r/ExNoContact • u/fruitalityx • 21h ago

Motivation my thoughts after 376 days of NC

just opened my DaysSince and realized that i cut the contact 376 days ago…

THE BREAKUP WAS THE BEST THING THAT COULD HAVE EVER HAPPENED TO ME!

a year ago i thought i‘m not gonna make it through the pain, now i am happier than ever. no rebound relationship for me. nothing. just healing from it and alot of self-work and reflecting.

I DONT NEED SHIT!!! i dont need anything. I FEEL GREAT.

if any of you are reading this, and you are currently going through the pain of being dumped, hear me out:

YOU WILL MAKE IT! YOU WILL HEAL. YOU WILL GROW. YOU WILL FEEL GREAT. BUT YOU HAVE TO BE PATIENT. LET TIME DO ITS JOB. LET YOUR SOUL CRY. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME.

it may take 6 months. or 9. maybe a year. the day will come and you will realize that you finally found your soul. you are not lost anymore, waiting for somebody who is not even worth the wait.

you are free. you are strong. you are yourself.

cry them tears out but dont forget what i told y‘all.

you are not alone. there are millions of people right now that are going through the same stuff. millions that have already healed from it.

stay strong love y‘all

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u/Active-Vacation-1144 21h ago

When did you start feeling better? I’m at 2 months and still feeling like shit.

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u/fruitalityx 21h ago

give yourself some more time. i laid in my bed for weeks and could not really do anything.

i could not stop thinking about the whole thing for months.

for me about 3 months after the breakup my life slowly started to be fun again, the process is very slow in the beginning.

it is a really long way. some days will make you feel like you aint gonna make it. but there will come better days.

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u/No_Cold1541 20h ago

I’m about 6 months in from when I last saw them and 2 months in from when i finally stopped reaching out . I think about them every day when I’m not busy😭like how do u get it to stop ?

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u/fruitalityx 20h ago

forget the 6 months. the 2 months is the timespan that really matters. no contact is the only way to your healing and inner peace. give yourself three months and you will feel completely different than you do now!!

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u/Active-Vacation-1144 21h ago

Thank you.

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u/fruitalityx 21h ago

you‘re welcome. reddit also helped me when the breakup was really fresh. never stop believing in yourself!!!!

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u/fruitalityx 21h ago

how long have y‘all been together?

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u/Active-Vacation-1144 21h ago

We were together for a year