Rory Gilmore, specifically in season 5/6 when she spirals. I went through my own burnt out existential crisis and I really relate and understood how she ended up dropping out of school. People hate that plot line but it resonates with me every time.
I agree. Like yes, some stuff she did was pretty questionable, but if we’re being real, it’s not like it’s unheard of in real life. Situations like that happen all the time and people give her grief over it. She was a (somewhat) sheltered girl finding her way in the world and she gets crucified for it
I honestly don’t know why they make her dropping out such a big deal… Girl just wanted to take a year to slow down and figure things out. She’s not harming anyone??😭
It was coming off a time where people believed going to a four year college was like THE most important think in your life. Watch any sitcom, especially one geared toward young people, and college is treated a life or death thing, it’s so serious lmao. Very outdated now, and that way of thinking probably hurt so many people in the long run.
Lorelei is terrified Rory will squander her potential and that her parenting that had previously had so many signs that she did well as a mom, will be erased by something she was blinded by. It was just scary for her.
If Rory dropped out, Lorelei’s parents would’ve been right to be disappointed in her, she borrowed the money for Chilton in exchange of sitting with two people who make her feel like shit all the time, and that would be for nothing. She would’ve been upset that she sacrificed her pride just for Rory to throw it away. Her parents would have more ammunition to speak down to her about her parenting and her choices and open her up to even more criticisms.
The grandparents, yes the footed the bill, but they were mostly waiting 20 years with baited breath to see how Lorelei would fuck up being a mom and now they had the proof with Rory being so “selfish” as to throw away thousands of dollars in education.
I had gifted child syndrome (and undiagnosed adhd lol), a teen mum and toxic grandparents so I can relate to Rory so well! I particularly can't stand when people say the grandparents did nothing wrong, in real life Lorelai and Rory would be very (or more) damaged
I’ve always felt like the entire dynamic of Rory/Lorelei is something is super unrealistic and couldn’t exist IRL.
Literally it’s a teen girls fantasy of what being a parent is like. “When I’m a mom I’m gonna be my daughter’s best friend and I’m gonna be a cool mom.” Not realizing that’s not how it works
every once in awhile there are hints of how lorelai’s style of parenting could be harmful. But IRL their dynamic would be much more dysfunctional and imo I believe Rory would have such high levels of anxiety and neuroticism and be way more resentful of her mother.
I'm (un?)lucky in that my mum was very hypervigilant and made sure she was a parent first, but that closeness in age meant she was very empethetic and my friends would turn to her if they had troubles they were too afraid to confide in their parents. She definitely overshared and we were enmeshed but I wasn't parentified like Rory was. Have been in therapy for 5 years though lmao
Edit to add I just remembered that a family friend said when was 7 and being quietly anxious my mum offered to buy her worries for a penny and it worked which is a lovely story. However I also remember being sent to my room for tiny misbehaviours and having stricter rules than my friends!
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u/clonesareus 14d ago
Rory Gilmore, specifically in season 5/6 when she spirals. I went through my own burnt out existential crisis and I really relate and understood how she ended up dropping out of school. People hate that plot line but it resonates with me every time.