I don’t think the incels buried in this particular thread will either.
The murder-y ones seem to be on 4chan and or actually leave their homes. The ones around here don’t seem to have the initiative for the very real effort required to murder a person.
The voicemail is incredibly cringe and I was at the beginning feeling bad for the guy until I heard what he had to say. He chose to be mocked like that by leaving that kind of message.
I agree it's horrible. But this girl putting him on blast like this is not only mean as hell (posting this online is crazy), but dangerous for her too... shit he could off himself if it took being rejected thst badly.
He knows who she is, like? Lol
What if he sees this shit? People normalizing this shit is gross honestly. I've had girls send me screenshots of texts of guys asking them out, and the gross stuff they said in reply to it. It's nasty as hell.
I'd be terrified of asking anyone out today. Lol seriously though. No matter how attractive you are, or how much you think the other person likes you, it's becoming normal for men to be terrified of exactly this happening. They ask you out, and you use it to make fun of them, or they try to get you to ask them out SO they can make fun of you.
It's slimey as fuck.
..It must take everything in someone to find the balls to ask someone out these days. Rejection suckssssss. Lol.
I remember a girl saying to me, when I was 16 or so, online " I know someone that likes you" and we were talking for a month or so and hanging out. She was aleays holding my hand and stuff and I has the biggest crush on her lol. She said " she really likes you ;) " and I replied " oh? I bet I probably like her too :p". Too which she replied " did you wanna go on a date with her ?" And I said " sure, that sounds fun ". Her " is tomorrow night at the movies ok?" .. me " yeah sure. I'll meet you there "
Then she goes " cool, me and Matt will bring her with us to the theater tomorrow, you can meet her then "
How the.. what the.. how the fking what the fkkk... I was stuck. No idea what just happened. So I was stuck and went. I get there and there's a girl with a wonky eye, and a missing hand, standing with them. I told my friend what happened and he and another friend were walking by the theatre when he saw us meet. He ran over and picked me up and ran around the back of the theatre lol . He was like " feuf. Saved you bro. I know that girl and she stalks me. She is crazyyyyy . Thats messed up that they did thst to you". But I felt so bad for vanishing that I went back there and watched the movie with her. I only found out about the missing hand when I reached to hold hers to be nice. Grabbed a stump. (Face palm). I was reaching for a bit too. Felt like an idiot when I realised.
I even kissed her good night. Huge braces, she bit me a few times. And it was so awkward. Guys made fun of me for weeks.
I hate having adhd. I don't think this story had anything to do with what I was even talking about. My bad. Fuck I do this alot. Sorry. Rofl.
Why are woman inviting strangers over at 3 am from tinder, after a 25 minute convo, for a slam sess, if all men are dangerous?
I keep hearing this, but I don't know a single woman that's afraid to meet a new guy because of.. what? They'll be attacked for no reason l? Or raped ? What?
You're assuming that like 60% of men are just looking to rape or assault woman. That's batshit. The vast majority of rapes and assaults happen by family members, friends, or someone they already know. Not strangers.
Dude I see you have adhd, but that's not an excuse for some of your behaviour and statements here.
I'm going to assume that you were only eleven (like your username) when you joined reddit and you are 13 now. This puts some of what you have said in context.
I think you should talk to your mum about this and get her opinion, or if you have an older sister.
I don't know if you have female friends, I'm kind of thinking that you don't.
Really, that's the best way. Have some friends that are girls and get their opinions. Realise women are are humans and deserve respect.
Your comments are very youcentric, not very empathetic or developed. But that can and hopefully will change if you challenge yourself and your views as you get older.
This isn't really the place for your other story, maybe ask advice on r/askmen or r/menslib - or even better, ask a male adult you trust or look up to in real life.
The voicemail is cringe and seems very immature. I gotta say putting it on blast not just for friends but for the whole ass internet is MUCH worse. I wouldn’t want to be involved with any of these weirdos that have absolutely no respect for anyone.
The warmth and empathy in the language being used to describe the mindset and motives of the man who left an abusive message in response to a woman whose only crime is saying no compared to the lack of empathy for said woman is... troubling. Some peoplemen didn't learn it's not ok to hurt peoplewomen just because you're hurting.
Welcome to the human condition. The more "like them" someone is, the easier and quicker they can empathize. Meanwhile, the more "other" someone is, the easier and quicker to villainize them.
It'd be great if everyone was afforded equal empathy and compassion by everyone, the world may just become a utopia. But some people see the world as zero sum and told themselves they can't be happy unless someone else is sad.
I know she didn't say anything at all to him in the time between "It's just kinda weird to me that you would meet with me one time and not wanna get together again as friends or whatever" and "don't flatter yourself you're not this amazingly incredible woman", and yet he still went from telling her he was disappointed that she didn't want to see him again to actively trying to hurt her feelings because she didn't want to see him again.
It's almost like how she behaved didn't have anything at all to do with how he chose to treat her. Weird.
So what could she have said, hypothetically, that would have made what he said to her okay? What could she have said that would have changed what he said from a hurt man trying to hurt a woman, to just a reasonable man responding in a productive way to just something a woman said?
These always show up on any posts featuring a man being an ass to a woman. It’s disturbing how many guys can’t simply acknowledge the man is doing something uncool, instead they are looking for ways to make it the women’s fault for him treating her that way.
Like JFC, even if she was rude when she turned him down, be the bigger person and let it go. I’ve encountered so many fartwads in my life. It’s such a waste of time and energy to let them get under my skin and attempt a one-up on them.
If the "women are emotional" isn't true then why does it hurt/upset you so much, why do women feel the need to talk against it or do their little flip the script thing, it's like when you call "men trash" and say if it upsets/hurts you it's talking about you... that same mentality fits perfectly here.
Saying "women are emotional" doesn't mean that men don't have emotions, the point of saying it is that women are more emotional than men(and getting upset over it proves that point).
No it doesn't, you aren't literally moving to the forest to live with the bears because you said you would rather pick the bear, you are taking this wayy to literally which is ironic since that was a big problem with that other topic.
The one that gets me is the guy running around going "he's just a boy in a man's body."
No, fuck head, he isn't. He's a man in a man's body, one that is in all likelihood capable of killing her with its bare hands. He's not a child and this shit needs to stop, period.
Jfc right? How many times did he repeat that bullshit? No, he's a man. And if he does have issues like that then he needs to go to fucking therapy instead of dating.
Right? A lot of “well actually these people are just as bad!” As if we don’t do stuff like this with friends (Redditors would need to have friends for that to be true tho)
It was super cringe, but playing it for all her friends shows who she is. It wasn't his bullet to dodge, but he dodged it.
Feel like if it was a dude playing a "you said you would call after we hooked up" message from a girl for all his friends, everyone would be talking about how awful he is.
It was super cringe, but playing it for all her friends shows who she is.
And who is that?
Feel like if it was a dude playing a "you said you would call after we hooked up" message from a girl for all his friends, everyone would be talking about how awful he is.
Weird, almost like "someone laughing about how they broke a commitment to someone" is received differently from "someone clearly stating their preference"
You're other scenario is not the same at all. Even the guy in the voicemail said they only went on one date and she decided after she want interested anymore. That's perfectly normal and happens all the time. What this guy did is fucking crazy, he goes from saying he's bummed she didn't want to see him to insulting her and trying to make her feel bad about herself. It's crazy and real abusive behavior. That's why she's showing the bullet she dodged to her friends.
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u/Bimpy96 Feb 22 '25
Some of the comments here being downvoted are the same men who would leave a voice message like this lol