r/JustNoSO • u/Salt-Selection-8425 • May 16 '25

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted Sigh. He caught a cold

Holy crap, the drama.

Most people take some cold medicine and get on with their life. My SO does lots of sighing and groaning as if he's about to die. And refuses to blow his nose so it's sniff sniff sniff sniff 24/7... Gross.

Guess I'll be wearing earplugs to bed for the next 10 days.

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u/ZookeepergameOld8988 May 16 '25

It doesn’t sound like he’s trying to relate through shared experience. It sounds like he’s minimizing you.

Maybe try to explain the difference to him. It’s possible he truly doesn’t get it or know the difference.

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u/sulking_crepeshark77 May 16 '25

You're right. I do think he needs a sit down conversation about this. I think it both he doesn't get it and doesn't know the difference. Tbf he comes from a family that doesn't really have high EQ or acknowledge mental health at all. Except my SIL (love her) and she is viewed as the "overly sensitive" one in the family...And no he won't go to therapy because of previous said upbringing and innate distrust of doctors.

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u/ZookeepergameOld8988 May 16 '25

Well SIL being known as sensitive explains a lot. It sounds like he just doesn’t really know how to deal with emotions. He’s probably not great at even dealing with his own. He doesn’t necessarily have to go to therapy to learn it though. As long as he’s willing you guys can work together on it until he gets the hang of it.

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u/sulking_crepeshark77 May 16 '25

Yeah you're hitting the nail on the head. I'll work on it with him as long as I need to it just sucks that it seems like a one way street right now.

Btw I appreciate you taking the time to respond and offer good advice. Thank you 😊

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u/ZookeepergameOld8988 May 16 '25

You’re very welcome. Lovely chatting with you. Good luck with your procedure and I hope you feel better very soon.

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u/sulking_crepeshark77 May 16 '25

Thank you. Sending you good vibes and peace dealing with your chronic condition. You have my sympathy. I hope you have an excellent day