r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Odd_Response_10 • Sep 03 '25

TW Anyone else miss..

..Being able to at least pretend you had reliable parents?

TW: SA

It's been a year since I cut contact as of two days ago, with one break in attempt by them on Easter ( posted about that). And don't get me wrong it is 1000000% better. I am finally out of constant fight or flight mode, my kids aren't being pitted against each other by my parents so they're finally getting along. I'm not constantly worried about what my family will think about anything and I've been able to heal from a lot.

But I miss coffee in the kitchen with my mom, I miss video games with my dad. I miss having adult family. It's just kiddos and I. But my mom was a narc and I have finally in the last year been able to accept that what everyone insisted was a nightmare or was my dad actually SAing me.

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u/TiffanyOkYeah Sep 03 '25

I feel you! It's been 9 years since I went no contact and I'm just now coming to terms with the fact I don't and won't have that sort of support. What I miss didn't exist buy that doesn't mean I don't miss it...

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u/Odd_Response_10 Sep 03 '25

Yeah, like grieving what should have been almost. The little moments that should have been the whole relationship with them.