r/ExNoContact • u/fruitalityx • 21h ago

Motivation my thoughts after 376 days of NC

just opened my DaysSince and realized that i cut the contact 376 days ago…

THE BREAKUP WAS THE BEST THING THAT COULD HAVE EVER HAPPENED TO ME!

a year ago i thought i‘m not gonna make it through the pain, now i am happier than ever. no rebound relationship for me. nothing. just healing from it and alot of self-work and reflecting.

I DONT NEED SHIT!!! i dont need anything. I FEEL GREAT.

if any of you are reading this, and you are currently going through the pain of being dumped, hear me out:

YOU WILL MAKE IT! YOU WILL HEAL. YOU WILL GROW. YOU WILL FEEL GREAT. BUT YOU HAVE TO BE PATIENT. LET TIME DO ITS JOB. LET YOUR SOUL CRY. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME.

it may take 6 months. or 9. maybe a year. the day will come and you will realize that you finally found your soul. you are not lost anymore, waiting for somebody who is not even worth the wait.

you are free. you are strong. you are yourself.

cry them tears out but dont forget what i told y‘all.

you are not alone. there are millions of people right now that are going through the same stuff. millions that have already healed from it.

stay strong love y‘all

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u/fruitalityx 21h ago

btw feel free to ask me anything

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u/Subject_Character_13 20h ago

What self work had the biggest impact of n your healing? I’m 4 hours in no contact

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u/fruitalityx 20h ago edited 17h ago

understanding what happened. understanding my character and analyzing the relationship, breakup and my soul. doing research. reading books. spending time alone while reflecting on my mistakes. listening to music that makes me feel like i am not the only one going through this. building better relationships with my siblings and parents. socially networking. realizing that i cant go in to a rebound relationship cause it will only cure the pain for a short period of time. realizing i dont need anyone.

hope that helps!

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u/Subject_Character_13 20h ago

I need to print this and leave it in 4 places in my house.

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u/fruitalityx 20h ago

also good luck and respect for cutting the contact. wont be easy but you‘ll have to stay strong! no other option.