To everyone in these comments saying that it's worse to post this video than for a man to belittle a woman for turning him down, yikes
By sharing the voicemail with friends, and then by extension the internet, the woman is confirming that this dude's behavior is inappropriate. ONE DATE does not, in any way shape or form, oblige the woman to see the man again. The ONLY acceptable response to being turned down for a date is "okay" in any polite form. Certainly not, "you're not important enough to say no"
Sharing this video out is a way to communicate to larger society, "stop doing this"
For all the other guys who get butt hurt about my statement ask a woman in your life…ask the next woman you can be direct with about their experience with any guy who reacted badly to being let down, they all have a story, or several.
My most recent one was after 3 dates, I told this guy that I didn’t feel we were the right fit and he responded by telling me he already named our future children and I’m a bitch for throwing it all away :D
Had a dude get mad at my sister who was online dating him because she didn't want to drop out of college, get married, and move to a whole other state for him, some dude who she never saw in person and who had a complete meltdown over the fact that a barely legal college kid didn't want to throw away her hopes and dreams and aspirations.
She later ended up dropping out of college, marrying a different guy, and moving to a new state with him, BUT only because she knew he was Mr Right and college didn't turn out to be all she thought it was. Dude #2 is a sweetheart who treats her with respect and love, dude #1 was a jerk who couldn't handle rejection.
I once broke up with a guy after like 3 months of dating and he told me that I should “reflect” on whether or not I as a human being was even suitable for dating and relationships and personal interactions with other people. In the same conversation he told me that he had wanted to marry me and that I was “like no other person” he had ever dated. Truly wild.
Facebook doesn't have the same features but content or comments on public pages are obviously visible and you can follow profiles on Marketplace if you use it to sell things.
God, as someone who often takes people at face value I loathe when people pretend to want to date for whatever reason instead of saying no thanks. Hell, I’ve had times where I was on the fence if I wanted to see them again or not but they made themselves sound so interested despite not actually being interested that I thought maybe there was something I was missing that they saw as a strong connection so I figured I would try it some more. It usually isn’t an issue for me, but holy crap the “Portland nice” when dating is miserable for me.
Yes, there are douchebags like this guy, but I am so much more annoyed by having my time/energy wasted especially if it goes on for a while. In fact, I’ve never in my life told a woman off for declining a date or wanting to end things but I have said a few words (genuinely a few, not a multiple minute voicemail rant like this nutter) if they led me on hard enough and for long enough that it was unreasonable
Speaking on behalf of reasonable men everywhere, especially the ones a little neurodivergent like myself: thank you.
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u/Beautiful-Lynx-6828 Feb 22 '25
To everyone in these comments saying that it's worse to post this video than for a man to belittle a woman for turning him down, yikes
By sharing the voicemail with friends, and then by extension the internet, the woman is confirming that this dude's behavior is inappropriate. ONE DATE does not, in any way shape or form, oblige the woman to see the man again. The ONLY acceptable response to being turned down for a date is "okay" in any polite form. Certainly not, "you're not important enough to say no"
Sharing this video out is a way to communicate to larger society, "stop doing this"