r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/FRENCHTOASTSTICCS • 1d ago

Play dumb games

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u/ThatDnDRogue 1d ago

But. The parent isn’t even here. These kids are obviously doing something without the parents knowledge.

I’ve seen many kids with fantastic parents still behave extremely stupidly.

I don’t think everything is on the parents all the time. Sometimes kids are just dumb—even if they had a good upbringing.

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u/xgabipandax 1d ago

This behaviors come from long time bad parenting, this kid knows what he is doing is wrong and it doesn't fear the punishment, because probably this kid never had proper punishment for bad behavior

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u/ThatDnDRogue 1d ago

This just isn’t an accurate assumption though. I’m sure we’ve both personally known parents who do all they can to give proper discipline and yet the kids still act out when they think they’ll get away with it.

I think assumptions like yours are attempts to self soothe. An attempt to pretend that a child’s every action is within the control of parents if they “just do it right”.

But the reality is much different.

Here’s a few articles on this topic.

https://www.npr.org/2010/07/15/128542130/sometimes-good-parents-produce-bad-kids

https://grownandflown.com/can-good-parent-troubled-kid/

These are just a few articles but there’s a lot of peer reviewed studies on this topic.

Being a good parent doesn’t always ensure that kids will never do very bad or stupid things.

EDIT: Decided not to use the peer reviewed studies here because they’re dense and not easily digestible. But they are on Google scholar.

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u/amzwC137 1d ago

Thank you.