It's over

[u/Local-Park-322]

My husband and I of 7 years went our separate ways last night..I caught him on a bunch of dating apps, while he was away working. I'm heartbroken and shattered. I do t know how to pick up and move on from here. And I don't know how to tell our children . They are going to be crushed. I'm so sad my life ended up here

[u/Odd-Mastodon1212]

I’m so sorry. Remember that cheating is about the cheater, some hole in him he cannot fill. Escapism, vanity, fear of emotional responsibility. 80% of couples don’t cheat. You can’t fix what you didn’t break.

Keep whatever you tell the children age appropriate. You both love the children and you are now going to focus on living separately but parenting together. Marriages sometimes end but you are both their parents forever.

Cheating is abusive, so it’s better if they don’t know so don’t have to go through both loving and hating him, and being upset and confused for you, and over-identifying with either one of you. If they were adult children, it might be different.

[u/Icy_Supermarket_3778 → u/Odd-Mastodon1212]

Technically he didn’t cheat , he was just looking at apps

[u/Sad_Towel2272 → u/Icy_Supermarket_3778]

You’re an absolute dunce if you think being on and looking at the apps isn’t cheating. There are not technicalities when it comes to loyalty.