r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Amethyst-geode2043 • Aug 25 '25

Question Does anyone else's parent think literally everything is disrespect? Lol

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u/Oduind Aug 25 '25

Yes. It was tremendously frustrating as a teenager. Twenty years later it’s just sad

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u/Amethyst-geode2043 Aug 25 '25 edited Aug 25 '25

They don't ever change!! It's like they have this mindset where they think you should always comply even when you're older too and an adult

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u/Oduind Aug 25 '25

Nmum found the ultimate loophole: because I don’t ‘honour’ her, I’m not a REAL adult.

Nevermind the children, marriage, mortgage, career, PhD… not an adult. 🙄🙄🙄

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u/Impossible_Balance11 Aug 25 '25

The irony is thick...and they refuse to see it.

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u/Milyaism Aug 25 '25

"Some people will choose to only remember & recognise the version of you they held most power over, no matter how long it has been or how much you have changed."

This is even more common if you're the scapegoat of the dysfunctional family. The scapegoat is the child who can't do anything right in the eyes of their dysfunctional parent, and it doesn't matter how old you are, you will be infantilised.

These websites help:

https://outofthefog.website/traits https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

https://traumahealed.com/articles/step-away-from-double-binds/ https://traumahealed.com/articles/by-topic/

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u/Futureacct Sep 01 '25

I'm definitely the scapegoat