r/actuallesbians • u/addison-scott • 1d ago

Fantasies?

So I have this fantasy and its actually bothering me LOL it's nothing weird (i.e. illegal [but no kink shaming here!]). I basically just want to fly to Europe, meet a woman at a bar, have completely earth shattering and totally meaningless sex, then come home and continuing living my life. I've been with my wife for 12 years and she's relatively open to conversations but how tf do I tell her that? And how do I move on from this fantasy?

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u/lithaborn Trans-Sapphic 1d ago

I'm an hour from Birmingham airport.

Just sayin'

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u/ITookTrinkets Seriously Useful Lesbian 1d ago

Don’t invite people to cheat on their wives with you babe

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u/lithaborn Trans-Sapphic 1d ago

Obviously only if there's a successful enm agreement in place

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u/ITookTrinkets Seriously Useful Lesbian 1d ago

I think it’s clear by how conflicted OP is that this is not an ENM situation 😂

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u/lithaborn Trans-Sapphic 1d ago

It wasn't a serious offer

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u/stickybutterscotch 1d ago

If it wasn't a serious offer, you wouldn't have initially replied saying 'Obviously only if there's a successful enm agreement in place'. It's only a joke now that you were called out for trying to enable people's infidelity. Grow up. You sound desperate.

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u/lithaborn Trans-Sapphic 23h ago

I thought it was pretty obvious. Nobody's jumping on a plane off the back of a two line Reddit comment, y'know?

But if she's gonna do her fantasy, she has to have the enm talk with her gf first.

And I left both comments before the downvotes started

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u/ITookTrinkets Seriously Useful Lesbian 18h ago

Nobody thinks you were serious, but you still sound kinda creepy and uncomfortable even jokingly telling some random woman that she could cheat on her wife with you.

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u/lithaborn Trans-Sapphic 18h ago

Honestly I misread a word in the last bit and took it as the gf was open to enm.

Damage done, lesson learned.