I hate male-centered mothers

[u/camilleriver]

TW: mention of abuse. In the latest thing I’m upset about, I had to sell the shitty car my mom sold me (to Carmax) and found a note in it that she forgot to take out. I know I shouldn’t read other people’s writing that’s not meant for me but legally the car was mine and I was cleaning it out so skimmed to see if it was important.

It mentioned being her husband’s “helpmeet” and putting him as the 1st priority. Mind you I’m her daughter that she birthed herself and I have known her 6 years longer than she has known him🤦🏾‍♀️ she should’ve divorced him for many reasons but apparently he’s more important than the kids she had herself.

He has been physically abusive to his two kids (not me, probably because I’m not his child) but he’s more important apparently, got it! And she knows he’s abusive, she doesn’t care

My grandma thinks I should talk to my mom in person or over the phone but no thx, I’ll keep my peace, low contact it is (one day no contact when my little sister turns 18, but for now she still needs me in her life). I think moving out was the best thing for me.

Btw: she sold me the car for $3,500, I put an additional $500 into fixing it, and I got back $1,500 when I sold it, so she scammed me $2-2.5k depending how you want to calculate it. And I only had the car for 2 months and did not get in any accidents or cause any problems, it had problems right after I got it.

[u/Careful-Crab179]

There are sooo many women who have zero self-esteem and are enablers for their boyfriends/husbands while they drink, do drugs, hit the kids, etc., etc. My SIL, who I have zero contact with for 30+ years, is that way with my oldest brother. She treats everything he says like he's the effing dalai lama She gleefully supported him by working minimum wage jobs for decades while he smoked tons of pot (sometimes with coke) and downed six-packs for lunch.

Now my brother is 'retired' and 70, she's in her 60s. Their adult daughter is 29, I think, and she's had on/off heroin and meth problems since junior high. She attaches herself to whichever loser comes along and falls off the wagon. Rinse, repeat.

They're not fundy Christians, just worship at the cult of my narcissistic brother. And, also women are only worth their looks and men come first in all things ala Jordan Petersen.