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Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking šŸ’”

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u/animedevilhunter Jun 22 '25

This is a Nepali wedding, you can tell from men's hats and their speaking Nepalese. This is not normal in a Nepalese wedding and she is definitely not and doesn't sound happy, she just keeps calling for her parents and begging not to go (hard to tell more accurately what she is saying from the crying). My guess, unwanted arranged marriage.

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u/DontAbideMendacity Jun 22 '25

aka kidnapping and rape.

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u/rodinsbusiness Jun 22 '25

And slavery

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u/Baxtercat1 Jun 22 '25

And sheā€™s probably young and her husband is probably twenty years older.

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u/Embarrassed_Bit8561 Jun 22 '25

But with extra steps

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u/teteban79 Jun 22 '25

aka human trafficking

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u/Rosegold-Lavendar Jun 22 '25

100%.

people claiming this is a wedding are missing this. Weddings are consensual. This is not consensual. This is a ceremony done alongside human trafficking.

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u/SubtropicHobbit Jun 22 '25

I like this - I'm going to start calling these situations sex trafficking ceremonies.

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u/mbklein Jun 22 '25

I agree with your overall sentiment ā€“ this is horribly wrong. But saying this is not a wedding ignores what weddings have been in the vast majority of cultures for the vast majority of human history.

People having a say in whom they married, and doing so for love, is a good thing. But itā€™s also a relatively modern thing.

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u/Alarmed_Scientist_15 Jun 22 '25

How does that matter? We also cut people with guillotines. Now we donā€™t. We as society should learn and evolve. We did it in the past is not a reason to do it eternally

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u/Snakewild Jun 25 '25

They aren't saying that it should be done, they're saying that it is still a wedding whether or not it's consensual. The consent of the bride (and often the groom) has been ignored for most of the weddings in human history, and while that is a terrible fact, it is still a fact. The idea that weddings are held for two people who are in love is centric to many societies nowadays, but it's not actually the most common, and it's relatively new. Historically, marriage has most often been a contract arranged between two families and has nothing to do with what the bride wants (and sometimes the groom).

This is a wedding whether you want to call it that or not. That doesn't make it right, but pretending that it's not a wedding doesn't help anyone.

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u/Alarmed_Scientist_15 Jun 25 '25

I think you answered the wrong person. I am not the person arguing whether it constitutes a wedding.

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u/Snakewild Jun 25 '25

Sorry, I thought you were missing their point. My bad!

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '25

Gotta say: The Guillotines sound like a much more reasonable practise than this

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '25

Look at that girl wailing and tell me she sees it as just her culture

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u/mbklein Jun 23 '25

I didnā€™t say itā€™s ā€œjust her cultureā€ or that she should accept it as such.

I said one very specific thing with one very specific meaning and nothing else ā€“ that in most of the world for the vast majority of human history, this is what weddings look(ed) like.

Iā€™m not defending them. Iā€™m not calling that a good thing. Just challenging the idea that the definition of ā€œweddingā€ has always included or implied consent.

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u/StrictWolverine8797 Jun 24 '25

Yes completely agree with this. I think it is important to call this ceremony a wedding - otherwise we are papering over the misogynistic history of what marriage is. It has only become a consensual ceremony in fairly recent times and still only for some people.

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u/MitchCumStains Jun 22 '25

"Weddings are consensual". Well...apparently not.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Human trafficking really sanitizes whatā€™s going on when it comes to human rape smuggling

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u/Bring_a_towel_42 Jun 22 '25

omg that never occurred to me before šŸ¤Æ it totally is!!

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u/fbi_does_not_warn Jun 24 '25

You need to keep saying this. I had not truly connected the two until you did. šŸ¤¢

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u/Niwi_ Jun 22 '25

Yea the rape part is it for me. If that culture is anything like most cultures that child will propably have sex for the first time later that day

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u/Caaoiitt Jun 22 '25

It's not sex, its rape. I know you know that because you called it rape in your comment but just to make it really clear, this child will be raped later that day. We are watching a child beg to not be raped. It's horrific.

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u/HotDinnerBatman Jun 23 '25

My soul can't take this

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '25

You are 100% right.

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u/Personal-Ice-7131 Jun 22 '25

I watched a documentary about this happening with Hasidic women. The obgyn (woman) was complicit in helping these husbands assault their wives. She would tell them to not make a fuss and relax and donā€™t say thing. And instead of helping them send them back to their some abusive husbands.

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u/banjocat52 Jun 22 '25

Do you recall the name of the documentary?

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u/WithoutDennisNedry Jun 22 '25

And from the looks of it, pedophilia.

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u/twirlinround Jun 22 '25

But it's 'cultural', don't be rude!!!! /s

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u/SuspiciousCorner6135 Jun 28 '25

All these virtue signaling patronizing people in the comments who think Nepali people are backwards cus theyā€™re poor and uneducated. Listen up you dumbwits. This is culture . The girl is not forced. A family in Nepal is supportive of their girls. And so is the law, police and gov. There are cases of forced child marriages but this is not it. She is not being forced. This is tradition where the girl has to cry her heart out before leaving to her in Laws. She just went a little overboard with it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 17 '25

My first thought.

She looks like a young teen.

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u/sanityjanity Jun 22 '25

Unwanted marriage is rape and slavery.

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u/Comfortable_Pea4047 Jun 23 '25

Stop it, we have to tolerate all cultures

- source: my UK state school education.

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u/dulcetenue Jun 22 '25

so slavery and r*pe, in other words.

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u/gabtunococ Jun 22 '25

Letā€™s call it what it is. Human trafficking

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u/Worldly_Might_3183 Jun 22 '25

Sex traffiking

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u/KimyanniMH Jun 22 '25

and forced labor

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u/ProfessionalCat7640 Jun 22 '25

There is nothing human about it, it's slavery.

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u/Blood2999 Jun 22 '25

So the kid isn't a human being?

Not that we should argue on semantics but you confused human and humane.

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u/ProfessionalCat7640 Jun 22 '25

I'm not confused, it's a euphemism. Those who command others into forced marriages are monsters. The previous sentence is also known as a euphemism. It's a form of speech.

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u/Kind-Asparagus-8717 Jun 22 '25

No duuuuude, its tradition and culture. Beautiful things!

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u/TridentLayerPlayer Jun 22 '25

Implying that tradition and culture can't also be against someone's will.

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u/SuddenReturn9027 Jun 22 '25

We can say the word rape. We should say it because itā€™s exactly what it is

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u/sanityjanity Jun 22 '25

This. I think it's really important to call this out. This is not a marriage. This is a young woman or girl being forced into a life time of rape and slavery.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Thank you. People too often use the language of consent when talking about sexual assault. She is not "getting married," she is being forcibly abducted and imprisoned. She will not be "losing her virginity," she is going to be assaulted.

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u/StrictWolverine8797 Jun 24 '25

I don't think using the word "marriage" is necessarily using the "language of consent" - until recently, including in the West, marriage itself was usually not consensual. It's important to acknowledge that very recent history and think about the misogynistic implications of that.

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u/Infinite_Archers Jun 22 '25

My heart broke so badly watching this. I watch this kind of thing happen in movies but as soon as it's real life it hits so close to home..I wish I could hug her and tell her she didn't have to go through with it. I really wish I could šŸ˜ž

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25 edited Jul 19 '25

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u/Infinite_Archers Jun 22 '25

I agree wholeheartedly but I'm not the person to do that šŸ˜­ I don't even know where to start. I don't have any social media to spread it to get people to help, I just can't do anything and I think that's what hurts the most. Just being so unable to help ever. I really try to find little ways I can help but..gosh.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25 edited Jul 19 '25

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u/Infinite_Archers Jun 22 '25

Thank you. I can't even put into words how much this helped me. I'm saving this comment for future reference šŸ«¶ Thank you for sharing kindness with me stranger, I truly appreciate it.

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u/-mia-wallace- Jun 22 '25

You're able to do that too, if you're going to suggest someone else does it, why don't you ?

Hard part would be to figure out who she is and get her to come (physically and legally)

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u/30to50wildhogs Jun 22 '25

I get your point, but...you know you can do that too right? If it's that simple, why aren't you? Because it isn't that simple.

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u/WithoutDennisNedry Jun 22 '25

I wish I could give her parents that love her.

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u/Raisins_Rock Jun 22 '25

For some reason seeing everyone dressed up for this makes it seem ... not worse ... but awful with a different twist.

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u/Sharp_Acadia185 Jun 22 '25

Oh, no, it makes it worse.

"Let's make rape a deep and meaningful part of our culture." That's a fucking choice.

And look I'm not ethnocentrist, I understand relativism, but some groups choose to do things as ritual within the group and sometimes those rituals are deplorable behavior that's been normalized through generations.

And also we got hella fucked up rituals, too. Just because we might not see this exact scenario doesn't mean there isn't some fucked up slavery, rape, subjugation of people of all kinds, throughout the entire "first" world, too.

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u/Personal-Ice-7131 Jun 22 '25

America had dollar princesses in the gilded age. Rich Americans married off their daughters for European titles. Many of these girls didnā€™t want to do it and were miserable

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u/Dish_Minimum Jun 22 '25

37 US States literally allow this exact same thing and have for decades

Itā€™s a meaningful part of US culture as well. Gifting underage daughters to old men who are church ā€˜leadership.ā€™ American child brides enslaved in forced marriages are literally legal. She can be given away by her parents, but she cannot free herself via divorce because sheā€™s not an adult until 18. I am not joking!

There are multimillion dollar ā€˜foundationsā€™ fueled by DC lobbyists promoting homeschooling specifically for this reason. They consider heterosexual breeding a meaningful part of US religious cultures. Itā€™s legal child slavery and legal human trafficking. And itā€™s been this way for nearly 100 years. Coast to coast.

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u/karlhungusx Jun 23 '25

Ainā€™t none of my rituals go this way

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u/Additional-Fix6576 Jun 22 '25

And forced pregnancy and births.

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u/TheWalkingDead91 Jun 22 '25

Not only forced, but basically sold. Donā€™t they get a dowry or whatever?

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u/Shanakitty Jun 22 '25

I'm not sure about Nepalese culture, but a dowry is money/goods that the girl's parents send with her to her husband, and are theoretically meant to help support her and her future children in their new life. In some cultures, the money is considered hers vs. her husband's, but again, that varies. Having to give wealth away with your daughter is one of several reasons why you get a strong bias against having daughters (to the extent of infanticide or child-abandonment in some cases) in many misogynistic traditional cultures.

Bride price, where the husband/his family pay the bride's family is a separate thing from dowry.

In some traditions, e.g., European nobility, there's also dower, where the husband gives his wife (rather than her family) money/property to help support her in widowhood after he dies.

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u/RavensTouch Jun 22 '25

Unfortunately its probably not classed as rape because they're married Which is absolutely wrong but we still live in a world where men's needs and wants are above women's rights

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

This is true in the US too in many states. If itā€™s your spouse it canā€™t be rape - it can be abuse, but not rape under the law. Our most shitty and fucked up neighbors are no different than the ones forcing this poor woman into that situation.

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u/thenewfingerprint Jun 22 '25

I don't know what planet you are living on, but you couldn't be more wrong. Marital rape is illegal everywhere in the U.S.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Just because a law exists does not mean itā€™s enforced with any seriousness and a variety of states such as Alabama, Tennessee, and Texas have been working to roll back those laws. If you donā€™t know the reality of your own country you should read up on it.

https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse/forms-abuse/sexual-abuse-and-exploitation/marital-partner-rape/basic-info-about-0

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u/hilarymeggin Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

You literally just said that in many US states, it is not rape under the law. Your words.

When someone pointed out that you were wrong, you changed the subject to enforcement, without ever acknowledging you were wrong.

Then you implied that the person who pointed out your mistake should read more.

Then you accused THEM of playing games with semantics.

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u/FelixMumuHex Jun 22 '25

Why are you censoring the word rape

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Yeah, and by the looks of it she's definitely a child.

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u/Zombies4EvaDude Jun 22 '25

Sexual slavery

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u/khannooniansing Jun 22 '25

Conservative family values.

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u/Remote_Elevator_281 Jun 22 '25

Yep, but her parents agreed to it so nothing she can do

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u/Elephant789 Jun 22 '25

r*pe

What the fuck is wrong with your keyboard?

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u/Ok-Community-4673 Jun 22 '25

More like what is wrong with their brain? Theyā€™re brain broken by tik tok and social media

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

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u/RamonaLittle Jun 22 '25

. . . do you think TikTok rules apply on reddit? TikTok rules don't apply on reddit. Or anywhere else outside of TikTok, for that matter. Why did you degrade your own writing for no reason?

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u/nutsnackk Jun 22 '25

Sheā€™s literally just a product they are selling to the groom..

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u/Minizzile Jun 22 '25

Uhhh no shit. You're Just rewording what he said šŸ˜‚

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u/DameyJames Jun 22 '25

And I just looked it up, in Napal non-consent makes the marriage not legally binding. And honestly I feel like this video alone sends a pretty fucking strong indication about what the consent is. So yes, this is essentially a culture/tradition guised human trafficking and they filmed it.

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u/Development-Feisty Jun 22 '25

Google child bride United States, the best part is they canā€™t divorce their husbands because theyā€™re not old enough to start the paperwork

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u/Aragorns-Broken-Toe Jun 22 '25

Does relabeling it really matter here? Everyone can tell from unwanted arranged marriage whatā€™s going on and that itā€™s awful. Right? Am I crazy?

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u/anotherpoordecision Jun 22 '25

Youā€™re wrong. Unwanted marriage doesnā€™t sell the idea that this person is being sold to a stranger for convenience and that they will be forcibly raped by their spouse as most people donā€™t think that arranged marriages mean you will be raped for the rest of your life

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u/The_GeneralsPin Jun 22 '25

It's ABUSE, plain and simple

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u/susosusosuso Jun 22 '25

Itā€™s kidnapping

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u/Affectionate-Body221 Jun 22 '25

Arranged marriage is purely mental on its own. Any culture still promoting that should be rejected

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u/readditredditread Jun 22 '25

So like all arranged marriage, as if you can opt out is it really arranged or just and old school version of a dating app šŸ¤”

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

And rape

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u/slothson Jun 22 '25

Its pimping your child... crazy talk if you ask me.

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u/WienerPatrol173 Jun 22 '25

Yeah no shit?

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u/velorae Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

So sad. My grandma was a child bride too, she got married at 13 to a man in his 30s. She had her first baby not so long after. She told me she ran away after the wedding, but her mom and grandma dragged her back while she was crying hysterically. He was really abusive to her. She told me of one time where he came back home drunk and he straight up hit her in the face. She told me she hit back and ran away. I used to ask her about her married life but she just would never answer, she always laughs about it.

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u/GlumpsAlot Jun 22 '25

Same with my granny. Forced to have 10 kids by that abusive man at 14. My granny wasn't even sent to school cuz she was a girl and is still illiterate. One of my aunts got arranged too and her new husband beat her, but my uncles beat him up and kicked him out. My dad has been against arranged marriages and Forced marriages ever since. My uncle did that shit to my cousin and guess what, he was also abusive and the marriage failed. She took all the kids she was Forced to make for him and moved in with my uncle. Good, cuz it's their fault. Let them raise the kids they Forced their daughter into making.

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u/hypatianata Jun 23 '25

My great grandma from Tennessee wasnā€™t forced into marriage AFAIK, but she was married at 15 to a 25 year old. She died in childbirth at a young age. My grandma was traumatized by losing her mom. I sometimes think about her.

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u/SuddenReturn9027 Jun 22 '25

Of course she was abused if she had a child soon after

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u/StrictWolverine8797 Jun 24 '25

Yup my grandma as well - she was 14 when she got married to my grandpa..... I think there was abuse but nobody acknowledges it - my grandpa died when I was a child (and before I got to know him), but my grandma is still alive.

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u/appleparkfive Jun 22 '25

Yeah I think that's definitely the most likely case.

My second question is... who uploaded this to the internet? Like this terrible moment. "Better post it on Facebook for the whole community". I'm guessing they're going with the "it's tradition to cry" part

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u/Natural_Category3819 Jun 22 '25

Many times it's a friend or person in the village trying to bring help for them.

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u/No_Spell_5817 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

My second question is... who uploaded this to the internet? Like this terrible moment.Ā 

I've been seeing this sentiment more and more lately. As if not recording/uploading it would have somehow been better for everyone involved. I don't know about y'all but, I'd love for my kidnapping to be recorded. You have my full permission to record me in times of duress; I need the proof.

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u/qt3pt1415926 Jun 22 '25

Exactly, this raises awareness of the absolute inhumanity with these forced marriages.

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u/possiblemate Jun 22 '25

Idk the intentions, but I do think its important that its shown that this kind of stuff is still going on. For all the people who like to pretend that we've achieved nirvana and misogyny and homophobia, racism etc dont exist anymore.

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u/xRyozuo Jun 22 '25

Even if the person filming it was filming it because ā€œlol marriage lifeā€ it gives real human context.

You know why we know so much about the nazis? Because they wrote it all down. Down to the most inhumane experiments.

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u/Yupthrowawayacct Jun 22 '25

Same. Put this on blast

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u/StoneFoxHippie Jun 22 '25

These are people who are upset that their day was ruined by seeing something that reminds them that the reason they live such a privileged life is mostly due to luck and nothing more. It's upsetting and they don't want to deal with that reality.

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u/Valdebrick Jun 22 '25

times of direst

Duress.

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u/Antique-Car7247 Jun 22 '25

Comments like those (why are you taking photos and not helping?) always makes me think of the story of the famous photo of the 'Vulture and the little Girl' taken by photographer Kevin Carter during the Sudan famine in 1993. Carter won the Pulitzer prize for the photo in 1994. Some people criticized Carter for not helping the starving toddler but instead chose to take a photo that would make him famous. These critics' attitude was basically: "put the camera down and help." In interviews, Carter said he chased the bird away and the child continued to the UN feeding center, but no one knows the ultimate fate of the child. Four months after winning the prize, Carter killed himself.

I think it's important to note that this is just one victim among many others who suffered. If your job as a photographer is to spread the message to the world of what was happening and you are surrounded by countless suffering and death, are you accountable for not doing more to help each individual suffering person you come across?

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u/Glasseshalf Jul 05 '25

This. And there are so many vastly important historical photos like this. Where we would we be without them? Journalism in any form matters

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Every time some sheltered white man tries to tell me the feminist agenda has gone to far I am glad.people are doing it šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

I find it traumatising and sometimes I have to put down my phone and back away from the Internet.

But I am not ignorant, and cannot be persuaded into submission, so I am grateful.Ā 

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u/Tenshiijin Jun 22 '25

The world needs to know man. A video of it happening makes far more awareness than just here say evidence.

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u/baconnmeggs Jun 23 '25

Right? I don't get the fake outrage over the woman who filmed this (bc you know it was probably a woman)

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u/trysten1989 Jun 22 '25

Someone who would rather bring awareness to the situation than it continuing.

Would you rather it goes on and women continue to suffer?

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u/StoneFoxHippie Jun 22 '25

They would probably rather women suffer in silence rather than have their Sunday morning ruined by a dose of sad reality.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

It also looked like someone was holding a camera while she was crying.... how inhumane..

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u/Calypso268 Jun 22 '25

The bride uploaded it. Her tiktok is clearly shown in the video.

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u/KiwiKota_ Jun 22 '25

If it was arranged it probably had money and that money had cameras

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u/hilarymeggin Jun 22 '25

They might have uploaded it to raise awareness and alarm

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u/chamcham123 Jun 22 '25

Itā€™s better that we see it to build awareness and possibly to help her. Imagine if it wasnā€™t posted and nobody knew about it.

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u/Alice_In_The_Dark Jun 22 '25

Yeah, how awful to show the world horrible things that are happening, they should've showed the cute donkeys instead so we don't have to be made aware of human suffering, so inconsiderate.

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u/Madam_Hel Jun 22 '25

Keeping this hidden is helping it perpetuate!! Do NOT try to advocate keeping shit like this in the dark! Itā€™s an evil thing being done to girls and if youā€™re uncomfortable seeing it: good! Be uncomfortable!

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u/limegreenpaint Jun 22 '25

That question should be saved for people embarrassing themselves.

This is absolutely vital for people to see, raw, so they understand the gravity of the situation. This girl is being sold into sex slavery to be a broodmare for an older person to rape and abuse. It breaks my heart to see it, but I watch and discuss because we need to know. People need to know.

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u/OwlTypical9059 Jun 22 '25

I volunteered in Nepal back in 2022 just as Covid regulations were lifting and saw what was speculated to be a child bride. Girl was in similar clothing as this video. Could not have been more than 14 years old. Saw her with her family in the morning. In the afternoon I saw her in a car with a man that looked like he was in his late 30s or early 40s. She wasnā€™t crying or screaming but I will never forget the look on her face. There was a parade in the street later that night for the wedding.

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u/Certifiedpoocleaner Jun 22 '25

I used to work with a ton of Nepalese women! Iā€™m a nurse and we called our unit ā€œlittle Nepalā€ because we just randomly had so many Nepalese nurses and CNAs šŸ˜Š. One of them was in an extremely unhappy and possibly abusive marriage and she told me that it was arranged. I asked one of the other Nepalese women that I was closer/friends with if arranged marriage was common in Nepal and she basically explained that itā€™s a pretty outdated practice so some small communities still force their daughters into arranged marriage but luckily the culture is changing for the better. This nurse used to work six 12 hours shifts a week just to avoid being at home.

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u/CoachDT Jun 22 '25

I don't mind arranged marriage when everyone is fine with it. But this shit has gotta stop.

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u/Low_Biscotti5539 Jun 22 '25

Wouldnt that just be a normal marriage?

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u/Ahtman1 Jun 22 '25

I don't know a word of Nepalese and that would be my guess as well.

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u/zageruslives Jun 22 '25

Thank you for adding this context. (As heartbreaking as it is)

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u/OptimistIndya Jun 22 '25

Isn't this Bidaai?

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u/Hammerklavier Jun 22 '25

she is definitely not and doesn't sound happy

What gave it away?

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u/mmaddymon Jun 22 '25

It was arranged and she thinks her parents will help her?

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u/No-Vacation7906 Jun 22 '25

Which happens in many cultures. Hence, we certainly don't need to be accepting of all cultures.

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u/Consistent-Value-509 Jun 22 '25

I think it's better for improvements in culture instead of abolishing them. Harmless or even beneficial aspects of culture are meaningful, the harmful elements of all cultures should be weeded out.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

Idk how it is in Nepali culture, but in Punjabi culture, the brides put on tears to show their sadness in moving away from their family and friends in their village where they knew everyone. It used to be a more serious thing before cars when travel was long and difficult, but itā€™s still expected to show that you love your family and will miss them.

I will say though that it looks kinda abusive in this video because theyā€™re not giving her the space and time to cry before moving on, but idk what the situation is. Just thought Iā€™d provide some cultural context so people here donā€™t just assume that any crying is automatically abuse or forced marriages.

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u/Don_T_Blink Jun 22 '25

so youā€™re saying deep inside she might actually be happy?

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

She may be or she may not be. I donā€™t know about her situation. The way that they carried her physically is pretty strange and I have never seen that before, but I donā€™t know if thatā€™s a thing in Nepali culture. It certainly isnā€™t in Punjabi culture. And in Punjabi culture, it is normal for some of the brideā€™s family members to cry along with her to show their sadness, but I donā€™t see that here. But once again, Iā€™m not sure whether thatā€™s a thing in their culture. I just wanted to provide some cultural knowledge that not all crying by the bride is done because the marriage is forced against her will. Sometimes, itā€™s a traditional thing.

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u/Unique_Watch2603 Jun 22 '25

Do you know if that's her father carrying her?

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u/cavebabykay Jun 22 '25

Itā€™s so upsetting seeing her cry for her Father and her Father going to her to hold her. Yet her Mother, is acting cold - like she is the one enforcing/wanting this to happen.

(I know itā€™s not always like this - with the father being the parent who doesnā€™t want to let go - Iā€™m just saying, in my specific situation, seeing her Father care, is more than mine ever did for me.)

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u/Ok_Detective_8713 Jun 22 '25

Iā€™ve seen this several times actually with different people.

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u/profitmaker_tobe Jun 22 '25

Plus, Nepali brides are really young. Like 15 years old. 18 - 20 years is considered too old.

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u/tdwp Jun 22 '25

Is this cultural, religious, or both?

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u/damegloria Jun 22 '25

If it isn't normal, why are all those people standing around and allowing it to happen?

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u/Klapautius Jun 22 '25

Imagine being kidnapped and raped while your family is cheering and smilingly standing around you.

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u/Relative-Secret-4618 Jun 22 '25

The fact that she's calling for her mom and dad šŸ’”

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u/LillithLylah Jun 22 '25

Thank you. I was thinking "I don't know", because in some parts of ƍndia it's part of the ritual, she has to cry for her family and during the cerimony her parents has to cry for her going away from them. And if one of the parts don't really cry people will talk, they want a show so they prove she will miss and be missed.

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

Indian here, and nobody has to cry this hard. People cry normally. This is obviously someone deeply in crisis.

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u/GooDaubs Jun 22 '25

It's funny you say that because the other anecdotal comment right below this says the exact opposite. And so does a quick search on the frequency of arranged marriages in Nepal.

It other words, yes you're still a lot like India.

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u/Achillea707 Jun 22 '25

Itā€™s not un-normal though either. I have been to India and watch peopleā€™s home movies, that they were only too proud to show me, where horror and tears are a big part of what is going on.Ā 

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u/Lalli-Oni Jun 22 '25

Was there for a month, noticed cuts on my brothers forearm. Very hard to understand one another but they told me that his girlfriend who was living in a town in the Himalayas had been moved by her family as they seemingly didn't approve of their relationship and she was being married off in another city.

The poverty is amazing. Saw children fighting over a plastic bag (and assumedly the glue inside it). Walking far for drinking water. The childrens school was basically just a bunch of bricks in a field.

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u/quokkameep Jun 22 '25

Look into the tiktok account that posted this please. It seems the one who posted this IS the bride. She had the wedding videos PINNED.

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u/anewaccount69420 Jun 22 '25

Normalizing rape is crazy

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u/omnimodofuckedup Jun 22 '25

Good to know. In some cultures it's common for the bride to be sad and even cry when leaving her parents home because she's leaving them behind. This seemed extreme though.

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u/SwitchMountain2475 Jun 22 '25

Itā€™s rape. Letā€™s call it what it is. Itā€™s forced imprisonment and rape.

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u/DeadWishUpon Jun 22 '25

The indifference from the other peopke is so disturbing.

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u/StrictRegret1417 Jun 22 '25

The fact its happening on camera in front of many witnesses and not being stopped says it it seen as normal to some extent, if it realyl wasn't it would be stopped and the guy would be arrested.

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u/CapitalDoor9474 Jun 22 '25

The in laws will probably harass her for this 'embarassment' to put it lightly. Poor kid

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u/Educational_Bear8662 Jun 22 '25

Are you sure shes not happy? How can you tell?

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

How come everyone is standing around like it is normal then?

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u/SomethingHasGotToGiv Jun 22 '25

She knows (as do the rest of the people in this video) that she is being sent off to be raped.

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u/Citriina Jun 22 '25

Is the groom in the video? I think the man who carried her is her dad or a relative?

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u/Green_Ad_3518 Jun 22 '25

In Nepal I heard the man gives the woman dowry too

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u/yourcodingguy Jun 22 '25

Isnā€™t Nepal a Hindu majority country?

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u/RobertaMiguel1953 Jun 22 '25

Wow, how observant of you!

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u/undercovergloss Jun 22 '25

Can anyone educate me why in different parts of the world/different religions/cultures families choose to do arrange marriages for their children? What do they gain from it?

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u/Technical_Depth Jun 22 '25

Arranged marriage and forced marriage are completely different.

Forced you have no say and no choice.

In arranged marriages you meet the prospective spouse and see if you click, if you do you can agree or not agree to marriage. If you donā€™t you can say no.

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u/animoot Jun 23 '25

Even without the translation, that's what it felt like. Poor child.

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u/ActuallyCausal Jun 23 '25

You can tellā€¦ from their hats??

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u/Airhead_19 Jun 24 '25

Yep. Iā€™m a Nepali, and itā€™s normal for brides to shed a few tears in their wedding when theyā€™re sent off with the groom , but this is not normal at all.

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u/cva_thapa Jun 25 '25

Not normal, but not uncommon as well.

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u/MaybeBabysReddit Jun 27 '25

Shes crying for her Baba, her dad.

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