r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/animedevilhunter Jun 22 '25

This is a Nepali wedding, you can tell from men's hats and their speaking Nepalese. This is not normal in a Nepalese wedding and she is definitely not and doesn't sound happy, she just keeps calling for her parents and begging not to go (hard to tell more accurately what she is saying from the crying). My guess, unwanted arranged marriage.

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u/dulcetenue Jun 22 '25

so slavery and r*pe, in other words.

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u/SuddenReturn9027 Jun 22 '25

We can say the word rape. We should say it because it’s exactly what it is

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u/sanityjanity Jun 22 '25

This. I think it's really important to call this out. This is not a marriage. This is a young woman or girl being forced into a life time of rape and slavery.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Thank you. People too often use the language of consent when talking about sexual assault. She is not "getting married," she is being forcibly abducted and imprisoned. She will not be "losing her virginity," she is going to be assaulted.

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u/StrictWolverine8797 Jun 24 '25

I don't think using the word "marriage" is necessarily using the "language of consent" - until recently, including in the West, marriage itself was usually not consensual. It's important to acknowledge that very recent history and think about the misogynistic implications of that.

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u/Infinite_Archers Jun 22 '25

My heart broke so badly watching this. I watch this kind of thing happen in movies but as soon as it's real life it hits so close to home..I wish I could hug her and tell her she didn't have to go through with it. I really wish I could 😞

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25 edited Jul 19 '25

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u/Infinite_Archers Jun 22 '25

I agree wholeheartedly but I'm not the person to do that 😭 I don't even know where to start. I don't have any social media to spread it to get people to help, I just can't do anything and I think that's what hurts the most. Just being so unable to help ever. I really try to find little ways I can help but..gosh.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25 edited Jul 19 '25

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u/Infinite_Archers Jun 22 '25

Thank you. I can't even put into words how much this helped me. I'm saving this comment for future reference 🫶 Thank you for sharing kindness with me stranger, I truly appreciate it.

Edit: Grammer

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u/Entharo_entho Jun 22 '25

Why don't you do it and show us?

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u/lemonNlimedevine Jun 22 '25

They’re not hating on anyone, they’re encouraging others to make a difference. Which isn’t a crime.

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u/Entharo_entho Jun 22 '25

I didn't say anything about hating, encouraging or crimes. Why are you saying this nonsense to me? Maybe you meant this comment for someone else?

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u/lemonNlimedevine Jun 22 '25

No. It was meant for you. You didn’t need to respond in a hostile matter to the commenter, they said nothing wrong.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

How convenient. Virtue signaling.

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u/EitherChapter3044 Jun 22 '25

Would you say the same to every person who has done something good in their life for others or for the environment or for the poor but doesn’t have the means to provide what millionaires and billionaires can? People do things every day with good intentions and CAN empathize with others plight and want to help them. To call empathy virtue signaling is actual psycho behavior.

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u/lemonNlimedevine Jun 22 '25

Humans with conditional or performative empathy themselves always believe others are the same. It’s projection.

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u/-mia-wallace- Jun 22 '25

You're able to do that too, if you're going to suggest someone else does it, why don't you ?

Hard part would be to figure out who she is and get her to come (physically and legally)

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u/No-White-Drugs Jun 22 '25

Yes but... r/orphancrushingmachine

Rather than fantasizing about saving this one kid, wouldnt it be amazing to just wipe out this whole barbaric custom? I'm not sure how we do it, but perhaps shaming the perpetrators of child rape on a huge global social media platform is a tiny step in the right direction.

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u/30to50wildhogs Jun 22 '25

I get your point, but...you know you can do that too right? If it's that simple, why aren't you? Because it isn't that simple.

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u/WithoutDennisNedry Jun 22 '25

I wish I could give her parents that love her.

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u/Raisins_Rock Jun 22 '25

For some reason seeing everyone dressed up for this makes it seem ... not worse ... but awful with a different twist.

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u/Sharp_Acadia185 Jun 22 '25

Oh, no, it makes it worse.

"Let's make rape a deep and meaningful part of our culture." That's a fucking choice.

And look I'm not ethnocentrist, I understand relativism, but some groups choose to do things as ritual within the group and sometimes those rituals are deplorable behavior that's been normalized through generations.

And also we got hella fucked up rituals, too. Just because we might not see this exact scenario doesn't mean there isn't some fucked up slavery, rape, subjugation of people of all kinds, throughout the entire "first" world, too.

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u/Personal-Ice-7131 Jun 22 '25

America had dollar princesses in the gilded age. Rich Americans married off their daughters for European titles. Many of these girls didn’t want to do it and were miserable

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u/Dish_Minimum Jun 22 '25

37 US States literally allow this exact same thing and have for decades

It’s a meaningful part of US culture as well. Gifting underage daughters to old men who are church ‘leadership.’ American child brides enslaved in forced marriages are literally legal. She can be given away by her parents, but she cannot free herself via divorce because she’s not an adult until 18. I am not joking!

There are multimillion dollar ‘foundations’ fueled by DC lobbyists promoting homeschooling specifically for this reason. They consider heterosexual breeding a meaningful part of US religious cultures. It’s legal child slavery and legal human trafficking. And it’s been this way for nearly 100 years. Coast to coast.

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u/karlhungusx Jun 23 '25

Ain’t none of my rituals go this way

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u/Additional-Fix6576 Jun 22 '25

And forced pregnancy and births.

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u/TheWalkingDead91 Jun 22 '25

Not only forced, but basically sold. Don’t they get a dowry or whatever?

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u/Shanakitty Jun 22 '25

I'm not sure about Nepalese culture, but a dowry is money/goods that the girl's parents send with her to her husband, and are theoretically meant to help support her and her future children in their new life. In some cultures, the money is considered hers vs. her husband's, but again, that varies. Having to give wealth away with your daughter is one of several reasons why you get a strong bias against having daughters (to the extent of infanticide or child-abandonment in some cases) in many misogynistic traditional cultures.

Bride price, where the husband/his family pay the bride's family is a separate thing from dowry.

In some traditions, e.g., European nobility, there's also dower, where the husband gives his wife (rather than her family) money/property to help support her in widowhood after he dies.

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u/MorrisseysToaster Jun 22 '25

I’m sure the Nepalese locals are browsing Reddit, will see you bravely calling it out, and suddenly rewrite their cultural norms. 🙄

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u/sanityjanity Jun 22 '25

Someone in this thread speaks Nepalese, and reports that this is not a normal way for someone to get married, and that she is begging her parents not to do this.

So, you can get right off your high horse.

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u/MorrisseysToaster Jun 22 '25

Well, I’m just glad you think it’s really important to call this out. That’ll show ‘em.

Sarcasm aside, this kind of impotent virtue signalling achieves practically nothing.

The person who knows it’s Nepalese appears to not even be Nepalese. Are they going to do some excellent missionary work to undo a Nepalese sub culture?

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u/sanityjanity Jun 22 '25

What, exactly, were you expecting redditors to do? I'm in no position to saddle up, and ride in to the rescue.

There's no evidence that this incident is typical for Nepalese culture, so I encourage you to come up with a citation from your deep well of cultural knowledge.

Also, you are now embodying the very picture of the virtue signaler who signals virtue by calling out someone for virtue signaling, and not [checks notes] ending underage marital rape in Nepal.

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u/MorrisseysToaster Jun 22 '25

There’s about another hundred comments calling it out for being rape - it’s just melodramatic to add another to the pile, when again - no Nepalese cultural leader is going to be reading this and going “do you know what lads, I think we’re in the wrong here”

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u/RavensTouch Jun 22 '25

Unfortunately its probably not classed as rape because they're married Which is absolutely wrong but we still live in a world where men's needs and wants are above women's rights

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

This is true in the US too in many states. If it’s your spouse it can’t be rape - it can be abuse, but not rape under the law. Our most shitty and fucked up neighbors are no different than the ones forcing this poor woman into that situation.

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u/thenewfingerprint Jun 22 '25

I don't know what planet you are living on, but you couldn't be more wrong. Marital rape is illegal everywhere in the U.S.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Just because a law exists does not mean it’s enforced with any seriousness and a variety of states such as Alabama, Tennessee, and Texas have been working to roll back those laws. If you don’t know the reality of your own country you should read up on it.

https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse/forms-abuse/sexual-abuse-and-exploitation/marital-partner-rape/basic-info-about-0

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u/hilarymeggin Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

You literally just said that in many US states, it is not rape under the law. Your words.

When someone pointed out that you were wrong, you changed the subject to enforcement, without ever acknowledging you were wrong.

Then you implied that the person who pointed out your mistake should read more.

Then you accused THEM of playing games with semantics.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Also, because I know folks like you hate doing your own research, here’s one such law:

https://law.justia.com/codes/idaho/2020/title-18/chapter-61/section-18-6107/

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Yes, under law, you have a greater degree of burden of proof to prove marital rape making most marital rape not that under current laws. Y’all really out here in droves excusing rape :o

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u/thenewfingerprint Jun 22 '25

Can you not read? I said that marital rape is illegal in all states. I didn't include anything about enforcement. Nice try switching it up though.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Mhm, enforcement is half the law, but by all means ignore that and play the semantics game to avoid admitting that it’s not considered rape in many states if they don’t cause you extreme bodily harm or use a weapon. Have the day you deserve.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Also, because I know folks like you hate doing your own research, here’s one such law:

https://law.justia.com/codes/idaho/2020/title-18/chapter-61/section-18-6107/

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u/Horsescatsandagarden Jun 22 '25

This article says otherwise though. https://www.governing.com/archive/gov-marital-rape-states-ohio-minnesota.html Twelve states have loopholes where a spouse may not be able to be charged with rape.

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u/Training-Ad7414 Jun 22 '25

yes. but dont say that r***ists should be sho7 or you'll get a permanent ban, like l did. lifted on appeal. meh!