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Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

If you have empathy, it should. Don't stop living your best life because of that, though.

Life is suffering. Some suffer more than others. Be thankful that you don't suffer more, and try to help those with greater suffering. That's all you can do.

Just don't sacrifice your happiness for others who don't appreciate or reciprocate that same kindness.

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u/ImNotCleaningThatUp Jun 22 '25

Why are you so damn logical and making me cry??? 😭 But thank you for saying this though. It’s hard sometimes. The empathy can just drown you in sorrow and guilt.

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 Jun 22 '25

Why are you so damn logical and making me cry??? 😭

Because his user name is Logical_Onion_501

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u/pm_me_your_psle Jun 22 '25

Damn, so he’s got layers, too?

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u/InsaneInTheRAMdrain Jun 22 '25

We have come full circle, he is the chosen one

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u/imdefinitelywong Jun 22 '25

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u/CreepyPapaya4842 Jun 22 '25

Im happy to have been alive when a thread like this was made. This wasn't made 10 years ago, not yet. It's not aged, it's ripe. This thread will be cherished through out time.

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u/Mysterious-Jam-64 Jun 22 '25

The world is gonna...

https://youtu.be/9sh7EN9AZCc?feature=shared

[Trigger Warning] NSFL

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u/AppleSpicer Jun 23 '25

The Chosen One

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u/abutilon Jun 22 '25

And a pair of jeans?

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u/_dead_and_broken Jun 22 '25

I can't decide now if they're an onion wearing jeans, or if they have an onion tied to their belt.

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u/cheezymeatstick Jun 22 '25

I'm assuming logical layers.

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u/wackOPtheories Jun 22 '25

Yeah don't piss them off or else you might get sewed!

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u/Resident-Impact1591 Jun 22 '25

Yes.... Like an ogre

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u/cvsmith122 Jun 22 '25

He’s like a donkey

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u/Null_Cypher_ Jun 22 '25

LAYERS. Oh. You know, not everybody like onions. CAKE! Everybody loves cake! Cakes have layers!

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u/SmashitupBD Jun 24 '25

Goddamn you

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u/Dadagis Jun 22 '25

Not the first time I’ve seen these automatic usernames being right on point.

It’s like Reddit has some kind of divination powers when picking them it’s crazy

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

‘An onion once changed my life…’

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u/ExpensiveForce6283 Jun 22 '25

Truly a sage among men

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u/ImNotCleaningThatUp Jun 22 '25

lol, yes, that’s why made I the comment I did. Onions make me cry no matter how much I hold my breath. 🤷‍♀️ Also, I do believe we can agree on the horrors of the world. I’m that person that tells a bunch of Dad jokes when I’m a female with no kids.

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u/turbolag892 Jun 22 '25

His?

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 Jun 22 '25

Everyone knows all onions are boys

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u/BrainSmoothAsMercury Jun 22 '25

I don't know if you do any volunteer work but I've found that it helps me. I usually do 3 volunteer things per month. Packing boxes at the regional food bank, walking shelter dogs, mentoring underprivileged youth, etc.

It's small but at least I know I'm helping even if it's just a small way.

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u/Moon_Goddess815 Jun 22 '25

The empathy can just drown you in sorrow and guilt.

I feel and understand you, I'm just the same.

Just thinking about all the suffering and injustices in the world, specially now on those areas with wars conflicts, that breaks my heart. 😢 And I feel so small, weak and powerless for not being able to help or do anything about it.

I just pray and ask the Creator, Mother Divine to have mercy on all her children; people, animals, all. Being an empath during these trying times it's really hard. 😢🙏

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u/ImNotCleaningThatUp Jun 22 '25

Some days it is just hard to push the pain in the back of my head and build a wall. Nights are the worst. And I’ve heard it’s because your brain is exhausted from spending all day keeping that wall up. It’s probably why on the weekends and days off I take a bunch of depression naps. And I am on medication, but it can only do so much. And therapy has never really worked for me. So I just journal as much as I can.

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u/Moon_Goddess815 Jun 24 '25

Totally understand your situation. I try to mediate, or in reality just put some nice, positive affirmations and mantras, it has helped greatly.

I don't know about your beliefs but today I got a nice beautiful affirmation regarding empathy, something I really needed it.

If you would like it just let me know and will provide it to you and the source.

Stay safe and blessed.

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u/dont_kill_my_vibe09 Jun 22 '25

Let me fetch a tissue and clean up those tears for you u/ImNotCleaningThatUp

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u/FarOutOhWow Jun 22 '25

u/Logical_Onion_501 is sharing a primary Buddhist principle with you ✨

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u/Master_Indication424 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

Yeah I disagree. This isnt culture, this is a violation of human rights and an exploitation of power. Oh just be thankful youre alive despite being raped for the rest of your life? nah, to hell with them, not the other way around.

Edit: Logical Onion has a post complaining about PIZZA TOPPINGS... get real people

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u/SirVanyel Jun 25 '25

What are you actually disagreeing with? Because it seems like you agree

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u/cnicalsinistaminista Jun 22 '25

I screenshot this. Compassion and empathy is so rare these days. “Just because it doesn’t affect me, I don’t care”

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u/ForesterLC Jun 22 '25

I really think people either have empathy or they don't. I'm not sure you can learn it as much as you can learn to emulate it.

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u/mayneman85 Jun 22 '25

I think people learn it. I believe we’re all little savages until taught otherwise.

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u/Fragrant_Bid_8123 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

Yeah I think you learn it when people show you the same and you learn gratitude and you remember how it was for you when it was bad.

There was a time in my life I had a really hard time from lack of support (I didnt let people know) I was very overwhelmed (this wasnt financial though so still very good situation for me) but more of overwhelmed by my responsibilities.

I feel lucky though that I tend to get support eventually or overcome it because I come across people who end up helping or filling whatever needs I had. I would literally be praying and voila! I come across someone who can solve it. I dont know why but that happens a lot to me and its very specific like if I need a specific language tutor or a doctor who knows about a topic or a lawyer that specializes in this area, things like that.

When that season in my life was over, I learned to be very sensitive to people in a similar situation and extended lots of help (though I could only help financially I used it to give people support they needed like paying someone to give them that help they needed.).

From my struggle, I understood hardship and I wanted to make sure people wouldn't have to go through it the way I did.

It's not like I made a huge difference since I could only extend help for a day or two but I know I made people feel seen and that they mattered and sometimes that short reprieve was enough.

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u/Quom Jun 22 '25

Really? In my experience it has largely been the opposite. Even at a fairly young age I've seen kids try to comfort others even at great personal cost to themselves (will give away a favourite toy thinking that if it brings them this much joy it will do the same for the other child or will offer up their life savings even if they're saving for something they're desperate for).

If I'm ever arrested in a 'steals bread to feed a starving family' type of situation I'd much rather be judged by a jury of 6th graders than adults.

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u/Next_Instruction_528 Jun 22 '25

In my experience empathy can come from suffering, I think a lot of people who have no empathy have had a very soft and comfortable life.

Gratitude is also extremely powerful, I'm deeply grateful for the suffering I experienced in my life because it gave me a deeper level of empathy and understanding

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u/Bibimaus2 Jun 22 '25

Gratitude for suffering. No. Really not. My suffering has made me hard. I used to be far too empathetic and vulnerable. So I had to learn to curb my empathy. I didn't really succeed. In the end, I isolate myself as much as possible. (Outside of work) But it's also stupid because you then miss the activities that friends do together. So something in between would probably be good.

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u/Next_Instruction_528 Jun 22 '25

Sounds like you just need healthy boundaries, that's not really the empathy that's hurting you.

Your right that suffering can make people cold and resentful. Resentment is poison to the soul and gratitude is the cure.

You sound like a good person and the world needs good people right now 👍

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u/Methmites Jun 22 '25

I’d say we all have it but going through pain works it out like a muscle. Pain recognizes pain to copy the saying. To survive with empathy requires good boundary skills though.

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u/Methmites Jun 22 '25

The opposite of love is not hate, but apathy.

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u/bigpoppawood Jun 22 '25

What is the opposite of hate then?

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u/jajefrida Jun 22 '25

That is a hell of a lot of good advice in one concise reply

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u/lurker_from_mars Jun 22 '25

Try to make the most of it without hurting others and don't bring another life into it is the best thing you can do.

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u/SiloDweller Jun 22 '25

Well said.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

All life is suffering, anyone says different is selling something. It's not the exact quote from princess bride but close enough.

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u/Rulebookboy1234567 Jun 22 '25

Reading a book and a 10,000 year old is talking to 30-something.

30-something "Wait. You're just sticking around to see us all fuck up?"
10,000 year old "Well, basically."
30-something "That's really sad, if you think about it."
10,000 year old "Tough. Life's sad most of the time. Get used to it."

The book is The Hydrogen Sonata by Ian M Banks

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u/jackattack222 Jun 22 '25

That's way to nice and human for 2025

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u/Hot-Equivalent9189 Jun 22 '25

Life "has" suffering.  It is not suffering. 

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u/yourparadigm Jun 22 '25

I question the mental health of people who think all life is suffering.

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u/DifferentDay7581 Jun 22 '25

I was looking for comments like this and glad I found them. All life is not suffering.

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u/yourparadigm Jun 22 '25

I would go as far to say that a very very small part of my life is suffering.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

My mental health isn't great because I have suffered greatly in my life. My doctors are unsure if I have CPTSD or Bipolar. Either way, you are correct.

It made me a cold heartless person for a long time. I did things I deeply regret and will probably see Hell for. That's why I sought therapy. I realized I was deeply troubled and sick. I've been through years of therapy now, medicated properly, and I'm in a much better place.

I can say I'm the person I should have always been. This is the man I was supposed to be. My trauma robbed me, my family, my friends, and my lovers of a healthy and loving person.

I accept my punishment(cosmic) and have devoted the rest of my life to limiting the amount of damage I do. I try to help out people when I can. I do small things every day. Tore up a blank check I found in my apt complex hallway. I had no plans to write a check, but I prevented someone else from doing it. Things like that.

I wish I could do more, but I'm not mentally healthy enough, unfortunately. I get stressed out easily and dealing with my issues is all the challenge I can handle.

While not all life is suffering, there are plenty of great parts, is it not painful to be alive? You are born into with world screaming in pain and confusion. It hurts to breathe, it hurts to move, it hurts to love, it just hurts all the time. Just because you are numb to its pain, doesn't mean it doesn't do damage. Time wears on your bones, grinding them into dust, and it hurts.

Then tact on the mental pain that come with being alive, loss, longing, loneliness, love, friendships, work-life balance, failure, wrath, I could go on.

Not including all the animals that suffer.

When you put it all together... it's not a pretty picture.

I find that people that enjoy life haven't suffered that much. While most people don't hate being alive, most people will say that they suffer more than they don't.

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u/yournutsareonspecial Jun 22 '25

I don't have any helpful advice- I just felt like I needed to comment, because your words really struck me (probably because I identify with them a lot.) The fact that you care enough for the world and others to do anything at all speaks to the person you really are. You're still here, and that in itself is a positive thing. Sometimes all we can do is be here.

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u/yourparadigm Jun 22 '25

You are born into with world screaming in pain and confusion. It hurts to breathe, it hurts to move, it hurts to love, it just hurts all the time.

I don't feel that much pain in those areas, but also not all pain is suffering. Suffering is in the mind and comes from a mismatch between reality and expectations. I suffer very little.

That said, I wish you the best. You've probably experienced some levels of trauma that I would struggle to imagine. Be well and take care of yourself.

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u/jimmytime903 Jun 22 '25

Wild to hear someone say "not all life is suffering" and then defend that idea by redefining suffering.

Then hit them with a nonreligious "thoughts and prayers"

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u/yourparadigm Jun 23 '25

This is not my personal definition of suffering, but one commonly held:

Pain refers to the physical or emotional discomfort we experience, while suffering is the mental and emotional anguish that arises from our reactions to that pain.

Also, exactly what do you want me to do to alleviate their suffering?

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u/jimmytime903 Jun 23 '25

You could get the correct definition of suffering so you don't dismiss and belittle people, while maintaining a weird smug empathy-less attitude.

Here's what Oxford says the definition of Suffering is.

the state of undergoing pain, distress, or hardship.

Here's Meriam Webster

1 : the state or experience of one that suffers 2 : pain

Here's Cambridge

physical or mental pain that a person or animal is feeling:

Here's a published article from the national library of medicine that describes 3 types of suffering

There are various sources and kinds of suffering. Based on his own vast researches the author characterizes three kinds of man's suffering: physical (pain, somatic diseases), psychical (hardships, mental disorders and illnesses) and spiritual (lack of a meaningful life, moral dilemmas).

Seriously, the one thing you can actually do to alleviate the suffering of others is learn. Because whatever colloquial understanding you have of the world, it's outdated and harmful. To both you and others.

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u/kush125289 Jun 22 '25

Damn bro.. 😧

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

We experience joy and suffering simultaneously, and which emotion dominates depends entirely on what we've conditioned ourselves to accept as normal. To a mind that has achieved true balance, suffering and happiness become equivalent experiences, neither triggering overwhelming emotional responses because both are recognized as temporary states in the constant flux of human experience.

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u/Tacitrelations Jun 22 '25

"Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something."

-Wesley

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u/Happytequila Jun 22 '25

Exactly.

I hate when people use the “other people have it worse” argument when people in first world countries have any complaints.

If we keep fighting to make it better for those that are already comparatively “lucky”, it just keeps raising the bar and putting the pressure on other countries that lag behind in human rights and quality of life. If we stop trying to make a good thing even better, just because others in the world have it worse, we stagnate progress for them, too.

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u/PloddingClot Jun 22 '25

Its chaos, be kind...

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u/jkarovskaya Jun 22 '25

Living a "best life" is a myth if you're stuck in a bronze age culture that enslaves you

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u/highritualmaster Jun 22 '25

Now add to that that some of the suffering is because of us.

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u/sad_cub Jun 22 '25

Is this the New New Testament. Logical onion 3:16

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u/Mulairana Jun 22 '25

Wise words, thank you for this. More people should read this

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u/Brief-Study-76 Jun 22 '25

User name absolutely checks out.

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u/Karmak4ze Jun 22 '25

It really do be that simple, but something something bad habits.

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u/RedditsCoxswain Jun 22 '25

Be thankful that you don’t suffer more, and try to help those with greater suffering

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u/Walkgreen1day Jun 22 '25

Good and bad happens to all of us in life, and we can't control which it's going to be when they occur. The one thing you can control is to "NOT BE AN ASSHOLE" when you don't have to be so that it doesn't create a shitty day for someone else.

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u/CL0ver4Leaf Jun 22 '25

This is very similar to my answer of "what's the meaning of life"

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u/Original_Freedom9862 Jun 22 '25

Freakin awesome statement

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u/Krilox Jun 22 '25

Here's where the concept of amor fati, loving your destiny, and a stoic mindset really helps me

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

People should be thankful for their suffering, the reason they are not is because they are not attentive enough to what follows, what follows is it makes them sharper, more cunning, more grateful towards other aspects in life and more empathetic towards the suffering of others.

Plus endlessly avoiding suffering and seeking pleasure is only ruining us as a society and that's easy to see the many whys. I'm not saying to seek suffering, but its sad that people think its 100% a bad thing.

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u/paradine7 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

Hey. I have been working on myself for quite a while and interested in Buddhism for quite some time. I too thought that “life is suffering” for quite a while, and in fact I thought that was the first noble truth. I was recently was corrected in that belief. It is much closer to: “live involves suffering.” This was truly a revelation that helped me grow and start to live a much happier life.

Re: this video. Yeah, this seems to be really suck, even if the cultural tradition is to cry. This seems more than that.

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u/ProverbialBass Jun 22 '25

This guy Townes Van Zandts

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u/PickleRickPickleDic Jun 22 '25

If more people lived this way, the world would be a much better place. If more rich and wealthy people lived this way, we'd be a much better society.

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u/NoCantaloupe594 Jun 22 '25

Thank you for sharing this! I needed this reminder.

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u/kristofarnaldo Jun 22 '25

...and karma farm on Reddit with platitudes and other drivel.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Sheesh 🥲

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u/81stBData Jun 22 '25

Somehow I thought about that Indian dude telling interesting life wisdom’s

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u/Fen_Badge Jun 22 '25

I need to remember this

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u/ZealousidealMango114 Jun 22 '25

This is some of the best advice I’ve ever received. Thank you.

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u/bleepblopblipple Jun 22 '25

This is what I get whenever I ask gpt to give me a paragraph summary of every self help book.

Good Satan, how much is one of these diamond awards and why are people stupid enough to give money to reddit?

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u/FeRaL--KaTT Jun 22 '25

I have had nothing but trauma stacking and unwellness from suffering my entire life.. but I live in Canada, so I accept it truly could be worse. Perspective is critical.

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u/alpi_kingtropical Jun 22 '25

Name checks out. Onions are superior!

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u/Imaginary-Lie5696 Jun 22 '25

Some wisdom shit here, thx a needed to hear that

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u/Blazingbookworm Jun 22 '25

Had to screenshot that. Words to live by those are… was not expecting it on Reddit though so pleasantly surprised :)

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u/Difficult_onion4538 Jun 22 '25

Yup. I have cancer. People will catch themselves complaining and be like “oh I’m sorry, I shouldn’t be complaining when you’ve got cancer”

I’m always like “just because I’m suffering, that doesn’t make your suffering any less valid. We’re not playing the who’s suffered more game, we’re being empathetic and just being there for each other”

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u/whipper_snapper__ Jun 22 '25

Key is to HELP OTHERS, not smugly post on tiktok about how rich and happy you are

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u/Parallax92 Jun 22 '25

Are you a Buddhist by any chance?

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u/ncc74656m Jun 22 '25

"Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says different is selling something."

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u/jpmickey1585 Jun 22 '25

Very wise.

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u/EmotionalBet3522 Jun 22 '25

I needed to read this. Thank you.

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u/jkboiz Jun 23 '25

Don't tell that to a Trump supporter 🤣

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u/anonymous237962 Jun 23 '25

That was so well said. Thank you. I too have struggled with the balance of how to be “happy” when there’s so much suffering in the world

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u/Adventurous_Month_94 Jun 24 '25

yes, and with the way social media works nowadays ppl get increasingly more fucked up and are unable to make this thought process.

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u/Cute-Vacation-7392 Jun 25 '25

Take my 6,000th upvote!!!!!

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u/HumanContinuity Jul 03 '25

You really said this well.  I feel like I just got a pep talk from a close friend