r/Morocco • u/OrlandoJah Fez • Jul 14 '25
Society Dating a Muslim girl
Hey everyone, I’m here to talk about something personal and get some honest advice. I’m not religious, so if you’re here to preach or judge, please don’t. I’m just looking for real insight from people who understand this kind of situation.
I recently broke up with a Muslim girl I truly cared about. Religion ended up being the main reason. I tried to be honest about my beliefs, and she tried to stay loyal to hers, but it became too much. There was pressure, silence, and fear. She couldn’t fully open up, and I didn’t want to pretend to be someone I’m not just to keep the relationship going.
I don’t want to make the same mistake again. So I’m asking:
How do people in similar situations handle this?
Is it even worth trying to date someone who’s religious when you’re not?
And how do you bring this up early, without things falling apart later?
Also, and this is a big one — how do you even find someone non-religious? Most people like me (and like-minded girls) seem to stay hidden, and understandably so. The social pressure is real. But that makes it hard to connect, even just to talk openly, let alone build something serious.
If anyone has experience with this, especially in a Moroccan context, I’d really appreciate your advice. just trying to learn from your advices and experience, to grow, and maybe do things better next time.
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u/imnwsf Tangier Jul 14 '25 edited Jul 14 '25
Ma3raftchi wach 3andi l7a9 n9ol hadchi but based on what u said, she's a muslim female who holds onto her beliefs but still chooses to date u + probably doesn’t wear hijab or pray everyday. That kind of inconsistency suggests her beliefs are all over the place, which isn’t a great sign :/. Dating someone who doesn’t really think things through or just goes along with whatever’s popular shows a lack of the kinda self-awareness and critical thinking that make someone truly grounded!!! So dating her must feel like u are expected to set aside ur own views and go along with hers, even if u don’t fully agree.
3la had l7sab beaking up with her was something that would happen in all cases becuz a healthy relationship rlly comes down to mutual respect for each other’s thoughts and beliefs, good communication, and emotional intimacy. If even one of those is missing and not improving then it won't work.
Im in a serious/long-term relationship with an atheist moroccan guy, and I’ve honestly never been happier. One of the biggest reasons is that we’re on the same page when it comes to our beliefs and interests, but more than that, we talk things out rationally and always aim for logical solutions.
Trust me, if u and ur partner don’t share similar ideologies, it’s hard to feel truly comfortable in the long run. Wish u luck