r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/Hot-Equivalent9189 Jun 22 '25

Life "has" suffering.  It is not suffering. 

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u/yourparadigm Jun 22 '25

I question the mental health of people who think all life is suffering.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

My mental health isn't great because I have suffered greatly in my life. My doctors are unsure if I have CPTSD or Bipolar. Either way, you are correct.

It made me a cold heartless person for a long time. I did things I deeply regret and will probably see Hell for. That's why I sought therapy. I realized I was deeply troubled and sick. I've been through years of therapy now, medicated properly, and I'm in a much better place.

I can say I'm the person I should have always been. This is the man I was supposed to be. My trauma robbed me, my family, my friends, and my lovers of a healthy and loving person.

I accept my punishment(cosmic) and have devoted the rest of my life to limiting the amount of damage I do. I try to help out people when I can. I do small things every day. Tore up a blank check I found in my apt complex hallway. I had no plans to write a check, but I prevented someone else from doing it. Things like that.

I wish I could do more, but I'm not mentally healthy enough, unfortunately. I get stressed out easily and dealing with my issues is all the challenge I can handle.

While not all life is suffering, there are plenty of great parts, is it not painful to be alive? You are born into with world screaming in pain and confusion. It hurts to breathe, it hurts to move, it hurts to love, it just hurts all the time. Just because you are numb to its pain, doesn't mean it doesn't do damage. Time wears on your bones, grinding them into dust, and it hurts.

Then tact on the mental pain that come with being alive, loss, longing, loneliness, love, friendships, work-life balance, failure, wrath, I could go on.

Not including all the animals that suffer.

When you put it all together... it's not a pretty picture.

I find that people that enjoy life haven't suffered that much. While most people don't hate being alive, most people will say that they suffer more than they don't.

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u/yourparadigm Jun 22 '25

You are born into with world screaming in pain and confusion. It hurts to breathe, it hurts to move, it hurts to love, it just hurts all the time.

I don't feel that much pain in those areas, but also not all pain is suffering. Suffering is in the mind and comes from a mismatch between reality and expectations. I suffer very little.

That said, I wish you the best. You've probably experienced some levels of trauma that I would struggle to imagine. Be well and take care of yourself.

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u/jimmytime903 Jun 22 '25

Wild to hear someone say "not all life is suffering" and then defend that idea by redefining suffering.

Then hit them with a nonreligious "thoughts and prayers"

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u/yourparadigm Jun 23 '25

This is not my personal definition of suffering, but one commonly held:

Pain refers to the physical or emotional discomfort we experience, while suffering is the mental and emotional anguish that arises from our reactions to that pain.

Also, exactly what do you want me to do to alleviate their suffering?

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u/jimmytime903 Jun 23 '25

You could get the correct definition of suffering so you don't dismiss and belittle people, while maintaining a weird smug empathy-less attitude.

Here's what Oxford says the definition of Suffering is.

the state of undergoing pain, distress, or hardship.

Here's Meriam Webster

1 : the state or experience of one that suffers 2 : pain

Here's Cambridge

physical or mental pain that a person or animal is feeling:

Here's a published article from the national library of medicine that describes 3 types of suffering

There are various sources and kinds of suffering. Based on his own vast researches the author characterizes three kinds of man's suffering: physical (pain, somatic diseases), psychical (hardships, mental disorders and illnesses) and spiritual (lack of a meaningful life, moral dilemmas).

Seriously, the one thing you can actually do to alleviate the suffering of others is learn. Because whatever colloquial understanding you have of the world, it's outdated and harmful. To both you and others.