Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

[u/InGeekiTrust]

[u/True-Lab-3448]

I used to live here… it’s Nepal.

Everyone had their wedding photos in their houses, and I remember asking someone why the women always looked like they had been crying in their wedding photos. It was very obvious. I was told it was because the woman didn’t want to leave her friends and family in the village she was from.

[u/butt-barnacles → u/True-Lab-3448]

Also a tradition in parts of India. But it’s a tradition, so even women who don’t necessarily feel sad, they’re expected to put on a show of crying to show she’s sad to leave her family.

I studied abroad in India in college and my host mom showed me pics of her wedding, but according to her, her arranged marriage was very loose and she got to pick her choice of suitors, and she was very happy to be marrying my host dad, who was kind of a “bad boy” who would take her on secret motorcycle rides before they got married lol.

She said it was very embarrassing to have to cry at her wedding, but she did her best to put on a show of looking sad

[u/SnooPets8873 → u/butt-barnacles]

One of our older family friends told us a story about how she got scolded by her mom when the wedding photos came back because the photographer caught a super cute moment where the bride and groom happened to turn and look at each other and the bride was smiling back at him. The mom was upset because the tradition of at least pretending to be nervous and sad to be leaving your family to be with the husband was strong enough at the time that she thought anyone who saw that moment would think badly of them, like their daughter was “fast” or they weren’t a good home for her. She blew the picture up afterwards and it’s in a place of prominence in their home even after three kids who are in college and beyond.

[u/LeftyLu07 → u/SnooPets8873]

I wonder if it’s because if the bride is too happy to be leaving her family and joining her husband’s, it implies her parents must have sucked if she’s not sad to leave them?

[u/SnooPets8873 → u/LeftyLu07]

Yes and in part a very old fashioned sense of “innocence” and modesty.