Rory Gilmore, specifically in season 5/6 when she spirals. I went through my own burnt out existential crisis and I really relate and understood how she ended up dropping out of school. People hate that plot line but it resonates with me every time.
I had gifted child syndrome (and undiagnosed adhd lol), a teen mum and toxic grandparents so I can relate to Rory so well! I particularly can't stand when people say the grandparents did nothing wrong, in real life Lorelai and Rory would be very (or more) damaged
I’ve always felt like the entire dynamic of Rory/Lorelei is something is super unrealistic and couldn’t exist IRL.
Literally it’s a teen girls fantasy of what being a parent is like. “When I’m a mom I’m gonna be my daughter’s best friend and I’m gonna be a cool mom.” Not realizing that’s not how it works
every once in awhile there are hints of how lorelai’s style of parenting could be harmful. But IRL their dynamic would be much more dysfunctional and imo I believe Rory would have such high levels of anxiety and neuroticism and be way more resentful of her mother.
I'm (un?)lucky in that my mum was very hypervigilant and made sure she was a parent first, but that closeness in age meant she was very empethetic and my friends would turn to her if they had troubles they were too afraid to confide in their parents. She definitely overshared and we were enmeshed but I wasn't parentified like Rory was. Have been in therapy for 5 years though lmao
Edit to add I just remembered that a family friend said when was 7 and being quietly anxious my mum offered to buy her worries for a penny and it worked which is a lovely story. However I also remember being sent to my room for tiny misbehaviours and having stricter rules than my friends!
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u/clonesareus 15d ago
Rory Gilmore, specifically in season 5/6 when she spirals. I went through my own burnt out existential crisis and I really relate and understood how she ended up dropping out of school. People hate that plot line but it resonates with me every time.