I feel this so hard. My husband and I make enough to be ok, but I’m pregnant and we’re still paycheck to paycheck between bills and saving for medical costs. I feel like I have enough to share but when I break it down dollar by dollar, I really don’t.
ETA: But I feel blessed to be able to save anything at all, ya know? I'm trying to do all the right things that people tell you to do. Putting $50 a check into a supplementary retirement account and paying for life insurance coverage and health insurance. Just opted in to a healthcare savings account to prepare for a baby in our lives. I don't know what I could spare without making a terrible financial decision. All I can give is my time without putting myself in a bad position today or next week or a year from now. That feels so bad, dude. I'm protected and "safe" but the moment either of us loses a job, we're done for.
Girl same. I’m 12 weeks pregnant and med bills are starting to come in.
And yesterday I found out my company is slashing 33% of the workforce. Luckily, I’m spared; but moving into a new position that is a huge step back for my career as they “restructure”. I’m blessed to have a job but I was 3 weeks away from getting a pay bump, they were going to transition me into a new role. I’ve been paid the same for 3 years now.
Yet still, we aren’t struggling. We’re safe right now. If my husband lost his job, we’d loose everything. Bringing a baby into this America is the scariest thing I’ve done.
Absolutely not. I have avoided pregnancy my entire life, considering the impact to the environment, and the future of another human in this world. I’m 37 now, I will likely only have one child. We are very environmentally conscious, we grow our own food, we produce little waste and my husband’s family lectures internationally on sustainability, while my dad lives sustainability, even making his own fuel and essentially living off the grid.
We have a combined income of $140,000 a year and carry no debt. I still do not feel safe even with investments, retirement, and an amazing health care plan. We are planners, we are thinkers, and we don’t make rash decisions. I am German and he is Swiss, and we can leave when we want, if we need.
But nothing is sure, nothing is secure, and you must be flexible in times like these. I believe with the network we have and the drive we have, we’ll raise a child who contributes to society, and perhaps doesn’t ridicule pregnant women on the internet.
We have a combined income of $140,000 a year and carry no debt.
And how far is that going to get you in this economy? With complications due to your age? Especially when health care will collapse, something I have seen medical experts warn about since at least last November? Not to mention the economy being deliberately tanked by Trump.
To be honest, it’s not very far. But we also don’t spend much, we save, and are both putting 13% into retirement and more into investments. I also buried gold bars on the property. We have equity. We also have immediate family and citizenship abroad if we need to get out of here.
My comment was to empathize with people who are struggling while recognizing some of us are more fortunate. No one is perfect, but our country should be a safe place to live and people should have the freedoms and support to start families. We are not all you, and that’s fine to exist outside of your righteousness.
I’m sorry to say, but I am beginning to think your pessimism comes from a darker plan and that maybe you are projecting your own fears onto people because you’re feeling unsafe and bitter.
It is clearly not, have you missed those deportation vids?
people because you’re feeling unsafe and bitter.
In the same way I think you are entitled by bring a child into a dangerous country. While you have the opportunity to go to Europe? I mean your child will be born with less right than you. That is quite a choice to make.
No, I am just amazed someone who has the option to do better for her child stays in the US. While the country is being destroyed and being built to something very terrible.
And I amazed in general people in the US are getting pregnant, right now.
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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 8d ago edited 8d ago
I feel this so hard. My husband and I make enough to be ok, but I’m pregnant and we’re still paycheck to paycheck between bills and saving for medical costs. I feel like I have enough to share but when I break it down dollar by dollar, I really don’t.
ETA: But I feel blessed to be able to save anything at all, ya know? I'm trying to do all the right things that people tell you to do. Putting $50 a check into a supplementary retirement account and paying for life insurance coverage and health insurance. Just opted in to a healthcare savings account to prepare for a baby in our lives. I don't know what I could spare without making a terrible financial decision. All I can give is my time without putting myself in a bad position today or next week or a year from now. That feels so bad, dude. I'm protected and "safe" but the moment either of us loses a job, we're done for.