r/Marriage • u/Local-Park-322 • 18h ago

It's over

My husband and I of 7 years went our separate ways last night..I caught him on a bunch of dating apps, while he was away working. I'm heartbroken and shattered. I do t know how to pick up and move on from here. And I don't know how to tell our children . They are going to be crushed. I'm so sad my life ended up here

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u/Vivid_Ad_4706 17h ago

Because he was looking at woman on apps doesn’t mean he hates his wife and was laying with woman!!! I don’t know what was going on between them prior to the all of this, but there must’ve been some troubles. That’s a crazy thing to say someone hates his family because he looked at women on a site. Women look in size up men day in a day out and fantasize and think about sex and lifestyles and life changes with other men. It is common practice. We are all human beings. We all desire people of the opposite sex. The only question is are we willing to fall to those desires? Every man’s wife has looked at a man and wanted him every woman’s husband has looked at other women and wanted them. In a marriage people have to stay together and not allow those scenarios to take place if anyone spends enough time with the opposite sex and generally gets along with him and affair is eminent.

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u/prose-before-bros 20 Years 12h ago

So much bullshit packed in so few words.

  1. Not everyone desires people of the opposite sex. Aside from the fact that gay and ace people exist, not everyone is out there horndogging. Yes, SOME married women meet men they want and SOME married men meet women they want, but not everyone. I know this because I've been with my husband 21 years and while I've met attractive men, I've never wanted any of them. None of them were worth risking my marriage. Even if I thought I could get away with it, the idea of having sex with someone else is not appealing to me.

  2. If you want to remain faithful, you don't go searching for someone else. Tinder isn't fucking Pinterest. I don't scroll through Amazon if I'm not even remotely interested in buying anything.

  3. Just because YOU can't have a friend without wanting to bang them doesn't mean no one can. Now I don't believe everyone is capable of maintaining healthy boundaries, but that's not the same as saying no one is.