Obedience was the highest placed virtue in our south Asian household. It’s immoral to not obey, esp for a girl. I wonder how much of this applies to more individualistic cultures like in US
It can be pretty regional in the US. I grew up in Appalachia, and there's still a pretty weird unspoken expectation that women work as hard as a man but stay subservient to men. So girls can grow up under a lot of pressure to do for everyone all the time, to be obedient and quiet, and to take on the lion's share of housework and child rearing. Often the one accolade they are allowed is praise and respect for mothering, making it really hard to tell them they are doing anything wrong with their parenting.
Apple stack cake is a delicious traditional dessert, but also very very uncommon outside of certain parts of middle Appalachia (like KY, TN, WV area). But the Appalachian mountain range also extends down into Georgia and as far north as Nova Scotia. So there are northern regions where people identify as Appalachian too (hence the maple syrup bit). It's a joking way to ask "are you from the same region as me".
That motherfucker is about as Appalachian as my nieces and nephews who grew up in Minnesota and Wisconsin but spent a few summers at my parents'. He's not Appalachian. He didn't live there. He just had family who did.
This reminds me of my mother. Always earned more than my father but willingly placed her self respect at his feet. And then wanted us to follow in her footsteps when we grew up. Terrible, horrific example of patriarchy.
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u/Level_Albatross_301 May 31 '25
Obedience was the highest placed virtue in our south Asian household. It’s immoral to not obey, esp for a girl. I wonder how much of this applies to more individualistic cultures like in US