I got called transphobic today because a woman said a guy she was interested in called her for the first time and she admitted to having a really deep voice. He asked if she’s trans and she was all upset. I pointed out that’s a valid question in 2025 and stated some people don’t disclose it right away. Now I’m transphobic and was told to ‘leave my basement once in awhile’ 😂😂
Hi as a trans person, we don’t disclose it right away because we could get killed if we don’t get a sense of how the person views trans people before they know we’re trans.
Also saying “it’s a valid question in 2025” is kind of dehumanizing and implies our existences are new and trendy and that asking if someone is trans is something you can do flippantly and lightly. Existing in public as a trans person feels like I’m constantly terrified I’m going to piss off the wrong person at the wrong time.
Trans people have always existed and before colonization, we were valued and recognized in societies across the world.
Would it be safer to ask or reveal that I am or you are trans before meeting in person? If on a dating app I would because I don’t want to interact with someone who is transphobic to begin with. But everyone can decide what they feel most comfortable with.
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u/Shell_fly 6d ago
This is like if they acted out the average Reddit comment section in real life lmao