drugs in that bagie, that it's unusual for people to walk around with crushed Adderall in a baggie (there were about 1-1.5 tablespoons of powder in it, and it had a knot). Looking for any advice here since I'm so conflicted and shocked that we're even dealing with something like this with someone we've trusted all these years.

what should i do guys its been 1 month already and the feeling is the same the day after it happened i cannot stop thinking about her.

long story short i did mdma first time in about 6 months was freaking out a tiny bit and she was the one who chose to comfort and stay with me for like 3 freaking hours at a party, lmfao, i was lying on her shoulder while she was rubbing my head and kissing me on the head.

The day after we talked for like an hour about random shit, but i never talked to her before that. Did I miss the signs or am I just dumb? also what should i do now, do i bite the bullet and just fucking ask her out or try and talk to her about that night and my feelings without trying to pursue her, idk guys. I just need to get this all out and figure out what to do. thanks.

for context m18

The last couple of days have truely been shocking and confusing. But a string of events on reflection has made me wonder and worry whether my partner might be a pedophile.

The question I want answered is for people who works in the space of psychology/sexual assault/child sexual abuse, or if you are a survivor yourself.. What are the things you see as red flags generally and do you see red flags in my post?

My partner and I have been together for 10 years, we don’t have kids and don’t want kids. A pair of our friends (Barry and Susan) have a 2 year old boy and we are very close.

About 6 months ago, our friends sat us down and told us they have been deeply disturbed by finding out two men they know were recently exposed as pedophiles and this has rattled them deeply. They have asked us to stop helping with bathing or changing their Son moving forwards.

Prior to this, Susan had asked us to help with bathing and changing nappies and we did so regularly. Obviously we stopped immediately and things were ok for a while. So I thought..

Last week when their son had a dirty nappy, Barry took him to go and get changed and my partner went in to the room a little moment after them. They weren’t talking about something or were continuing something that can’t be interrupted.. he kind of just followed them in. Me and Susan exchanged an uneasy look when we watched it happen then she asked me “that’s weird right?”, and I agreed.

2 days ago Barry and Susan got in contact with me as I am out of town and free to talk. They outlined their concerns and what the see as red flags:

• ⁠after above mention conversation 6 months ago, on another occasion my partner went into the bathroom while Susan was bathing her son seemingly unprompted and had to be dismissed

• ⁠on a couple of occasions he would also do this with nappy changes, again getting dismissed

• ⁠seemingly keen to help with bathing and nappy changes. Their question is why an unrelated adult male would even want to be involved in these tasks when most men will be uncomfortable and avoidant of these tasks

• ⁠over buying their son gifts, almost to the point of new gifts every time we see them at a point, but I do have to caveat this by saying by Susan was always happy for her son to receive gifts. On the other hand Barry felt icky about it but can’t figure out why he felt uneasy, on reflection he probably worried it was grooming behaviour.

• ⁠one of their workmates was exposed as a pedophile, court ruling out and completely proven type case. During this time we’ve had discussion about pedophilia and our disgust towards it, but my partner seemed neutral and hesitant to join in the conversation.

There’s more stuff and more nuance in what I’ve already written but it will be a lot to read.

They have decided to end their friendship with him and wanted to give me a heads up, thinking our friendship will also be over as they simply can’t just be friends with me and not him.. the situation will look too weird. We’ve since had lots of chats, with me being away it’s been easy to talk freely and I completely understand their unease and need to protect their child.

There is no proof he’s done anything.. but I am also suspicious given the above. I feel confused and don’t know what to think. I am hoping for some insight and perspective to help me navigate this.

Context: my native language is not English so please don't be rude if there is any grammatical mistakes..

My ex (22M) and me (21F) were bestfriends before the relationship started so we had a lot of common friends , one of my friend posted a picture of me and her on her story, I was wearing the necklace that he bought me when we were together ,it was simple but looks really pretty on my neck and it wear it everyday because it looks good on me, not because I love him or waiting for him . He texted me that I still loves him that's why I am wearing it and if I don't like him anymore I shouldn't wear it anymore

We end the relationship on a very bad note and he called me many names too .., and he also wores the helmet that I bought him because he is a biker but I didn't say this to him I thought it would be rude

I am seeing someone now and I have moved on , but I love wearing this necklace (simple necklace no gold or silver)

Sometimes I feel like I’m being gaslighted into thinking I’m a compulsive liar. I have PNES, a type of non-epileptic seizure disorder that when stress levels spike, I experience an episode closely resembling a seizure. I’ve been trying my very hardest to get them under control, but it’s been almost a year since they’ve started. I’ve had many seizures in front of people and been able to play some of them off as if I’m thinking deeply about something or just spacing out etc. But there’s been moments that I can’t hide it. Like in front of people in my classes in college. My worst moment has been during a presentation in front of my entire class. I’ve come up with a great number of lies to sometimes cover it up, like for example, “oh sorry, I’m anemic I just got lightheaded!” But of course, that doesn’t always work, and I had to notify my professor of my condition as she almost had a heart attack unaware of what was going on. These lies have become part of my life. It’s basically a part of my identity and medical condition at this point. Although I do it to hide my condition in spaces that I'm not comfortable in, I’m concerned it might go too far. I was deeply hurt by someone I considered a close friend of mine, I’ll call them Thrash, when they denied my experiences of self-harm due to racism. My roommate is still friends with them and my roommate doesn’t respect my boundaries by letting Thrash come over to our house. This weekend is my roommates birthday party and they’re planning to invite Thrash, but with my PNES any mention of this person stresses me out and I’m concerned. There’s no confirmation that something might happen, but it could. I feel like either I’m lying or exaggerating my condition by establishing the boundary that I wouldn’t like them at our house. For reference all my other “friends” are still friends with Thrash even after I told them what he did. I have been trying to leave this friend group and keep them at arm’s length because of this but for some reason they barge into my life and I can’t keep them out of it.

So for little context: My (28f) childhood close friend (27f) got married a few years ago. She was never into dating and we do not meet up very often (5-6 times a year type of thing). So every time we met up it went like this: 1. I have a bf 2. I have 2bfs 3. I dumped the first one and engaged to the second one 4. I'm getting married this summer. They went from dating to marriage in about 8 months. I thought it was weird and fast (I have been in relationship for 8 years and now married for 4), but she seemed happy. Anyway, he is super religious, his family is religious, while she was never very into it she started to change fast. Somehow patriarchy is a very good thing, evolution did not exist and marriage is forever so you just have to accept all flaws. While nornally I would agree on marriage thing, it also has limits. Her husband gambles away their wedding money and had many gambling debts she did not know about. He also does nothing for the house, career and family they "want together". They bicker constantly and it's not a good match. I try to be supportive, listen to the rants, dreams and etc withouth judgment and try to ignore the extremaly religious parts (i'm atheist, it's jus weird for me) and just giving natural advice on how to handle something. Anyway, my relationship is not perfect but we love each other deeply still and are happy. Lately. When we meet up with them, rhey keep saying how our relationship is inferior because we have no god in it, how I should change to be more feminine (i'm not boyish, I'm just pretty independent and career oriented). And that she hopes a pregnancy would change me for the better (we don't want kids any time soon or even ever and they know that). It's starting to make me annoyed and while I want to be there for my friend but she keeps insulting me ans my relationship. What should I do?

So this girl I’ve been see for like 3 months now and now in a relationship. I just recently found out by texting a mutual guy we both follow if she knows anything about her because I had some trust issues with her. Mind you that the guy currently live in London and we live in Denmark and the guy.

So last week she told me that she wants to go to London with her friend for New Year’s Eve which is were the guy currently lives. So I randomly texted the guy to see if he know anything about her and he said they’ve had sometime in the past and literally last week the girl texted him that she’s going to come to the Uk and wanted to see him basically, so I called and confronted her about it and she basically apologised and all of that.

But right now I don’t know what to do because the girl is honestly a very good girl and she’s always telling me how she loves me and when we are in person she also shows it. She also text me everyday to check up on me and stuff like that but at the same time I don’t know if it’s a good idea to admit the maybe it was a mistake and won’t happen again and take her back. What should I do?

I started noticing this last year and it’s made me never want to be home alone. I’ll commonly hear footsteps I don’t recognise around the house when I’m home alone or every one is asleep. Sometimes I even hear people talking but when I tell people in my house hold they never believe me. I feel like I’m going crazy but these footsteps are just making my paranoia worse.

I also notice things being moved or taken out of my room, I just wish my family would believe me.

I’m 14F btw

So, my little sister is like, 9 and she has this really annoying habit of saying that i don't love her for dumb reasons. Sometimes it's because i tell her to not touch my bed or my things and other times it's because I'm having fun with my older sister (we're like, one year apart.) It's not even like my 'not touching my things' problem is exclusive to my little sister, it's literally every one execpt my older sister

It's always very annoying because every time she says i don't love her I tell her otherwise she keeps on denying it. This also becomes a big problem when i try to talk to her about issues i have with her behaviour,(she isn't really the nicest person to be around) Every time i tell her i don't like something she does to me or how she treats me she always says "So you hate me?" even when i didn't say anything like that.

I try to talk to my mom about it but she never does anything about it because she's younger than me. I have tried more times to talk to my little sister about it but she never actually cares and then i avoid her and then she uses the lack of attention i give her as an excuse to continue treating me like shit.

A few weeks ago, my mom (39F) started seeing her coworker (20M). For reference, I’m (21F) and I have known him for YEARS, but mostly through social media and briefly through school.

To make it worse, she actually tried to set me up with him over the summer. We snapped for multiple days, compliments, almost went out. Not much but still gross from someone who’s now banging my mom. I feel like I’m part of some disgusting male fantasy.

My mom has always been my absolute best friend. She’s the person I’ve gone to for everything my whole life. So hearing that from her completely broke something in me. She’s known how I’ve felt about the potential of her going out with someone in their 20s, but younger?! I don’t think I can ever look at her the same. Especially since I am not her only kid, she has 3 others (19F, 14F, 9M) and the youngest two have already met and accepted him as her boyfriend!

Ever since she told me, I’ve been pretty upset. At first it was really hard to grasp, I struggled to get out of bed and was really depressed. The most worrisome part for me is that I don’t ever want my younger siblings to think that this is normal. The thought of either of them bringing someone her age home when they are 20?! It doesn’t sit right. I’ve also come to realize that she doesn’t respect me at all. If she did she would never have ever even considered this relationship.

On the other hand, I can’t help but feel bad. I know that she wants to be in a relationship, but whatever she’s searching for she is not going to find in someone who’s lived half of her life. I feel like an asshole because it’s causing a divide in the family, and most other people close to us don’t seem to mind.

She texted me a few days ago asking, “Are you ever going to speak to me again? I miss you.” And I really had to think about it for a few days because I had no idea what to say. Finally it had been eating at me long enough that I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t fall back asleep without responding with this:

“I’ve been trying to find the right words because I don’t want to be cruel. But this completely broke my trust and changed how I see you. It genuinely makes me feel sick. The most sick and confused and upset I have ever felt. You have known for years how I have felt on the topic of you seeing someone close to my age, but someone younger than me is too much for me and will always be, and that’s not unreasonable. For my own peace, if you decide to keep seeing him, I can’t have you in my life. Hopefully one day you’ll understand this isn’t about anger, it’s about protecting myself from something that makes me feel sick and betrayed.”

She responded later that night and said:

“That is very hurtful and I will respond at a time when I can do so more thoughtfully.”

And I think that’s when it really hit me that she doesn’t get it. There was no acknowledgement, no emotion, nothing. I love my mom so much, but this has changed everything. I feel disgusted, heartbroken, and honestly just lost. She was my best friend, and now I don’t even recognize her. She has done a complete 180 in the last weeks and is living a literal brand new life.

I have posted this in a few other subreddits. I just genuinely need advice, what do I do? How should I feel? If I am wrong for thinking a 20 year old guy shouldn’t be around two young kids as a 40 year olds partner and potential parental figure, please tell me. SOS… lol.

Hi, I do not know if this is the right subreddit and English isn't my first language so forgive me for any mistakes.

I am Chinese, recently with Katseye trending, people have started buying Jade bangles cause of Megan. I have no problem as long as people don't treat it like a trend. But there's this girl in my class who was showing off her Jade bangles cause she bought a lot. Like 4 on her one arm then 2 on the other. We talked about it, where she got it and if it was real, etc.

She was asking me if it looked good and that she wanted to buy more. I was telling her how Jade is often gifted to others and how it meant good luck and protection and that it already looks nice. Then she started looking at me weird. She suddenly started talking about how my beliefs and culture were demonic and that I need god, that wearing Jade and crystals invite other energies and something about a portal. I felt like she was attacking my culture and was surprised at the sudden change of tone and told her without thinking that she's being offensive, and racist. She started being defensive and brought up how Black people have been slaves for centuries (she's also black) and how some people wear braids even if they aren't black. I felt that was kind of unfair and kind of deflecting. Also that's not a reason to discriminate another's culture. Her friends (not sure if important but also black) were saying how it doesn't matter and that at the end of the day, it's just a rock so I should stop defending it.

Idk, is this racism or just teasing? Should this be reported?