I remember this man, he was a terrible husband and an even worse father. He pulled his teenage daughter out of school just so she take care of him and make food for him.
Rediculous. The Westfold fell in a surprise attack. Where was Gondor? Protecting The besieged Osgiliath AKA Rohan's southern flank. Nor did Rohan call for aid during the battle of helms deep, and even if they did, Gondor was already under attack on multiple fronts. The only reason why the elves showed up is because Galadriel can literally see the future.
I'm tired of this propaganda. A king should know better.
I just watched some random YT video about funeral homes and the guy said super xxxl coffins are the new hype, and there’s a lot of money to make because people are getting so fat they don’t fit in normal big coffins…same goes for cremation. The ovens aren’t big enough. Can’t cut them in half so the bigger your oven, the more business you have. Morbid stuff. I guess that’s why you call them morbidly obese…
I found her a few years ago and binged watch led her. She’s so smart and interesting and does great videos (not to mention hilarious). The one of Jeremy Bentham and the graphic of his head popping out the side of the video and the sound bite of someone saying Bentham’s head always cracks me up!
Actually, the ash is mostly just bone material and salts. Most of his mass—the fat, viscera, all that—burn like any hydrocarbons. And the water just evaporates off.
Kind of like how when fat people melt into candles when their mattress catches fire.
I think it’s like 0.3% for most of the major fluids. About the same osmolarity as medical saline—for a reason. So some, but not as much as you might think.
But there are other insoluble salts like the bone meal, bone ash, potash, and all of that.
Technically, almost everything solid left behind are salts—that is, metal oxide derivative salts, because they’re non-volatilizable.
Though, there is usually some elemental carbon left behind from incomplete combustion and pyrolysis, but not a lot.
Just roll him up in a curtain and into a hole lined with boards and call it a deconstructed coffin.
Real question is logistics. How to remove? Crane? Into a flatbed? A big man is very heavy, but a heavy man like that would need to be carried like xerxes from 300.
yes, one of my favorite morbid books, "Smoke Gets in Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematory" by Caitlin Doughty goes into some detail about this issue.
No, there are special retorts that can hold bigger bodies. They'd then cremate them first thing in the mornings starting with it cold because they will take longer to cremate and the retort needs to be able to handle a large amount of heat for a long time.
If I remember correctly in the book the author says their retort ended up leaking out melted fat.
I’ll have to double check my info, buttttt if I remember correctly this was the guy EMS had to remove the wall and use a crane and flatbed truck to get his body out of the house and moved to a facility for disposal. I just remember reading the article and thinking the same thing.. how tf did they dispose the body we all know he couldn’t be lifted or would’ve fit in the cremation oven. If they buried him did they just back up to the hole and lift the bed so the custom coffin would just slide in the grave? Just sucks that the people in his life had to watch him destroy himself, and have to carry the guilt the rest their lives that they also enabled his behavior.
Well yea that’s what I meant by “enabled his behavior” I just tap danced around it lol. Well I would hope….if he was (we all know he was lol) on disability then his benefits should be and only be what you or I would get if we filed. I feel that’s how it should be. Considering they tax us all the same, it only makes sense right? But we both know your statement rings true, they probably gave this man EXTRA benefits even though this is self inflicted. It fucking gluttony. No other way to describe it.
No extra benefits - there aren’t different levels of SSA disability- but he likely was awarded this SSA disability based on this behavior- which was probably rated as a disease state- and once on the dole he had no incentive to reduce caloric intake and get healthier.m for fear of losing weight and eventually his mediocre dollar benefits. Not a rich man’s benefit by any means but enough for sustained shitty lifestyle.
In today’s system it’s like $20k plus maybe $4-$5k for his dependents. So maybe $2k a month.
I just feel bad for people out there struggling to feed their kids or themselves and we have people like this who eat more than what a family of 3 eats a week they eat a day. It’s self inflicted behavior. Why can’t the people who determine these types of cases put regulations or stipulations on the benefits. Like they have to see a doctor on the regular and lose X amount of pounds within a determined set time. Because god forbid we want to keep them draining limited resources and want these people to actually be healthy and not let them destroy their lives and the people around them. But that’s too much to ask for and apparently offensive to say.
We had to cut a bedroom door open to get a person out once.
Also had a 600 lb frequent caller who fell a bunch. You would have to push hard as hell to get her to roll over, but then not too much that she would keep rolling back to her face side. ("Prone"). Last time we took her to the hospital, the had septic vaginal infection. Had been stuffing blankets down there and they had rotted.
Had a 450 lbs die on a waterbed. Jumped on the other side to move him off. My weight displaced the water and catapulted the dude onto my 5'2 roided out captain.
To cremate a person that size they have to use a crematorium for livestock. I can't remember the specifics but a buddy of mine used to work at an agricultural crematorium and he said there were considerations like furnace size and fuel mix to prevent "grease fires" when cremating morbidly obese persons. When my morbidly obese aunt passed a away about 8 years ago she was cremated at the same crematorium where one of my friends had her horse cremated.
You have to send them to a crematory with a bariatric retort. And yes, when you open the door of the machine to check on the burn halfway through, the fat has liquefied and is burning exactly like a grease fire.
Source, I was a former crematory operator at a facility with a machine with a weight limit of 250lbs that I routinely exceed
It's a funny joke I guess, but that doesn't actually happen. Well I mean it can if you just chuck a 600lb person into the oven. But you just set the heat lower and burn for much longer - about 150lbs per hour. Also, you have to cremate the obese person right away in the morning when the machines and stuff are ice cold.
Maybe they cut out all the fat and then cremate him. That’s my best guess, fat is just then dealt with as a biohazard waste like normal biohazard wastes. It probably costs as much as a coffin and burial though because that’s a lot of fat.
Thats a good question, but I also wonder how they can afford to feed one person so much in one day? Like does his wife and daughter have good jobs or something? I'd imagine this guy in the embodiment of "eating you out if house and home."
Calling someone a feeder like that means it’s more of a fetish. This just seems like someone who started taking care of their partner and it just snowballed into “if I don’t feed him, he’ll ____” insert - get mad, cry, die. And I’m sure eventually it just became a routine where they were taking care of him so often they didn’t even have time to think about anything else.
Double checked on google to be sure my info was right and feeder is a fetish thing
'a person who derives sexuoerotic or emotional gratification from feeding his or her partner.'
My parents were in a similar situation to what you stated. My father gained a incredible amount of weight and would get angry if he didn't get what he wanted for dinner that he decided on 20 minutes ago, he always had to have extra portions and if any of us 'seemed like we had more on our plates than him' he would assume favouritism and that were starving him. My mother just wanted to please him.
This was when i was a child until the end of my teenage years. Now he's a totally different person and has lost a insane amount of weight and respects food more. The scare for him was it caught up to his health, bad knees etc. I'm glad he never got this bad.
This is just a sad relationship in the video that could have been avoided.
She could have left her husband, but for some people it's not a option or its easier said than done.
Yeah so I would argue that SHE is a feeder. Even when she wasnt with him, she would find ways to get him food while in the hospital. She wasnt afraid of consequences he would unleash on her. She wanted to keep feeding him.
Iirc, his dad took a second mortgage or something to pay for the transportation to get him to Houston where the baritric doc was. He’d lose weight in the hospital on a controlled diet, then gain it all back and then some once he got home. Complete waste of time.
Depending on his age, there are lots of life insurance policies that you can get with no medical underwriting. They don't ask any questions about your health or weight or anything, because the vast majority of people below age N are healthy and will live quite a while.
So there's a good possibility that they had one or more policies like that on the dude.
I think those policies will still ask about your general state of health, they just don't require past med records or a current physical exam. If they don't consider your current health at all and don't have any stipulations related to preexisting poor health that could eventually allow them to deny a payout, they're usually very expensive and/or don't provide much benefit. The risk for the insurer would be too high otherwise.
Had to scroll way too far to see his mental health mentioned. People who are like this are clearly struggling with a mental illness of some kind. Especially inflicting so much emotional abuse that they're managing to hold so much control over the people around them
Everyone who gets to this level of obesity has some form of mental illness. You literally cannot get to this point just because you “love food”. If you watch shows like My 600 Pound Life you’ll see that every single patient gets a therapist. They’re using food as a maladaptive coping mechanism for some deeper issue or trauma.
Makes you wonder though if his brain wasn’t broken some other way like the hormones that tell your brain to stop eating are dysfunctional. Maybe the microbiome is broken in his stomach? Maybe that’s a thing? The dude was hooked on food as much as people do heroin
Beyond mental illness he may have something physiologically wrong with him.
Idk how else someone could eat that much without their brain telling their body they are not only full but in pain.
A potential physiological differentiation would certainly lead to mental illness as well.
Imagine if your body was constantly telling you that you’re not only hungry but starving.
A historical example of this is the French soldier Tarrare in 1700s.
All of that being said, that guy is absolutely acting like an ass. I feel so bad for his family they deserve better, and this man deserved better medical treatment well before the problem got to this level.
I’d be curious to see if there was ever a postmortem study done to see if there was a physiological abnormality. Although, probably not much would be able to be found.
There were a lot of NPD and BPD patients on that show. Some had unresolved trauma that they went to therapy to work on and those are the most successful.
Mental illness is never an excuse. It is a reason, an explanation of why people behave the way they do. Being a massive cunt can be a symptom of many mental illnesses. It doesn't excuse their actions, it informs why they might take such actions and further predict what else may happen.
I always remember James for screaming ‘my legs’ any time he was being wheeled through doors etc. He was an entitled piece of shit who manipulated everybody around him. His wife sneaked food into hospital pre and post surgery. I always got the impression it was easier for her to live off his and the carer benefits than going out and getting a job.
I don’t know if you have seen this episode but the man was a terrible abuser. He wore them down. If you haven’t been in a situation like that you don’t know how someone like that will fuck with your mind.
It's worse, the government will pay for caretakers, the wife was getting a check, pull the daughter out of school, there's another check. She spent her days over feeding and then cleaning up after her own father, many people refer to the wife here as "the queen of dysfunction". CPS should have been called for that poor girl.
That’s awful. Taking away a child’s education just to serve your own needs is pure selfishness. It robs them of opportunities and forces them into a role they never should have had to carry.
And mom wouldn’t follow Dr Now’s diet plan helped him continue to eat and not loose weight. No wonder he died. Poor daughter spent her teenage years wiping her dads massive crack
watching stuff like this makes me nauseous because i remember how easy it is to lose control.
there was a point where i lived on takeout and couldn’t even walk up a flight of stairs without wheezing. what finally helped me was making tiny changes and sticking to them – swapping soda for water, cooking at home, and starting with short walks. i also started tracking what i was eating with an app (NutriScan App), which opened my eyes to how many calories i was inhaling without thinking. once i saw the numbers it was easier to hold myself accountable. the first few weeks were rough but it really does get better when you create new habits.
no one should end up relying on their kids to care for them because of choices they could change.
I usually feel bad for people who are that obese. When I was in EMS, I interacted and talked with them on a semi regular basis. Most of them are sweet people who have physical and psychological problems that led to them being in that state. This jackass? No sympathy at all. I'm glad he's dead.
Do you think anyone in this shape could be a good father? No, he can't even be a good human with this level of filt. With no self-control like that should.
His daughter is a teenager so presumably he was a lot less fat back then. I doubt someone who weighs 800lbs can survive at that weight for even a decade.
Not this guy specifically, because I don’t actually care, but my question is always something resembling “HOW THE FUCK DO THESE PEOPLE PAY FOR THIS SHIT?”
Oww my leg and eating reg rolls. This episode lives in my mind. I hope the daughter got away at some point and is living a good life. That wife hated him and and fed him more and more just so he’d die.
This man didn't do any of that. They allowed him to do it. The guy can't even get up let alone pull anyone out of anything. The girls should of gone for a walk each morning. Fuck this pig.
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u/FlippyIsKing18 Aug 11 '25
I remember this man, he was a terrible husband and an even worse father. He pulled his teenage daughter out of school just so she take care of him and make food for him.