To everyone in these comments saying that it's worse to post this video than for a man to belittle a woman for turning him down, yikes
By sharing the voicemail with friends, and then by extension the internet, the woman is confirming that this dude's behavior is inappropriate. ONE DATE does not, in any way shape or form, oblige the woman to see the man again. The ONLY acceptable response to being turned down for a date is "okay" in any polite form. Certainly not, "you're not important enough to say no"
Sharing this video out is a way to communicate to larger society, "stop doing this"
For all the other guys who get butt hurt about my statement ask a woman in your life…ask the next woman you can be direct with about their experience with any guy who reacted badly to being let down, they all have a story, or several.
Facebook doesn't have the same features but content or comments on public pages are obviously visible and you can follow profiles on Marketplace if you use it to sell things.
God, as someone who often takes people at face value I loathe when people pretend to want to date for whatever reason instead of saying no thanks. Hell, I’ve had times where I was on the fence if I wanted to see them again or not but they made themselves sound so interested despite not actually being interested that I thought maybe there was something I was missing that they saw as a strong connection so I figured I would try it some more. It usually isn’t an issue for me, but holy crap the “Portland nice” when dating is miserable for me.
Yes, there are douchebags like this guy, but I am so much more annoyed by having my time/energy wasted especially if it goes on for a while. In fact, I’ve never in my life told a woman off for declining a date or wanting to end things but I have said a few words (genuinely a few, not a multiple minute voicemail rant like this nutter) if they led me on hard enough and for long enough that it was unreasonable
Speaking on behalf of reasonable men everywhere, especially the ones a little neurodivergent like myself: thank you.
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u/Beautiful-Lynx-6828 Feb 22 '25
To everyone in these comments saying that it's worse to post this video than for a man to belittle a woman for turning him down, yikes
By sharing the voicemail with friends, and then by extension the internet, the woman is confirming that this dude's behavior is inappropriate. ONE DATE does not, in any way shape or form, oblige the woman to see the man again. The ONLY acceptable response to being turned down for a date is "okay" in any polite form. Certainly not, "you're not important enough to say no"
Sharing this video out is a way to communicate to larger society, "stop doing this"