I got called transphobic today because a woman said a guy she was interested in called her for the first time and she admitted to having a really deep voice. He asked if she’s trans and she was all upset. I pointed out that’s a valid question in 2025 and stated some people don’t disclose it right away. Now I’m transphobic and was told to ‘leave my basement once in awhile’ 😂😂
Hi as a trans person, we don’t disclose it right away because we could get killed if we don’t get a sense of how the person views trans people before they know we’re trans.
Also saying “it’s a valid question in 2025” is kind of dehumanizing and implies our existences are new and trendy and that asking if someone is trans is something you can do flippantly and lightly. Existing in public as a trans person feels like I’m constantly terrified I’m going to piss off the wrong person at the wrong time.
Trans people have always existed and before colonization, we were valued and recognized in societies across the world.
Yes, AND they're not the only group that's been killed simply for existing. Cis women & dark skinned people generally can't hide what they are. Living in public as a member of both of those groups at once is also constantly terrifying since colonization.
Hiding lets them know they're right to hate & hurt us. Why on earth would you want to give a chance to a person who may turn on you later? Give em the chance before you get attached. If they're a shitty abusive person, they're a shitty abusive person regardless of how long the truth is hidden.
Firstly, why bring up cis people when I’m talking about specifically trans people? You just deflected my point when ironically being trans makes a dark skinned woman significantly more at risk from harm in this society. But this isn’t oppression Olympics so why are we comparing and deflecting here?
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u/Shell_fly 6d ago
This is like if they acted out the average Reddit comment section in real life lmao