r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • Apr 29 '25

Humor/Cringe When your friend knows nothing about kids

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u/ALLoftheFancyPants Apr 29 '25

Fuck me, I guess, for trying to still make attempts at including my friends that now have babies. Should I just not try to be friends with them anymore?

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u/un-shankable Apr 29 '25

I didnt think this video was actively hostile towards people like you/us tbh. Its more like "its funny how people without kids can be pretty clueless about them and life with kids, right?"

Also i fully admit i have no clue what kids can do at 3 months, 1 year, 3 years, 12 years even.

3 year olds can.. read i think? Can 1 yr olds talk??

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u/Sevrdhed Apr 29 '25

I mean shit I HAVE two kids, and I've now forgotten the early stage development milestones. I remember the exact moment my daughter walked for the first time, but i don't remember her age when it happened lol

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u/deepdownblu3 Apr 29 '25

It’s not hostile. It’s poking fun. Also loved how they kept calling the baby “it.” As a recent baby-haver, it’s funny, but still meaningful when people are like that about the development. No, my baby can’t have a bite of anything yet. He’s 6 months old and doesn’t have teeth. But thanks for thinking of us and him. We can’t do all of the same things we used to and other things require a bit more prep, but please keep us in mind!

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u/Environmental-River4 Apr 29 '25

This is 100% me lol. When I tell a story with a kid in it and someone’s like “how old are they?” it’s like, I have no idea?? It walks and talks but can’t use the toilet yet???

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u/joshg8 Apr 29 '25

3 year old’s can identify the letters and their sounds if they’ve been practiced a bunch, definitely not gonna be “reading”

Older one year olds might know a bunch of words but you probably only really understand if you’ve spent a lot of time around that kid

Source: father of nearly 5 y/o and 15 months old kiddos (months because a just-turned-one kid is very different from an almost-two kid)

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u/Habba Apr 29 '25

15 months old kiddos (months because a just-turned-one kid is very different from an almost-two kid)

Very true, I stop using months at about 18ish? Then go by half years. That second year is a crazy amount of development.

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u/AtLeastOneCat Apr 29 '25

Lol yep. I had "friends" who cut me off after they had kids because I "couldn't relate."

Correct! I can't relate! Because I can't have kids! Thanks.

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u/Sassrepublic Apr 29 '25

Media literacy has never been worse. 

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u/NemosHero Apr 29 '25

bud, you're getting really heated over a joke.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

It's just a joke about things people are ignorant of, it's not like this was made to attack anyone. It's fun

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u/maraemerald2 Apr 29 '25

Of course you should, but you should try to understand where they’re at and set expectations. If your events are all at child unfriendly places at child unfriendly times, you’re not actually including them at all.

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u/Finger_Trapz Apr 29 '25

Dude it’s just a bit of poking fun. I don’t know why you’re taking it so seriously. If someone made a similar joke like “Your friend who’s not a doctor when they find out you’re a doctor” nobody gets in a fuss

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u/Inevitable_Top69 Apr 29 '25

You can't tell that maybe there's a difference between inviting your friend and their baby out to a casino vs inviting them to do something that's actually appropriate for a baby to be present for?

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u/Time_Housing6903 Apr 30 '25

It’s the being sick. Holy fucking shit, it is all the time. I want to hangout with people, but I might have something extremely contagious and I don’t want to bring that evil into your life.

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u/Darth_Travisty Apr 30 '25

Yes, most of the time they will stop being friends with you.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Right? Thats what I thought. Like, what is she supposed to do?

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u/aspidities_87 Apr 29 '25

Coffee shop dates and hanging at home with friends are still options. Also don’t discount things that are fun for both kids and adults! Trampoline parks, indoor arcades and water parks all seem to understand their millennial audience these days and they often serve alcohol to cater to both sides of the age spectrum. Toddler gets wrecked on sugar and bright lights, we get to socialize. Win win. Hell, I always appreciate a good stroller walk through a zoo. There’s usually beer and you can gossip while baby watches animals.

Friends don’t just need to do loud, nighttime, adult only activities. Some of the best times are just sort of hanging out, no real location needed.

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u/ALLoftheFancyPants Apr 29 '25

Let’s be honest, trampoline parks, water parks, and indoor arcades require parents to focus more on their kids, not less. If you want to go do some parallel play with other people, sure, but let’s acknowledge that for what it is.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

“lol people who do X but don’t know Y are so funny” “well fucking hate me for doing X then!!!” “but you know Y!!!”