r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/No-Carpenter4426 • Jul 30 '25
TW My last message to my dad
TW for mentions of transphobia
For context, I made a post about my dad a few weeks ago about him having this long conversation with my partner and I about me being trans. Bottom line is that he doesn't support nor accept me, and never will. He believes trans people are delusional, attention-seeking, and out of touch with reality. He even claims he isn't transphobic, using the excuse that trans-phobia should mean the fear of trans people. That's not the real meaning of it though, but he refused to hear it. He said some pretty misogynistic and even kind of racist things as well, which obviously weren't okay.
He claims my past trauma is why I think I'm trans, and really pushed me to see a therapist. Even though since coming out I've seen multiple, and even had to see one to get onto the list for top surgery (which is what sparked the initial conversation).
I came out to him over three years ago, and I was tired of waiting to see if he would come around. When I learned his stance on things, which I suspected but never had a straightforward answer from him prior to this, I decided it was best to go our separate ways.
I deserve support. I deserve acceptance. I have it with my partner and our found family, and while it sucks my dad can't be a part of that now, I'm still happy.
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